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  1. THANK YOU all for reaching back out to me. It is nice and very encouraging to know that I am not alone in this day to day life change. ❤️
  2. Hi Macca, Thank you for the outline . I do some of the items you listed but you have showed me a lot more to try I try my best to not bottle things up but some days I feel like I'm a broke record with the same ole story. This site has been a huge help to me and I am so thankful i found it. I just wished that I could find a face to face support group. Thanks again and have a great day, Melissa
  3. Hi ClareM I can't reduce my hours due to the fact of my insurance and financial needs. Yes my boss is very supportive and I'm thankful for that. I am thinking about visiting my Nero doctor and discussing this with him. Along with some smaller item ...lower back pain and vision change again. I was just hoping this far out I would be back on track or at least lined up right on a new track. Thanks for the support its nice to talk to someone else that have and are having the same issues and its amazing it world wide. My location is North Carolina Melissa
  4. Hey ClareM and Louise, Thank you both for letting me know that I am not alone. ClareM I am Staff Assistant for a small Community College in my home town in which I work 38 hours a week. Yes I too get my words all tangled up if I get the least bit stressed. However I do have a super boss and she can see when I am having a hard day and will tell me to go for a walk and relax or let me take a long lunch. She has even sent me home just because she knows that I have had a long week. I try my best to built up my strength but by Thursday I do good to make it through the day and just collapse when I get home. I think my hardest thing to deal with is not remembering some of the past and also I have a hard time remembering the day to day information which seems to aggravate the family more. I can't explain it to them and all they can see is how much I have improved. I have also started to have a lot of mood swings that I can't seem to control anymore either. I was really hoping that I would be more like myself by now and have things under control better. Thanks for letting me vent I am very thankful my life is no worse than it is and I know I don't sound like it but I truly am Blessed. Hope everyone has a great day. Melissa
  5. Hello everyone, I am coming up in on my third year of the life changing SAH ( June 28, 2016) I did not have to have surgery or stent. Was in ICU for 4 days and 7th floor for 11 in which I really don't remember very much of anything. Except that I had a Bleeding Stroke. Thank God I had a wonderful ICU nurse to write down some information for me to look up once I felt better. It took me 11 months and a great Neuro doctor to get back to work. He would not release me to go back until he felt like I could handle it. However the biggest thing he has said is that I am one of the lucky ones and that once I understand that the old Melissa is gone and except the new Melissa life would be a little easier. ( At the time it upset me because as with most people on here you can not see that I was ever sick) BTW I'm from North Carolina where I can not find any support groups with SAH so this site has been a true blessing for me ❤️ However since about Jan 1017 I took his advice and I try not to focus on what I can't remember and be THANKFUL that I am here to make new memories. Youngest daughter finished high school and I have a grandson now.☺️ However I am having some problems with still not having the energy to do the things I love to do ( work outside in flower bed - hike-take long walks) and some day I still have this weird feeling that I have no control over this and this mainly happens when I'm tired or stressed. But it scares me to a point I'm afraid it will happen again. Have some pain in the area of the bleed which really scares me . Some days I have a hard time making my thoughts come out of my mouth the correct way. I would have hoped by this time into recovery I would not be having these problems. Sorry its so long but I'm hoping someone else out there is like me and can give me some feed back. Thank you so much for reading and any feed back will be greatly appreciated, Melissa
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    Hey Jean I am making progress and I agree sometimes I need to remind myself how far I have came with my recovery. I am so glad I found this site and all the kind people on here. I hope you continue to heal and the fear gets less and less for the both of us everyday. Melissa
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    I am 2 years (June 28,2016 was when my life changed) out now from an non-aneurysm-sah. I am truly Blessed and Thankful for the life I have. With that being said I still have days that I am scared that it is happening again but not as often as in the beginning. I am back to work and I have adjusted okay with it. I am a staff assistant at a community college and have a great bunch of people that I work with. They have helped me relearn who they are and what I do. I wish I could say that life was back to normal but as my Nero doctor says that was the old me and the new me is still healing. I have do not have the headaches like I did before and I am not on any meds for them except every now and then when the flare up, I have changed my diet to help get off the meds because I felt like it was hurting my memory and I am already having a problems with the short term memory as it is. So I did away with soda and I am watching my carb and sugar intake this seems to be helping now for 8 weeks. I am having some problem with my joints aching and being really tired all the time. I am 51 but I feel like I am 90. Does anyone else on here feel the same way and what have you done to help. I do good for about 4 days than I crash if I push myself thru a few more days I feel terrible for about a week. I have spoke with my doctors and they tell me this is something that I can not push thru that I don't need to get stressed and that I need to get plenty of rest still. It has been 2 years and I'm still struggling with the emotional roller coaster too and I keep it to myself a lot more now because everyone "sees" me as I am doing great. Any suggestion and comments would be greatly appreciated. Melissa
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    Oh WOW Thank you so much .....it has taken me some time to find these replies and I am so happy that I did. I am coming up on year 2 after my bleed and life is still different and for the most part I'm ok with that. I am Thankful to be a live and Thankful to be improving as time goes on. I still have headaches some bad and some not so bad. Since the bleed I have been back to the ER twice scared that I was having another one to find out that it was just a migraine that I could not get under control. I am truly hoping as time goes on the fear will continue to get less and less. However some nights when my head hurts I am afraid to go to sleep because I'm scared I will not wake up. After reading these post I do feel better because this is the first time anyone had said they had one without surgery too. So THANK YOU again Melissa
  9. Hey Pat, Sorry it took so long for me to reply but for some reason I just saw this. Yes we are blessed !!! I was fortune even that my bleed sealed itself off so I do not know what its like to have a shunt, however I still have shooting pains in the area of the bleed and the doctor tells me that it is normal. I had my in 2016 and was able to go back to work 11 months later. I have be able to remember most of my past but not all and I do not remember 5 day of the 14 day hospital stay. I have headaches on a daily bases now some days are worse than others. Just pray that the headaches will get better with time and different meds. I truly wish I could find more research on the subarachnoid hemorrhage without a clip or shunt. Wishing you all the best , Melissa
  10. God is Good.... But did you have surgery to repair the bleed. I had a SAH on June 28 2017 and I'm scared that it will happen again because of no surgery Thanks, Melissa
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