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Chelle C

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About Chelle C

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  1. Chelle C

    Road trip?

    Hi Valene welcome to BTG, I was only out of hospital 3 weeks when I took a 2 hour journey to our holiday home, I have to admit it was a really difficult journey and we made 3 stops on the way, I know 2 hours doesn't sound very long but I was totally wiped out and very dizzy when we arrived at our destination. I did ask the medical team if it was ok for me to travel and they did say It depended on how I was feeling and to make sure I took any information I was given on my discharge from hospital with me, which I did. I don't have children so I can't really comment on that side of things but I did spend nearly all of the 2 weeks sleeping, I really wished I hadn't gone but I didn't want to spoil it for my partner after all he had been through a very stressful time too. Like Sub's said your body and brain need time to heal and it does take a long time, you may feel that because you are there you have to join in with everything that is going on, when you really don't feel up to it, will you be able to rest if and when you need to, these are all things to take into consideration when you make your decision, if you do decide to go the advice Chris has given you about getting the teens to do packing and the strenuous stuff is a great idea, just make everyone concerned aware that you have to still take things slowly and will need lots of rest. Good luck with whatever you decide to do, just be kind to yourself. Love Michelle xx
  2. Chelle C

    My flight adventure

    Lovely photo Louise, So pleased all went well for you and you managed to spend some time with family member's, the last few lines of your post made me cry. I know it's not the same as blood family but you are very much loved by all of us at BTG. Love Michelle. Xx
  3. Chelle C

    Fatigue and memory

    Hi Tara, Welcome to BTG, sorry to hear that your mum has suffered SAH, it must have been very traumatic for you, especially having this happen while on holiday. The fatigue that your mum is experiencing is normal after SAH, her body and her brain have suffered a major trauma and they both need a lot of time to recover, this means she will sleep a lot, it's the brains way of trying to recover, if you have to wake her to eat and she feels she needs to rest and sleep allow her to do that, If she doesn't feel like getting out of bed, try taking small amounts of food to her, I know I had very little appitite after my SAH and could only cope with small portions. Try to make sure that she is drinking lots of water, keeping hydrated is really important and it really does help with headaches if mum is getting them. Memory issues are also a common side affect of SAH, a lot of people suffer short term memory problems, I did and still do 4 years out, some people will recover their short term memory, some people won't, every bleed is different and there is no one size fits all, everyone recovers differently, a lot also depends on where the bleed occurred in the brain as to what cognitive issues a person will have. Recovery from SAH is a very slow process, your mum will need lots of rest as her body and brain try to recover, the fact that she has you there for support is brilliant, you also need to make sure that you look after yourself too, this is a very stressful and difficult time for you all and any questions you have don't be worried about asking them, we can't give any medical advice as non of us are qualified to do So, but we can help you with our own experiences of SAH. Best Wishes to you and your mum Love Michelle xx
  4. Chelle C

    New here, comfort and advise please

    Hi Linda, Welcome to BTG, so sorry to hear about your mum, as other's have said 8 weeks is very early in her recovery, it must be very difficult for you seeing your mum like this, but the fact that you are there supporting her and encouraging her is very good, but as Sub's said your mum's brain and body have suffered this trauma and they do need a lot of time to recover, the recovery road can be a bit of a bumpy one at times, she will have some good days and some bad, it is all part of the recovery process, but it is a slow process. It sounds like she is in very good hands, speak to the people who are in charge of mum's care so that you are aware of everything that is happening when you are not able to be there, they won't mind you doing that I'm sure. Linda also make sure that you look after yourself too, that will help to keep your strength up for the journey ahead. Sending best wishes to you & your mum, hope she continues to go from strength to strength. Love Michelle xx
  5. Chelle C

    8 years.......

    Congratulations Janey on your 8 year anni-versary, Hope you continue to go from strength to strength. Hope you are enjoying being back at work. Best Wishes for the future. Love Michelle xx
  6. Chelle C

    Kay - new member

    Kay, Congratulations to you both, such wonderful news. Love Michelle xx
  7. Chelle C

    Three Years!!! Still here!!

    Jan, Congratulations on your 3rd Anni-versary, I know it has been a difficult 12 months for you, I know we spoke about some of it at the weekend. Family, the one thing in life you don't get to choose, but they are the people who you would expect to be there to support and help you through some of the difficult times. My sister's have never been there for me, my oldest sister went to Lanzarote 4 days after my bleed and my middle sister visited me once in hospital, older sister came back and brought me an indoor plant and her first words were " well you look alright " not sure what she was expecting me to look like. She stayed for 10 minutes and left. As I said to you on Saturday, sometimes you just have accept that they can't deal with the situation or they don't want to, believe me, they will need you one day and I know you are like me and as much as you would like to say " no " you won't because that's not in your nature, The brilliant thing is you have John, you are both so lovely together, he is with you every step of the way,, totally unconditional, simply because he loves you and wants to look after you and make sure you have the best life possible, which is what you deserve after all you have been through. We love to see you both and as we said on Saturday, when you find you need to get away, give me a ring and you have a free few days away and we meant it. I really hope that your next 12 months bring brighter days and more confidence your way Jan, stay strong my very lovely friend. Looking forward to our next get together, hopefully it will be soon. Sending you much love, hugs and more. Love Michelle xx
  8. Chelle C

    Wow where did 4 years go.

