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Macca last won the day on December 14 2017

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About Macca

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    60 yrs old. Two grown up sons, three grandchildren, two boys and a girl. Got married in September 12 to Sandra. Played for Oldham Athletic in early 1970s. Thankful to have found this site. Visited Hawaii and Pearl Harbor in 2003 to fulfil one off my wish list.
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    City of Salford UK nr Manchester
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    Football (soccer), reading, finding out about SAH, Spitfires, sailing ships
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    retired 11/4/2014
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    1/9/2010 L Ant comm- coiled

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  1. Macca

    Finally - 6 Years

    Hey Paula - well done! It's a sad fact that we can't take your place and do the journey for you. All we can do is tell you how we coped with it and re-assure you that there is a brighter future at the end of the tunnel. Thankfully, you have reached that point. No-one ever said it would be easy, but with the love and patience of those around you and the determination and fortitude you have shown, it just shows that it can, indeed, be done. So proud of you and thank you for coming back to tell us! Best wishes, Macca
  2. I second that Umut - I hope your Mum is continuing to improve, even if it is only slowly.
  3. Macca

    My story up to now - Maria

    Maria, just be aware that all our thoughts are with you and we wish you all the very best on your journey and hope that you get as much as you can from it. Macca
  4. Macca

    My story up to now - Maria

    Hi Maria, Thanks for the update. This must be tough for you. What I would say is judge for yourself when you get there, but before you see him, speak to his family and get their opinions face to face. No matter what you have said by email, Skype or whatever, it's never as good as face to face, when you can judge the atmosphere, watch the body language and so on. Compare what they say with the situation you find yourself in when you finally get to see him. I think you have to play it all by ear. It will be a tough experience for you but it may also be uplifting if you see progress that others haven't. Nobody ever said his or your journey would be easy. Recovery is a long and winding road and everyone goes at their own pace some a lot slower than others, unfortunately. Don't build up any false hopes, as that will set you up for a fall if reality doesn't meet your expectations. So deal with what you see, hear and feel. Speak to doctors if you can for their opinions and speak to family and carers, so you have as full a picture as possible. Then sit down and analyse for yourself, if you can, to make sense of it all. If you can't do it by yourself then sit down with someone you know and trust and talk it over. Lastly, try not to over think things before you go - that is just torturing yourself. What you have to deal with is what is - not what might be, so get the facts first and then put all the red herrings to one side and deal with what is left. Only you can make those calls Maria but you have to do it with a clear head and by offloading as much emotional feelings as you can. I don't mean to sound uncaring there, I just mean in order to do the best you can both for him and yourself by making the right decisions. Good luck and please come back to us. I hope this helps.
  5. Macca

    Finally - 5 Years

    You're welcome!
  6. Macca

    Finally - 5 Years

    Hi Iola, Congratulations on reaching this milestone - very well done. I remember when you first joined us and what a struggle you had with doing ordinary things! Now look at you! You are reflecting now with the benefit of a hard earned wisdom, learnt through hard experiences, and by listening to others who had been there before you, and by realising yourself that you had to change and adapt. The problem with change is that is was forced on you rather abruptly when not only did you not want to do it, you resented the impact it had on your life and rebelled. Nevertheless, you got to grips with it and you realised that you needed to do it and your body was telling you that you had no choice - and like everything else in life you do it to the best of your abilities with style and elegance and your family reaps the benefits of the new you. Yes, you can look back at life like you do in an old photograph album - but that is also who you were, not who you are. The experiences you look upon in that album made you the person you are now! SAH is just another of those experiences (albeit one of the more serious and unpleasant ones). That's how I look at it now and I will continually look forwards. I only look back when I feel nostalgia - I've made that place in my mind for those moments, but then it's time to shut the album and get on with life as best I can! Well done Iola - you are a credit to yourself and your family. Thank you for sharing this with us all.
  7. Macca

    dilly new member

    Hi Dilly, Welcome to BTG. One of the 'good' things about SAH is that it is very rare. Re-occurrence is, therefore, rarer still. What you can say in your case is that the hospital are aware of developments in your relative's case. That is good and I'm sure they will do their best to take care of them. It's a tough time for you, I know, but please try to stay positive. There is a long, slow, recovery journey ahead but hopefully they have the strength to pull through. As Subs has said, there are other similar stories on here to help give you the support you need. When you come onto the site, click on any of the main headings to the left and other threads will come up from which you can see the experiences of others. Please let us know how the situation develops and as 'Subs' says above, the more you tell us the more we'll be able to help you. Best wishes, Macca
  8. Macca


