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marlyn34

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  1. It is nearly one yr since my mum's SAH- she been out of hospital since Jan. In the beginning the signs of recovery were quite monumental but now things have slowed down but still every improvement is a step in the right direction- I have tried to reassure my mum in this but she very depressed at the moment, I have been home this week and found it very difficult and broached the subject of her seeing a councillor... She kind of laughed it off then but today has rang me in tears admitting she thinks she is clinically depressed and has made a doctors app for Tues. I think this is a massive move forward as I know she cannot get through this alone no matter how strong she has been in surviving this. The massive change in her life weighs her down everyday but depression not a good thing in her recovery as causes a massive hinderance as she losing motivation to carry on. I feel positive even though I have my bad days that I have to see her going through this but coming on here gives me hope and great advice that I can give my mum to help her make positive steps in her recovery. I sent her book Dented Image and she has started reading today and think she starting to understand that she not alone in how she is feeling.... I glean all the information I can from the forum to help but my mum and dad not of that generation. I am reading 'Falling and laughing- the life and restoration of edwyn collins' This is proving to be a very good read..... Alot of people are not educated about the extent of SAh and I know from friends and family they think mum been ill and had an op now that's it- they do not understand how life changing for everyone involved it is. Do get help for your depression as i do believe is a natural course in the recovery, once this is overcome like with my mum I hope is another positive step forward. xx
  2. Hi, Found your post very helpful- my mum and dad do not have the internet so cannot come on here, I find it very useful- when first came on here found very upsetting as didn't want to accept my mum was ill. Alot of people think she has been ill and is now better and do not realise all the repurcussions. My mum had vasospasm and we actually only found out in her follow up app at Walton Neuro last month. Alot of frustrations for all of us. My mum very agrophobic and I do agree very like a grieving process she has good days and then meets someone who does not know what has happened and is almost like she has to go through it all again Me and my dad are very positive but we all just have to adapt the biggest thing is for my mum losing her independance- a big thing we all take for granted, and no one can fully understand how she is feeling not even me her daughter, i get so annoyed as just want my mum back but feel selfish as I not had the one who has had my life taken away. Am positive things will improve and just this morning she has got out of the bath on her own- little things now are a major step forward A8)m going home this wk and will broach the subject of counselling I think it will help but think she is a bit too proud at moment. I love this forum as has helped me immensly... am using to help them they can't do all alone and I think they need to realise this has affected other peoples lives too. thanks for all your kind messages- know I have not had SAH but it affects all of us xx8) marlyn xx
  3. Been reading all the posts and found all really useful- finding my mum really depressed and gets really tired, she was such a positive person before and find it really difficult to see her like this somedays she even says she wishes she would die. I am strong for her and so is my dad but somedays i feel really angry this happened. They are doing great but is all about them adapting- the last year has been hard but positive things will improve. Last October was the worst time my mum had complications and was in HDU for 3 wks as she experienced vasospasms. She been out of hospital since Jan and the progress is slow but steady. She gets upset alot and doesn't like being reminded of what happened after reading the posts i feel like she would benefit from councilling but don't know how to bring it up?
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