Hi. My husband had his SAH in April and it was 5 months after this that he finally came home.
I then found that there was very little suport. I had questions about his head itching, about his silences, about how to help him in day to day life. How to encourage him to get motivated without nagging, his permanent headache, how to develop his concentration ability... the list goes on, but the answers aren't there. I want to understand a bit of how he feels, but he just can't find words to explain. He just waits to get better.
I've struggled with not just a caring role, but with things he did that I took for granted and now have to fit in alongside cooking, cleaning, accounting etc, such as DIY, knowing who to call for housing repairs, undertaking general maintenance. He watches me, tells me it's an easy job, just get a thingy to go on the whatsit. But he can't tell me where to source a thingy and can't show me how to attach it to the whatsit