hi all,
thanks so much for the feedback so far, as I am sure you can all relate, it means so much that it made some kind of sense to some of you, as we all know to well, trying to explain this sort of stuff to people can be so hard and often leaves me more confused than when I started, let alone the poor person on the receiving end! I wanted to get a quick posting in now to say to Lin Lin that I did send you a private message to see if you might want to meet up for at some point as I work in Neath so message me back if you would be interested. And Raine I found your words really heartfelt, helpful and touching and there is clearly something about SAH's and van keys! I was surfing when I had my SAH and my van keys were hidden in my van, the family never found them and thought they were going to have to tow the van out the beach car park to avoid a months worth of parking fees until my housemate found the spare set sometime later and sent them down. At one point they were joking about asking the doctor to bring me out of my induced coma for long enough to ask me where I had hidden the bl**dy keys! Thankfully they did turn up which was good but unfortunately they didn't also unlock the 'old Neil'!