Robert semple

Hi all,

Again  its been a few weeks since I have posted but my forum is never far from my mind.

Here 's a little insight into my life. I have four beautiful kids under the age of nine. the youngest is my son aged nine months now and the others are three beautiful daughters. I work a long day as a workshop supervisor in the motor trade training , hopefully to one day being manager. I rise at seven am to organise the kids with my partner for a nine am start at work.

I then work until six and then come home to start another shift in my mind to being a dad whilst my partner then goes to work until 11pm.  This is the reason I fail too update as much as I would like too, this life style is maybe also the reason why I have took longer to heal.

Talking  lately on here has given me the tools and a coping mechanism to get by which is what I believe I needed. lately I have struggled putting some sentences together, thoughts seem to be very unhinged at times ..by that I mean the thoughts and planning seem to be very unsure, so I need to stop and think more which unsettles me and gets me agitated..

This  may sound negative but the reason I point them out is purely because I want to point out that this talking and you guys have given me that coping mechanism I referred too before. I may not know you all but I thankyou for your input and appreciate the help and advice along the way.

Not long until I meet with headway now?

Hi Clare ,

My appointment is the 26th of January I am sure. Just waiting on the appointment letter coming through the post.

I am hearing Headway is really good so I am looking forward to the visit.  My partner's mum has a friend in his 40s who had a similar injury to myself.  He has given my family info on how to deal with some difficulties that might arise from in the past but I did not know this until recently.  When I mentioned I was going to headway, the family opened up slightly and told me that's where this guy goes a lot.  I will defo keep you updated.

Thank you x

Robert x 

Hi all,

Been a couple of weeks since I wrote.I have been busy with work being back to normal and the joyful labours of being a parent. Had a lovely Christmas and New Year back at home where I belong. I tried my best at taking rest but soon fell into old habits with being very anxious and my OCD went into overdrive again which in turn makes me angry. i started to notice it but I could not control it.

However, the fact I have now learned a little i eventually done some self analysis and realised I should get how I was feeling off my chest and shared it with partner and admitted she started to see it creep in but wanted to see how or if I could deal with it. Once we spoke it was like I had lifted a heavy rock off my shoulders. i just need to realise when it creeps back and deal with it properly.

I am managing to help a friend who has similar issues at the moment which feels really good and I know another friend of a friend will be doing a charity fundraiser soon for Brain injuries to raise awareness.i am hoping to become involved in that.

I hope every one is well?

8 hours ago, Winb143 said:

It is good to know Subs has helped you xx

 

He will appreciate it as he was on the other end of it, watching his wife go through what we have gone through.

 

Glad all went well for Christmas Robert, and keep the good work up.

 

Keep that smile at hand also and if you tire just have a sleep.

 

Be Well and keep typing xx

Win xx

Hi Win,

Everyone's input is great. I am sure this site has helped many people the way it has me.

Colleen said a couple of posts ago that she still struggles with fatigue five years on. I am the very same so it's up to me to take that break when required and believe me over the last few days I have, lol. It's been great.

I have come home tonight after my shift with a totally different attitude as well.(yes I'm back home ??) I never came in with that feeling of impending doom and stuck to the attitude I have had over the last few days. Quick shower and now relaxing waiting on a takeaway.

Cutting out takeaway will be the next step, know any good sites for advice ?lol

Here is a question. Do the people on this site ever meet up?

Does this site get promoted through the likes of Headway ?

I know I will be sure to mention it at my first meeting in January.

I intend to keep writing, hopefully people keep reading.

Thanks Win 

Hi Colleen,

Thanks for the reply. It would seem you and myself have suffered very similar setbacks then. The docs did put me on medication, it did help first time round as it slowed me down. When I felt better I decided to come off them as I felt I could - a few months/maybe a year anxiety returned so bad that my whole body ached. I got put on the medication again but this time round I absolutely did not like the effects I was having with it. I just feel that sitting on a couch not having the heart to do anything is the answer. This is the effect I would get.

You mentioned  coffee and today I have barred myself from it. My fatigue comes bad at night and you're totally correct as I have noticed this. The coffee just does not help as I come down with a crash and it's that point I need to care for the kids as mum works nights. Simple changes in attitude/lifestyles/awareness/understanding should see some real changes in myself I hope.

Kind regards 

Robert 

Hi,

Finally setting down to begin the book, keep you all posted.

Robert

Hi all,

Well it's been a busy couple of days with plenty of smiles which has been great Ii have spent time with my family and adapted to just taking things easy. At times I felt like an outsider just looking in but I feel better within myself. That's what opening up and adapting to relaxing has done. I think looking back now I lacked self control with a lot of things that possibly was just about to give me a nervous breakdown.

