Hi all. I just stumbled across this forum. My grandma complained of a headache, vomiting and stiff neck four days ago. I thought she had the flu. Two weeks prior, she got antibiotics for pneumonia and a fever. I thought it was crappy that she was getting the flu after just having pneumonia. Once we got to the hospital and she couldn't tell the staff who the president was or what year we were in, I knew this was more than a flu. The doctor came over and asked her about dnr and who should make decisions on her behalf. That was pretty scary and shocking. They took her to ICU and she has been here since. They gave her anti seizure meds and antibiotics. We think she had a stroke 2 days ago. They said she wouldn't be able to move her left arm again because of it but when they gave her the feeding tube, she was waving it about. She is 73. They found out that she has a staph infection and a blockage in her heart valve likely due to a build up of infection debris. She was out of it after the stroke and her pupils weren't dilating correctly but they are fine now. She's in a semi conscious state right now. I am trying to make her comfortable by positioning the pillows. She has chronic neck and back pain and two nerve stimulators because she is allergic to opioids. She cant have an MRI because of the simulators under her skin. They said a chunk of the debris can break off and cause more strokes, or it can reduce with the antibiotics, or it might require surgery if she was in a position to go through surgery. Anyway, I'm shocked and trying to care for her as best I can but it kills me to see her in pain and not knowing how this will play out. She's the toughest person I know with pioneer woman fortitude but she's up against a lot. I don't know what to do but take it breath by breath, moment by moment. I'm playing old country music for her and she was tapping her foot so that was nice for a while. She seems to be in pain again since they re-positioned her. I'm at a complete loss right now but trying to keep it together and be strong. I guess I'm posting here because I wanted some insight into how others have dealt with similar situations. I have always been really close with her and my heart is aching but I know life will take it's course. Trying to do what I can to support her but I feel helpless .