Hi there. Mine was an AVM two and a half years ago. Incredably, incredably lucky with the outcome. However I felt very fit after a couple of months except for the fatigue and sleep disruption, which took about a year to settle down.
Until I got used to being well again, every headache was a 'oh no, here we go again', and once pulled a muscle in my neck, right near my AVM pain. One of the hardest things was to tell my wife, being hugely aware of what I'd put her through only a few months before.
Fortunately retired so return to work not an issue. I would have really struggled with the fatigue, and also from much stronger emotions -I cry at the drop of a hat - and anxiety that I still carry.
I knew I'd been unlucky, but then so, so much luckier in recovery, and we just had to be very patient.
Keep talking to each other to go over and share all the fears
Clive