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    Dear Bill. I have a lovely house in SE London. Please feel free to holiday there as and when you feel like it. There are many little jobs that need doing and even though I know they need doing my wife seems to keep reminding me every six months. She seems obsessed! Your family can be in London in less than an hour on our superb train service (we will even give them lifts to the station!). You, however, will be busy.....
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    Hi Paul welcome to BTG this is a great place to come this is my second family I call some of them uncle and auntie coz they have really helped me like a family should xx
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    Hi Mark Welcome to the BTG . I only joined on Sunday and I am reading what people are saying. People really make you feel welcome and it amazes me how many have been through what I suffered and have come out the other side.I wish I could have joined years earlier. Paul
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    On the 11/11/2014 at 9.15 a.m. my changed life began. I was teaching my BTEc group at sixth form centre when something went horribly wrong with my head. I only know what followed by speaking to family and friends. Staff colleagues who were trained knew something was wrong. They rang for an ambulance, when it arrived they radioed an air ambulance. I went to the Trauma Department at Queens Medical Centre at Nottingham. I had surgery and my family were told I wouldn't last through the night. I caught pneumonia and infection and was in a coma. Everyone tried different things to get me to recover favourite songs, poems and pictures of Heather(wife), Emily(daughter) and Joe(son). Four weeks passed and my Derby County songs brought me back.This was a bit embarrassing in Nottingham. Three months later and I visited work in a wheelchair to thank the students for raising money for the air ambulance service. Five months later back a day a week at work. I have had OT SLT and counselling and 4 years later I am starting to talk about it. Paul
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    Hello everyone! This week is always one of the toughest of the year. So many thoughts, feelings, memories- nothing easy at all. I am grateful to be here, writing about my experiences, gaining support, and giving as much as I can to others. Nine Years- I still go back to the spot where it happened. It is still unbelievable how much has changed, and how much still remains as a part of the experience. I do hope that, to any of you that are new to this journey, or to those who have been recovering longer than I have, things move on. A new normal can be achieved. You will learn a lot- especially how to lean on your support system. Some of you will find that you are not good at utilizing that support system. Regardless, this time on our little blue marble is precious, find gratitude, and center yourself in the knowledge that you are still here, and have so much to give. Thinking of you all.... Noah
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    Something else that has emerged from SAH recovery. OCD cleaning! Not in my own house, but every time I go on holiday. I like to have Villa holidays, in the south of Spain. Three times a year! (Lucky man)! I always end up, sorting the garden out, cleaning the patio, oiling the locks and gate fittings,sorting out the TV and internet, fixing little plumbing problems,.....etc, etc....ad infinitum! I was not like this pre-SAH. My family think it is hilarious. Everyone is relaxing around the pool,..I am polishing tiles, ...saying ,..."we may be on holiday, but we don't have live like pigs". Needless to say, the owners love us, and ask when we will want to come back! Brain alterations have unforseen consequences. Onwards and upwards! Bill.
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    Hi Paul, Welcome to BTG, so pleased you have found us, this is a great place for support and advice, a place where you can also come to let off a bit of steam when and if you need to. I wish you well with your on going recovery and as Tina said, come along and join us in the green room, always lots of banter going on in there, we are all a big friendly bunch. Love Michelle xx
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    Hi Paul A very warm welcome to BTG Glad you found us. You will find lots of helpful information & friendly caring support here, Feel free to join in the daily banter in the Green Room too. Wishing you well with your ongoing recovery and look forward to hearing more from you. Take care Tina.
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    He was my consultant Bill, but his brother was the one that operated on me in Derriford, Plymouth.
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    Bill, it's lovely to have you back! You shouldn't feel guilty for the decisions of others ... If somebody is going to commit suicide, they've already made up their own mind and I would doubt that you could have saved them, unless you were there at the actual time. I know of a few people who've done the same and the devastation that it causes. However, you also need to have some self preservation for yourself ... if you're not personally in a good place, then you can't help others, so be kind to yourself first and the rest will follow. Take care Bill. x
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    Thanks Karen. My family have put up with my nonsense for years. I am well aware of my responsibility to them. The real wake up came, when two friends committed suicide in, unrelated , succession. I feel guilt, because I was so focused on myself, that I feel I missed the warning signs. The devastation caused to their families was immense. It shook me out of self pity. I now look for the signs in my friends and am not afraid to ask uncomfortable questions. Its good to be back Karen. Thanks for your support over the years. Bill.
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    Hi Macca. You are right in all you say. I think that most of my problems stemmed from denying the changes. Refusing to wear an eyepatch or use a stick. Acceptance of my new reality has changed the way I see things. My former self has gone, much like childhood has gone. So what is left, is all that matters. It took me a long time to fully understand this. There must be others in BTG who have struggled and not been very good at adapting. Thanks for your thoughts Macca. Bill.
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