Hey Jenni, you didn't make it any worse and some people have a post coital migraine head, which is nothing to do with a SAH. There are lots of different accounts on the website of peoples experiences. I wasn't operated on straight away and it wasn't straight forward. I can only say, that you're early days into recovery ... it can take 3 months for the blood to fully dissapate down the spinal cord. Keep your fluids up/hydrated and make sure that you rest up when you need to. I would say that yes, you need to let things settle - re: eyesight. They're looking after you and understand your situation. There's not many of us who've had to stop driving long term ... keep positive and even at 14 years post SAH, I'm still seeing improvement. x

Hi Jenni, don't be embarrassed as you'll probably be surprised as to how many people have had a SAH after being intimate. It's any spike in blood pressure....you could have been sitting on the loo and straining, in the gym, gardening ... etc. If you've got an aneurysm lurking and about to rupture, it will do it with any spike in blood pressure....whatever you're doing at the time ... lots of people on here that have had the SAH with different circumstances and post sex is one of them and you're not alone. I've been running this site for many years and we've heard everything, so there's no need to be embarrassed...we're here to help! So, go to the Introduce Yourself forum or the SAH forum if you want help and support with a specific problem. And no, your outcome wouldn't have been any different if you had revealed to the Doc that you were intimate before the SAH ... It's as simple as that.... having a blood pressure spike could have happened whatever you were doing at the time, as the aneurysm was there ... don't feel guilty. We've had the fittest of people on here, who were in the gym, bike riding or the same as you, or on the toilet and many other examples. It honestly does and will get better for you ..... xx

Hi Ami, Eye twitching can be a sign of vitamin deficiency as well as tiredness. It might be worth having a chat to your GP, considering that it's gone on for 3 weeks. I was B12 deficient for some time and also Calcium/ Vitamin D defiicient with a twitchy eyelid thrown into the mix. I would certainly go to your GP and get it checked out. Hopefully they'll be able to rule out anything with a blood test and it could be an easy fix....like mine. x

Well done Colleen and Happy Anni-versary ... Recovery does keep happening and regaining your confidence with life. I feel your pain with the dental procedures ... I've been at the dentist for the last 4 - 5 months. It's not easy, but you'll get through it. xx

Well done on your 5th Anni .. I found that as the years went on, I learnt a little bit more and adapted to who I am now...it honestly does get better! Lots of love...xx

With many thanks to Katow for her very kind donation today! x

With many thanks to Subzero for his very kind donation today! And also many thanks to those BTG members who make a monthly contribution to keep the site up and running. Your support and kindness is very much appreciated. x

Bless you Louise and I really can't believe that it's been 20 years! I also know that it's a difficult time of year for you. ❤️ x Like Sami, I also feel very proud of you and all that you've achieved. It's hard to remember the early days of the website as I was literally just winging it and stumbling in the dark, needing support myself and then, you came along Louise and became part of my BTG family! .... somebody that was 6 years ahead of me .... just having your presence on the website and realising that what I was experiencing, was "normal" in the terms of SAH recovery, was a huge help to me in my recovery, so thank you! All that we've learnt over the years from each other with our own experiences....the good, the bad, we've been able to share it and pass it on to other survivors and the circle of support continues, knowing that you're not alone. It's good to talk! Louise, it's a complete pleasure to know you and to still share your journey. Sending love and hugs to you!xxx

Sally, I also couldn't remember dreams in the first few years, after the SAH .... I do now and had my SAH in 2005. It does get better and perhaps it's the brain healing itself and giving you a much needed rest. x

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Thank you Sallios, that's very kind of you and donation received. x

Thanks Sami. xx

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