Someone quoted on my forum that has stuck with me. I was probably trying to hard to be the old me but instead it would seem I need to adapt to the new me. The new me seems to be a very confident at talking now. I think this talking will open up barriers that I put there myself.

I am feeling good, this site and everyone who has commented has really helped me.

I actually found myself getting frustrated as I was struggling to post on it for some reason. I think it was a glitch. Subs helped me with it lol. Thanks Subs

A happy Robert ?

Hi Michelle,

I am finding this site like a Facebook but I don't and wouldn't talk as frank on fb as I would here. I'm also finding it my most visited place. absolutely at home here.

Im finding myself talking more and more as well now about my struggles. 

I'll keep in touch. 

Wherever you are and whatever you get up too I hope you enjoy the festivities. xx

Robert 

Hi,

Is it common after these type of injuries to have a numb/strange sensation on the forehead..this is one of the major factors of my personality change that I can not get rid of. The only thing that soothes this is by wearing a head band that creates pressure around my head but helps relief this.

Thanks

21 hours ago, Skippy said:

Hi Robert

 

I've been reading this thread with interest and I am so very glad that this site has helped you to open up.  I had a tough time accepting my SAH and tried to fight it for a while - I was determined not to give this more of my life than it had already taken.  You know what??  As soon as I stopped fighting and accepted who I was and what I could do, it became so much easier.

 

You've made my Christmas a very happy one knowing that you are now ready to ask for the help you need and deserve.  Believe it or not you've done the hardest parts - you've survived and you've now recognised you need help - the rest should be easier by comparison.

 

I joined this site ten years ago and back then there were only nine of us, so watching this site grow and help so many people along the way has been a privilege.  I hope you stay in contact with us throughout your journey as it will definitely help others who follow the same path and face the same struggles - it will give them hope and confidence in their future.

 

Well done xxx

Hi Skippy,

Thank you for reading with interest.

 It's clear that myself and you maybe suffered similar setbacks now. The more I look into this I am learning that even now after all that's happened in the last few days I still really really struggle with the severity of what happened to me. I still treat it as though it was a sore head.

The fact a doctor told me I was not going home after the first day in hospital as he did not understand why I was not dead and if I didn't treat the recovery properly then I still could be. That should maybe have been my realisation of the severity. 

I would need to look out all my medical files on this as I even chose not to read mine. I know mine was frontal lobe haemorrhage along with one to the rear. My brain also moved when my skull cracked causing bleeding. I intend to take my files to Headway so as they can educate me more and maybe help me open up even more and understand.

I am sure the harsh way the doctor told me was not harsh at all, it was just what I call my chimp (from the chimp paradox) interpreting his words the wrong way. I think he had to be direct with me as I was having none of his instructions. I believed I knew better.

From the video I watched, regarding James Cracknell there is a quote that resounded with me. Before the accident, I, like others, had bad traits along with good ones. After the accident I was left with only the bad but multiplied by ten. In the three years since I refused to see this until now.

If I was more educated and recorded this more I could write a book on this.

Never say never though.

I am clearly passionate about this.

Thank you once again and I sincerely hope you enjoy the festivities

Kind regards 

Robert 

10 hours ago, Winb143 said:

 Hi Again Robert,

 

I hope you, wife and baby have a good Christmas, and all goes well for you xx

 

Now keep typing when you need to talk to someone as there is always someone here for us.

 

If not I'll just blabber away lol.  Now get stuck into book, I found my concentration had gone and didn't enjoy reading as much as I used to.

I kept reading over the same lines !! So I sing instead..my poor family.

 

Good luck and enjoy Christmas xx

 

When tired just have a lay down.  Hark at me telling you how to live !!!

 

Take Care  and I'll shut up

Best Wishes to you and Family

Win x

Hi Win,

Thank you very much.

Something had to change, as I said in previous posts I am now living with parents purely because it became too much for my partner to live with me unrelaxed. I still look after my kids at our family home at night and have become used to the small changes my partner has made around the house to make the home a more relaxed environment for all parties.

I even managed a nap with my son earlier and we both woke up smiling. I am learning that rest is key, my partner encourages this. I fully intend to keep in touch with this site, as this site amongst other positive changes, is what has given me the realisation that I must adapt to the new me. My plan Is to talk more positively about my accident.

There have been highs and a lot of lows. I know I can help other people and I salute every person who has helped along my journey. Looking forward to my first meeting at Headway.

Enjoy the festivities whatever you get up to Win.

Kind regards 

Robert 

8 hours ago, Broncothor said:

Robert

 

Welcome to BTG!  You have already received such great advice that I will keep it simple and offer my prayers and best wishes for you and your family. 

