thank you very much for all the replys i appreciate it very much, i dont feel alone any more, everyone is in the same position and know how i am feeling because we have all been through the same thing, no disrespect to anyones partners, family etc, but unless it has happened to u , no one knows how u feel, i find my family getting fustrated with me when i carnt remember things what they have said to me, and they think i am back to normal cos i look ok and i am not, i know it is a long process, didnt realise that it would take time to get back to normal, sometimes i wonder if i will ever be my normal self again, i know that i am not ready to return to my job yet, i was a mobile care assistant, i looked after elderly people which i loved every minute of it, i worked long hrs, but it was very rewarding to see people happy to see u, i dont feel ready to go back to work yet, as u know have good days and bad days, i also have 4 boys, but the youngest is 17, the boys are a great help and i dont know what i would do without them, they all help with shopping, cleaning etc, anything , they have been great i am very lucky and proud of them, i just wanted to ask does anybody know what help there is for us., i was told to claim for dla which i did but got refused x