    Thank you all so very much for all your lovely words. Love Michelle xx
  9. Chelle C

    Wow where did 4 years go.

    Thank you all so much for your lovely words, touched my heart and brought tears to my eyes, I am sitting in the sunshine waiting for Jan & John to arrive, so looking forward to seeing them both. Thanks again everyone. Love Michelle xx
  10. Hi Everyone, Well here I am 4 years down the road from my SAH and I still can't believe it's been that long, although I am doing ok I still have those days where it feels like it just happened yesterday, I laughed at myself this morning, why? Because the morning of my SAH as Verdun was going out to walk our little dog Molly, I said I was going to nip to the loo and jump in the shower, shortly after getting in the bathroom it all started to happen, I have not said those words in the same sentence since then, even typing that has given me a really strange feeling. I don't know if anyone else feels that way. Anyway back to the last 12 months, it has probably been one of my most difficult since SAH, in May last year I had the traumatic events with Verdun, I didn't think things could get any worse after that but I was wrong. Early hours of Wednesday 2nd August my mam was rushed into hospital, I spent the whole day at her bedside with my dad and 2 sisters, we were eventually told that she was very seriously ill and Would be staying in hospital. Later that night, I was rushed in to hospital with a suspected rebleed, thankfully it was not, they kept me in over night and let me go about teatime on the Thursday, they put the pain and weird head down to stress. I hadn't been home for half an hour when I got a phone call from my sister to say I had to get back to my mam's bedside as she was critically ill, Sadly she passed away on 4th August as you all know, that was the worst day of my life, I can honestly say that really did give me real pain in my heart and I am still struggling with the fact that she is no longer here. I can honestly say that the love and support I had from my BTG family was probably the one thing that helped me through those very sad and difficult days, I can't thank you all enough, I will be forever grateful that I had a place to turn at that time and as usual you were all there for me. Then in December I lost my friend to cancer, that knocked me sideways, it was then that I decided I had to do something positive, I decided to raise the funds for a Memorial Bench in her memory and I did that and it really helped to ease the sadness I was feeling. As it is coming up to 1 year since my mam passed away I have organised a cupcake day at my caravan to raise some money for the Alzheimer's society, I just needed to do something to change the way I was feeling, doing this has helped me a lot, it has given me something to focus on. I feel a lot happier. Sorry if this sounds depressing, it's a true reflection of my last 12 months and is not meant to upset or offend anyone. I have come a long way since 2014 and improvements have been good, memory though is still not good, still suffer the fatigue mostly when I push myself to far, still haven't learned that lesson yet!! Now this wonderful support group, Karen, thank you so so much for having this great place where I can come and feel safe, this group has as I've said many times been my saviour, to all the member's I thank each and every one of you for always having the right words to make me feel better and for making me laugh out loud and have Verdun look at me as if I have lost the plot😁 I have made some fantastic friends in the last few years, I hope I have helped some fellow survivor's along the way, if so then that is great. I'm looking forward to celebrating with Jan tomorrow, so here's to the next 12 months, just got to be better than the last 12, I will end this epic post with these words, Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass, It's about learning to dance in the rain. Thank you all so much Lots of love Michelle xx
  11. Chelle C

    My story up to now - Maria

    Hi Maria, I'm so pleased you managed to spend some time with Paul, as Tina said it must have been really hard for you. I'm sure that you being there will have made a difference, you have been so strong throughout all of this, well done you. Please don't give up hope, Sending both you & Paul very best wishes. Love Michelle xx
  12. Hi Matt, So sorry to hear that your wife has had to be hospitalised, sorry that her pain turned out to be blood clots in her lungs, this must have been a very stressful time for you both. I hope she continues to go from strength to strength as she goes along the recovery road. Make sure you look after yourself too, it's been a difficult and stressful time for you both. Wishing you both well Love Michelle xx
  13. Wow this sounds like a brilliant way of dealing with a brain bleed. Hope they get the funding to continue to look at this drug.
  14. Chelle C

    Susan O'Neal

    Hi Susan, Welcome to BTG, sorry to hear about your accident and you suffering SAH due to that happening. It is very common that patients are sent home with little or no information, you have come to the right place for help and support, we are not allowed to give medical advice as we are not medically trained but we can give advice and support based on our own experiences, although I will say no two bleeds are ever the same and everyone recovers differently, basically one size doesn't fit all so to speak. You will find a lot of useful information here that may be very helpful to you as you go along the recovery road, you no longer have to feel like you are alone. When you feel up to it you could maybe add a little more information about your situation, do you have family around for support or friends. Wishing you well Love Michelle x
  15. Chelle C

    One year later...

    Hi Jean, Congratulations on your 1st Anni-versary, lovely to hear how well you are doing, the recovery journey can be a bit of a bumpy road at times, I think we all find ways of coping with it as you are doing. You have come a long way in this 1st year, well done. I hope you have a lovely holiday in Mexico, relax and enjoy it. Wishing you all the very best. Love Michelle xx