 

Chris

 

I agree Chris. lots of great advice from people and carers which is greatly appreciated.

Thanks for your prayers and wishes. 

I hope wherever you are you and your family enjoy the festivities. 

Kind regards.

Robert. 

9 hours ago, Clare Miller said:

Wow Robert what a past 24 hours you have had on BTG !  (well maybe slightly more).  Bet you and your family are glad you crossed paths with us all. As Subs says it is great that you are feeling so positive about the way ahead.

 

Hope you enjoy the book (let me know what it's like - I haven't read it) and hope you have a fantastic Christmas.

 

Great that you have that Headway appointment. Lets hope that 2017 is YOUR year when you regain yourself and accept and learn to live with the new normal 

 

Clare xx

Hi Clare,

In the past few days I have seen a real difference in myself,three years of keeping it all in has drained me and my family. Now that I have opened up I have no intentions of stopping. My family have been such a help and in the last few days so has this site.

I had a lovely chat with a girl from headway today and even opened up to a colleague in work about some of my plans. Sarahs father in law has recently suffered an aneurysm. I knew I could offer advice and prepare her for some of the obstacles her father in law will have along with her family. I mentioned this site so hopefully this site, its members, Headway and myself could maybe help another person.

I will start the book over the festive period and I will let you know how it is.

Kind regards 

Robert 

Hi,

My book has arrived and I'm also booked into a consultation with headway Glasgow on the 26th of January....feeling very liberated....hopefully I can help there and maybe share my experiences.

I will keep in touch. 

Enjoy Christmas everyone. 

42 minutes ago, Daffodil said:

Robert. So glad today and your replies have maybe helped it be a bit of a better day.

 

Baby steps now, there is no quick fix for any of us but as Macca says, time is on your side. 

 

I hope the book is useful, some of what you said resonated with how he described life and had the wife's view which I thought may help you both.

 

Approaching life after brain events is Dim Sum living I think. it Can be delicious but it's tiny little bites one at a time. Slowly does it. 

 

Oh oh and this thread will already be helping someone...see what you have started ! 

Hi Daffodil,

I am totally excited by this. talking today has already helped me leaps and bounds just by sharing my issues and having people's input has helped to lift the pressure. Carers will know some of the issues I am likely to have put my family through. I have just spoken with my partner about this forum and got excited that maybe I can help someone. She like you had told me just to slow down and take the help before offering it, this is the driven side of me that I must work on to slow down. I will take your advice and take baby steps.

The book will arrive tomorrow. I will let you know when I start to read it and give my views on it.

Kind regards 

Robert 

48 minutes ago, paul99 said:

Robert

 

I also was not going to reply to your post but reading and digesting I think you are torn between work and trying to get back to the old Robert

 

I think you will have to accept what has happened I know when my lin had her bleed 8 years ago plus it wasn't until lin went into rehab that I got help as I had been struggling on my own and became a very unpleasant person to the staff who looked after lin at the home.

 

However I was introduced to a clinical psychologist who came to see me and like you thought why do I need to see her im doing all right but with her asking the right questions she unlocked my mind and I did let all my frustrations flood out and I was reduced to tears.

 

Very much like yourself I've been always able to handle anything but somehow I got into a rut of being obnoxious and very unpleasant thinking I knew it all and having that one person unlock my frame of mind has certainly helped me  as a carer I have had to fight to get what my partner needed including medical services which I think is very much like you trying to recover.  

 

Please think about contacting the neuro unit and ask for an appointment with a clinical psychologist for some help  wishing you well . 

Hi Paul99

I would encourage anyone to give me their input. I should have took all this help within the first few months and done things differently. I was that bad that when they told me to rest I joined the gym,when they told me to stop that, I instead bought a bike and a dog to excercise. When I was told to cut back on work I took on a more high pressured job.

I maintained all along ,through my anxiety/fatigueness and all the other issues that all I needed to find was some coping mechanisms, today I think I have found my main one, talking.

Thankyou for your input.

58 minutes ago, kempse said:

Hi Robert,

 

A belated warm welcome to BTG and congratulations to you and Debbie on the birth of your son.

 

I'm sorry you have been through such an ordeal, but I hope with the excellent responses on your thread you will be able to pick up some useful coping strategies - either from the book recommended or from personal experiences of other members on here, through the various threads, who have also travelled the road of recovery following a bleed on the brain.

 

Wishing you all the best,

Sarah

 

Thank you Kempse,

The support on here is overwhelming. i wish I spoke sooner.

A friend told me a couple of years back I should document my journey. i should have listened but it won't be hard to revisit and document.

Im excited by my responses. hopefully in the future I can help some one else on here.

Kind regards.

