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  1. Greg and Gemma I feel such an affinity with you both! Noise! Tell me about it, I too can't stand loud noises including my washing machine. I have to time when I do jobs upstairs so they coincide with the final spin cycle! I too have difficulty having conversations when there is a lot of noise going on around me and can't stand loud 'wild' music. (I used to love a bit of Techno-rave, but not now! lol!) With regard to you work returns I have found having a day off midweek to be a saviour. I work Monday,Tuesday, Thursday and Friday with Wednesday being my rest day. I love it, potter about the
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  2. Just as I was thinking 'this hurts' I started to feel sick as well. Deciding immediate action was required, I did what any right-minded cricket fan would do and headed for the loo. As I made my way to the loo I was aware that the pain in my head was increasing dramatically and by the time I got there I didn't know whether to sit on it, kneel in front of it or lie down. I had never experienced anything like the pressure that seemed to be building. 4 years ago, when he was 49, my younger brother had a severe stroke and almost twelve months to the day my dad had one too. N
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  3. Clare good luck for next week, will you mark it or ignore it? You've done amazingly in a year, particularly with getting a new job. The noise things is a pain. I'm similar to you Gemma I can listen to music for a bit but definitely have to be in the right frame of mind. We went to a show over Christmas (type of human circus / burlesque / comedy thing) and though I got through it OK is, the noise was too much and I was flattened for a couple of days afterwards with fatigue. At least it confirmed my decision to give away some tickets for a gig just prior to Christmas was the right thing to
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  4. Yes noise can be a big issue - the worse thing for me around the house is the vacuum cleaner, when my husband hovers I make myself scarce! I also loved music prior to my SAH. I can still enjoy it, but definitely have to be in the right frame of mind. Yes the more I am doing the more I think a mid-week day off would be good for me next year. I have also been referred for long-term physio anyway to help with my movement issues as a result of the spinal adhesions, so a day off during the week would be good to do that and to just generally have a break. Obviously being a teacher I do have t
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  5. Gemma, A lot of what is describe is quite familiar. Long stints of "cognitively demanding tasks" just doesn't work so well for me any more. Gone is the approach where one head long ploughs through for hours on end, a little more thought and pacing is required. Re the noise, tell me about, I used to love music and never minded a decent hubbub when we went out, but now these have a real impact on me, especially if I am trying to hold a conversation over the noise. Divided attention, I am told is the activity your brain is doing at this point, and post SAH mine isn't quite so happy doin
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  6. Hi Tricia, It sounds as though he knows what he's doing and is in denial or doesn't want to face up to the problems he's causing himself and the family. He could well be depressed and using the alcohol as a means of coping .... however, we know that alcohol is a depressant and will make a situation worse with feelings and actions and I can see how it's affecting you and your family. If he's drinking excessively, then he may not remember in detail, how he acted towards you, the night before. He sounds as though he's in denial and if he won't listen to the recording then it would mak
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  7. Doctor is right it's only a choice your husband can make himself, (we had that with my mother-in-law), agree with Jess, talk to him when he's sober, also maybe point out that he's survived a trama that many are denied, but again Jess is right you don't need this.. I hope the right decision is taken and things work out for you.. take care hun and cyber hugs..
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  8. You need to consult someone that specializes in addiction. You don't want to go down the road of enabling when you have other family responsibilities. It is a terrible condition that often occurs in conjunction with other issues; in his case SAH. He should be treated for all his issues what ever they are. Take them all seriously. Take yourself seriously. You are right to be concerned. Find a resource or another way to take action. You've been so good at acting so far when you thought you were helping him recover from SAH. He still deserves your help in whatever form that takes
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  9. When I was little my Dad could turn nasty on shorts but my Mum left him and he came off them. He(your hubby) knows he must not drink while epilepsy is about. So I wish you all well and good luck in him stopping. Perhaps another on here might have had this experience as I had an SAH and my hubby give up the demon drink !! I have a glass on special occasions and then it is watered down, but whatever amount of spirits you water down you are still drinking the same amount of booze/wine !! Wishing you good luck also hubby guess he might have found out how short life is or can be. !
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  10. Talk to your husband when he is sober and give him two choices pack in the booze or pack his bags you need to think of your children you don't want them growing up thinking that it is acceptable behaviour all the drinking. I kicked my husband out March 2012 and it was the best decision I ever made children do as they see most of my husband's family are alcoholics I have broke that line and maybe saved my children from it but only you can decide if and when to leave. However for him to stop drinking he needs to want to stop and if he doesn't you may aswell leave. Goodluck hope everything wor
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