Hi,
My husband Ross, aged 40, had his SAH in the early hours of Christmas day 2012, on a scale of 1- 5, his was a grade 1.
I know I'm extreamly fortunate to even have him here still with me, and 3 months on he has just started to go back to work. Unfortunately he his a self-employed kitchen fitter so things have been difficult 1) without his wages and 2) his job entails lots of heavy lifting.
I think because it was low graded bleed, and to see him and talk to him, he is completely normal, I almost forget that thinks could be so different and he is a different man than he was before.
We have been together for 22 years, married for 14 and have had a excellent relationship, until today, we have had a big argument which has been brewing up all weekend. I have been so upset to hear him say he wishes he was dead. That the constant headache is driving him insane.
Basiclly, I know it's still early days, but have any other carers got any good tips on how to cope with my un-certainty, my fears and general day to day life.
I know i'm not the victim in this, but help in being brunt of the black moods would be appreciated.
I don't know how i can help him when i feel so low aswell.