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Karen, thank you for your support which is a great help. I saw the doctor today who said there is really nothing more that they can do for mum just see how she is in the next few days and have another chat then. Mum would not want to be in this situation, my grandad had a stroke way back in the 70's and mum was very distressed the way he was. I have to admit I have had a large gin and a few glasses of wine this evening to help me through this sad sad time.

many thanks to you all for your support. This is certainly a lovely forum with so many lovely people who in turn have their own problems. All the best to you all. Mum was asleep today, but muttering when I was talking to her. The doctors want to see me tomorrow, the nurse said it may be about putting mum in a nursing home but surely this is too soon, just 4 weeks after the stroke? She still has the feeding tube and I thought nursing homes dont take patients with this in?

Dear Sarah, Many thanks for your kind words of support. I can see what you mean about mum not wanting me to wear myself out, I just need to take each day as it comes and it has been helpful to put it down in writing and also know I am not alone. all good wishes to you. Wendy x

Many thanks Lynne for your kind words of support. It is nice to hear it from my mum's point of view, but so sorry you had to go through this. As you say, there are lots of things happening behind the scene, albeit slowly, so I need to take it day to day as you probably are as well. Thank you for supporting me which has helped. All good wishes to you and your family. Wendy x

My mum had a massive stroke 4 weeks ago on her 85th birthday. Three times we have been told to come to the hospital as she might not survive the night and 3 times she has proved them wrong. She sleeps most of the day, but yesterday she was awake and we chatted to her and she tried to say something, then went back to sleep. I am finding this very hard, I am an only child and have been going into hospital every day sometimes twice a day. My husband said I need to see and speak to someone who has been through this. He said I am making myself ill because as I am eating I am feeling guilty because mum is being fed through a tube, and then feel guilty if I only stay for an hour. Please help me to find a solution for mum and myself as I am feeling so sorry for my mum and my husband is feeling so sorry for me.