Hi all .
I've been reading through the forums for the past 2 weeks and finally decided to quit lurking so I could seek some advice.
My son's father experienced a ruptured aneurysm 2 weeks ago. He was admitted to the ER on a Friday and by Tuesday, he was home. We were never told a grade of his aneurysm and the doctor's were horrible at informing the family about anything but at this point, we're in the recovery stage. We realize how lucky my son's father was; he seems to have no negative neurological effects. His speech has not suffered, he knows everyone, and he's able to move around. In terms of having an aneurysm, he really is on the luckier side of things.
I'm seeking advice on how to help him heal. Two weeks on and his headache is still debilitating. He cannot sleep and he has completely lost his appetite (as far as I know he's eaten MAYBE three meals in two weeks). His legs are sore and walking is a chore. His blood pressure is still high. His doctors (we are in the US) are...awful and do not seem to be worried about this. He is young (mid-30s) and used to working 70 hour weeks so this is effecting him greatly.
To be honest, I just don't know what to say to him. We are very close and have been for 8 years and I want to help I'm just not sure what to do. I absolutely do not want to imply with my words or actions that he's damaged or incapable now but I want to clearly show that we are here for him as he recovers.
So. If you had an aneurysm, is there something you wish people had said to you or done for you? Is there something you wish they hadn't? Other than time (which I understand is a huge part of this), what helped the most?
Any advice would be appreciated . Thanks in advance.