    Hi Sue, Welcome to the survivors club! I don't know about childbirth, but a kick in the nether regions is pretty bad for us blokes, so that's the nearest I can think of! On a more serious note, it is very early days for you yet, it was well over a year before I could function on any meaningful level! Your health is more important than anything else right now - it has shot to the top of your priority list whether you like it or not, so it's time to re-appraise what you do and how you do it! Sit down with pen and paper with your other half and list the things you need to do. Then decide how you're going to do them. Can you delegate, do a bit at a time, do things more slowly, let someone else help, let someone else do the task under your supervision, do away with some things, carry out tasks in a different manner, and so on? You'll be amazed at what you can come up with. Then try. If something doesn't work, no harm done, just figure out a different way. Rest when you need to because if you don't your body will tell you in no uncertain terms, and if you carry on you will make mistakes. So you will be amazed at how creative you can be - accountants do it all the time! ha ha! I see you've already come up with a way to carry on with your pot plants. You just need to apply that theory to everything else now. Do things at your own pace, not the one that others want you to go at. That is very important indeed. Any time you need to let off steam, just come on here, or if you want some support from people who've been there and got the T shirt! Best wishes, Macca
  9. Hi Umut, The problem with a SAH is that everybody's recovery rate is different. It is a personal journey for her and she has to go at her own speed, not the one you want her to go at. Your problem is that you want to do something for her but you have a feeling of helplessness. However, you are doing something wonderful. You are being there for her, you are encouraging her and you are taking things for her. Even though she cannot respond at the moment, it is surprising how much the brain takes in, so read magazine and newspaper articles to her, talk to her in your normal way and keep a diary of her progress, noting any small improvements. Try and keep stimulating her, but also know that she will tire quickly and needs to rest, so give her that time also. Be patient Umut, every journey starts with a single step, as has been said so many times before, and as long as that journey is forwards there is a chance. I think you are doing just great, so keep going and keep us posted. Best wishes, Macca
  10. Keep your chin up Darcy. Nobody ever said recovery would be easy. It's a long road and it is still early for you on that road. Before you know it, one step at a time, you will be closer to the end than the beginning. Keep talking to the doctors and medical staff. Keep your spirits up and rest properly. You help people best when you are strong not when you are weak. Thanks for letting us know and please keep in touch! Macca
  11. Macca

    Jo posting on behalf of Rob

    Some great advice for you there Jojo, I too had my SAH at 55 and I too travelled all over the UK with my job. I, too, had some trouble with the idea of going to sleep but I don't have any trouble now and I am still here. It's almost like the fear of fear itself, but it will subside over time because there is no real reason to fear going to sleep. It's a natural part of life and going to sleep naturally is actually a good sign that recovery is taking place and is giving the brain much needed time for repairing itself so it seems actually to be more of a help than a hindrance, to me. Yes, go to the CAB to get the help and advice you need. Doing nothing is not an option. You need to be a bit pro-active here and once your money worries are alleviated, you will find a lot of other things will fall into place much more easily. Show your uncle these replies and some of the stories on here. He is one of us, a survivor, and we are all still here. Keep checking in with the doctors, make sure he has a balanced diet in line with his doctor's advice, plenty of fluids and plenty of rest. Everything else is down to his doctors and following their guidance! Good luck! Macca
  12. Macca

    Scared again...

    Hi Jan and welcome back. I think you answered your own question, it was the middle of the night and you were half asleep! We've all done daft things when half asleep but yours sounds as though it was just unlucky. Don't beat yourself up about it. The fall happened and it's behind you now. You can't undo it so don't worry about it. Just go and get checked out by your doctor, like the others say, and move on. How many times did you fall when you were a kid? You don't give those occasions a second thought do you? No Jan, you aren't crazy, you are you, the irrepressible you, the bouncebackability you. You just need to bounce back up one more time, dust yourself down and get on with things. Sure, have a blub with someone you love and respect, talk about it and get it out of your system, learn to let go. Not always easy I know, but you will feel much better when you have talked about it, in my opinion. To avoid it in future, why not take a flask of water to bed so you don't have to go past the stairs. The flask will keep the water cool for a long time! Just in the short term, until you get your confidence back. I think you need to talk to someone close to you from time to time, to get all your fears and anxieties out of you. When you bottle it all up inside, the pressures seem (to you) to magnify beyond all reasonable proportion and talking with somebody relieves all that pressure and gives you a sense of balance. We all need help from others on occasions Jan - don't be afraid to ask for it - ask for help when you feel weak, give help when you feel strong enough. In the meantime, we are all here for you. Good luck, Macca
  13. Hi Darcy, Welcome to BTG. Firstly, two weeks is next to nothing in terms of recovery. It can be a slow process and it may, as Louise says be the blood being re-absorbed into the body that causes headaches to persist. Check with the medical staff that treated your husband. As has been said already, we can't give medical advice because we are not doctors, so we can't be relied upon for that! Write down the questions you want answering and ask when you go. If you don't write them down you will surely forget one! However, we can tell you about our own experiences. Recovery is different from person to person and how their SAH has been in terms of degree of severity, how soon they were treated and so forth. It can also affected by their own feelings and determination to get back on their feet, but above all, especially in the early stages they need rest and the time to be allowed to go at their own pace, not necessarily the pace you want them to go at. You have to remember that the brain is at the centre of everything they do, and it has come under attack, is very complicated and it needs time to re-wire itself. It is a very tough thing to deal with, it isn't a case where you can just put a plaster on it and get on with life. Just because you can see it doesn't mean there isn't an injury. Look at a car with no engine in it - it still looks like a car from the outside doesn't it? Fluids are a help - it doesn't need to be pure water al the time, but anything that contains it, juice, tea, coffee - although you might want to consider de-caffeinated types and I would avoid fizzy types of drink - they just don't sound right to me although I have no evidence to say they do any harm. Just use your common sense. Give him love, give him patience, give him support and, above all, give him time. Keep a diary of his progress, you will be amazed at his progress over a period of time. I wish you well
  14. Macca

    One year nasah anniversary!

    Well done Eric and congratulations. Picture a graph with a wavy line on it that represents your recovery. There are some ups and downs on that line but as long as the general trend is up, you're doing just fine. Rarely does the road to recovery appear as a straight line, unfortunately. So enjoy life for what it is, do things when you can and rest properly when you feel you need to and you should be just grand! The simple things you mention now take on a more grandiose appearance and you appreciate things you previously took for granted. That's no bad thing - perhaps people who have not been ill should look at those things too, with a little more appreciation of what they really represent and mean! Here's to year two Eric - look forwards, not back, unless it is to learn a lesson from history! Best wishes, Macca
  15. You're welcome Kiwi, I just edited my earlier post and added a couple of bits so re-read! Nearly midnight here so off to bed now! Goodnight and stay well! Macca