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About rince

  • Birthday 16/07/1967


  • Location
    Basingstoke SAH 22nd May 2003
  • Interests
    Football, football and of course football. Did I mention football?
  • Occupation
    Various Charity stuff, school governor and work in the commercial and community office for Basingsto

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  1. I started my journey in 2003. Divorce came along and so I started looking for that special person who would accept me for who I am. Fast forward to now, a couple of failed relationships and I think I have found the one. I really do want to make sure she is aware of everything that we as a group are going through every day.... Are there partners out there who can help me? Regards in SAH Scott
  2. Hi everyone, My name is Scott.... I used to post on here a few years ago.... Under the nickname rince. ...I have now had eleven anniversaries. ... and again I need your help..... I have a new partner and she has agreed to be my fiance! !!! What I would like is for you all to give her some advice on what to expect..... I have a shunt and suffer from the "normal" stuff that we all experience. Thank you to Karen for pointing me back here via her Facebook. ... Love you all Scott Xx
  3. Life if anything gets harder as the years progress, you will see an improvement post SAH but there will come a time when there is no more progress to be made. You have to learn to accept what your life is, and what you are capable of. Without that acceptance there will only be resentment of what you are left with. Some will make a "recovery" that is almost complete, others will be left with a "scar" from their SAH that will never fade. Although we all start our journey with a SAH we will never all make the same trek with the same problems, we are all different. Having said that we all share a common experience that we can look and see in others the same rough map that we have navigated. In all my years post SAH the one thing that I have learnt is acceptance. Acceptance of what I am left with, what my experience has meant to others and acceptance of where I find myself now. Seven years on my experiences will be completely different to all of yours, but yet with enough in common to form a bond. We almost all share the same hardships yet all of us have a different outcome from where we started. Talking complete *******s now so will sign off. Scott
  4. Edwyn and his wife Grace were on the radio today talking about his experiences post brain hemorrhage and the way it affected his relationship and career. http://www.bbc.co.uk/iplayer/episode/b00lqn8n/Simon_Mayo_22_07_2009/ Follow the link and go to the third hour of the program. Starting about 1 hour 52 minutes into the stream. Really "enjoyed" hearing them talk about the way they've dealt with stroke and it's effects. Grace has written a book called "Falling and Laughing: The Restoration of Edwyn Collins" . Scott
  5. Hi all, Just to confirm that as Karen has said, I lost my sense of taste and smell (can't tell you when as it took a while to find out!!). Really doesn't affect me that much as I taste what I'm expecting to taste, so it seems as though my brain has fooled my taste buds, or vica-versa! Scott
  6. Just to let you all know that the DVLA finally replied to me this week!!! Don't get too excited though, they stated that "we do not as a matter of policy comment on individual medical cases". So in this case it really wasn't worth the wait Scott
  7. Today I "celebrated" my own SAH, like a lot of things in life it wasn't what it seemed to be. It seemed to be a life wrecking event that meant the end of my life. I wouldn't be able to work again and I spend every day thinking about my own death. My finances are wrecked and it has had an impact on a large number of people beyond my immediate family. That's what it seemed to be. What it actually turned out to be was a second chance, a move away from a lifestyle that would see me into an early grave. A rebirth for my relationship with everybody that was close to me, my wife and my children have I would like to think have benefited. From having a husband and father with the time to spend with them talking and being with rather than a figure who would leave in the morning and come back when they were all in bed. Although I don't enjoy the best of health I now appreciate every day that I have in a way that I certainly didn't before. A new circle of friends that understand me better than any others in my life. The freedom that comes from only just having enough money each week rather than a huge shortfall each and every month. A few people have asked me today whether or not it was something to mourn or something to celebrate and on reflection I believe that it was something to be grateful for. In the early years I did mourn the passing of a lifestyle that now I wouldn't want, I genuinely am more happy now than six years ago. Scott
  8. My friend Alex has had cranioplasty, he was in a car accident and had a dent in his skull. He was out of hospital within three days and is a lot less self concious since his OP. He had the surgery about 10-12 yrs after the accident and doesn't really talk about it. The main thing is that it was a routine elective surgery for him and there was no complications. Try asking your local Headway about it, they are really good about this sort of thing. Scott
  9. I still don't know exactly how many coils I've got! Or even the size of my annie. That's more to do with my memory though! Eight weeks in is still very early in your recovery and I'm sure you're going to make huge strides in the next few months. Listen to your body rather than people telling you what you should or shouldn't be doing and you won't go far wrong. Scott
  10. Don't worry Sami, it's my "junk" email address! I wouldn't post my actual email address on here and I can understand why you did that.
  11. Hi Phil, The recovery spectrum is large and you shouldn't get hung up on where you are in that wide spread. What you have to worry about is doing the best YOU can do, don't worry about anybody else but do listen to your body and your brain! Scott
  12. Hi Tammy, My wife is local and willing to either talk via email or meet for a coffee. I had my SAH six years ago this May and I still have "issues", so she is well used to my ways. I always say that those closest to us have the roughest deal, we have the whole SAH thing to hide behind whilst you have nothing. If you want to take her up on the offer email me at (address removed for security) and I'll pass the details over. Scott
  13. Hi Neil, I'm just up the road from you in Bramley, seems we have our very own epicentre for SAH in the RG20(ish) post codes!! We're very lucky to be in the Wessex Neuro's catchment area, I've met your consultant a few times at the support group there, a very funny guy (and seriously talented). We all have our crosses to bear, mine is mainly following Basingstoke Town so a SAH is very much in keeping with that! Hope to speak to you soon. Scott
  14. Hi Maureen, I had a couple of "mini-strokes" whilst being treated, they probably left more of a long term legacy than the SAH. Scott
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