On 12/21/2016 at 19:48, Macca said:

Hi Robert,

 

Welcome to BTG.

 

I wasn't going to reply or join in with this but in the end I couldn't resist.  The opinions I give below are entirely mine and I base them on what you have said, and your style of writing, and your responses to others above.  They are given with the best of intentions, but I hope you can get something from them, even if you don't agree, if only you get some clarity on how you see things in order to move forwards in your recovery.

 

Please don't keep beating yourself up about this. I have identified a number of issues here and I think to help your understanding, it is better that they are broken down to help you find the appropriate answers.

 

1] You were badly assaulted.  Even without a brain injury, this was a very traumatic event for you and is difficult to get over.  You will have had a mixture of anger, upset and shock.  You will have replayed that incident in your mind a hundred times and more.  Shock usually kicks in after the event when your mind starts to wonder what might have happened, over and above what actually did happen.  Stress builds because of that, in my opinion.

 

2] You suffered three injuries - two haemorrhages and a fractured skull.  Any one of them on their own is a major trauma which could take a long time to get over, let alone having three to deal with all in the same time frame.  Everybody on this site, just about, recognises that brain injuries take time to fix and that there are no instant answers.  We have to accept that and so we have to adapt.  Change happens, it is how we deal with it that matters. 

 

3] You probably went back to work too soon.  Not easy for you and not easy for your family, but I bet you wouldn't be told.

 

4] You took on a more pressurised job when really you needed a time-out to attempt a proper recovery before attempting to move on.  Looking at it from outside, you probably set yourself back a bit there.

 

5] With more pressure, your relationships with your wife and children took a bit of a hit.  These are the most important - not your work.

 

6] With some of the therapy sessions you probably went in too early and took on too much.  It sounds to me, from your own words, that maybe you were still railing against what had happened to you and were not receptive at that time to those trying to reach out to you.  In therapy you said you felt insulted.  For you to engage, it is vital that the therapist fully explains the aims and objectives of the sessions in great detail at the beginning - and with brain injury at the beginning of each session - for you to get the most from them.  Did you fully listen to the therapist or was your mind still arguing 'Why am I here?' with itself?  Had you come to terms with your injuries and accepting that these incidents had happened to you?  Or were you still fighting them?

 

7]  Is it too late to go back and admit you were perhaps wrong to leave the sessions?  Reach out to those trying to help you.  In my experience, they are always willing to reach out to those who are prepared to help themselves.  It isn't a matter of pride - it is a matter of getting you well again, and cognisant of the fact that you need help to get well again.  All of us need help at various times, you are no different, and at times you will reach out to others in the future.  You cannot change or control what has happened to you in the past, but you can accept it and then alter what happens to you in the future.

 

8]  A big issue for you seems to be recovery time. Let me tell you that, currently, you see time as your biggest enemy, because you want to be like the old you as soon as possible.  Sadly, with brain injuries, the reality just isn't like that.  Time is therefore your biggest friend, not your enemy.  You survived, and so time is what will allow you to address all these issues but one at a time, not all at once.

 

Time is a healer, but it needs help from you, your wife and children, your friends and your work colleagues.  But you have to let them. Talk to them and interact with them.  Do it in short bursts and let them know when things are becoming too much and you need a break before resuming.  They will be as distressed as you are but if you let them help you they will respond.  If your bag of shopping drops on the floor, you pick up the items one by one, you don't try to pick up all the items together because you will keep dropping things again.  So pick up your issues one by one, methodically, and put them in the shopping bag that is your life one by one.  You will find it easier to deal with things that way.

 

9] Your job is obviously important to you, but your family are more important.  Your kids don't care what job their Daddy does.  You could be a street sweeper (no dis-respect intended) for all they care  They want a happy, relaxed, Daddy that comes home to them at the end of the day, to talk and play with them and read them a bedtime story.  If you have a Mercedes, they wouldn't mind a Mini - as long as their Daddy, the best man in the world, is the driver.  They don't want to see Mr Grumpy.

 

10] Stay in touch with your doctors and therapists.  Their guidance will be vital in your recovery.  Work with them, not against them.  You cannot be an autocrat when your result depends on what they do - you need them onside.

 

11]  Pride comes before a fall is the old saying.  It is also the wrong emotion, in my opinion, to have in this circumstance.  What you need is dignity and you have that in spades.

There is no disgrace in getting or seeking help from others. Your parents helped you when you were growing up.  Your teachers did, too.  If you ask help from others in getting things done at work, what is the difference in getting them to help in your personal dealings?  The answer is 'none.'  The only thing is your perception.  In fact, there is a lot more respect to be gained in reaching out than in trying to go it alone.

 

What you are probably finding is that you are like two north or two south poles of a magnet - repelling each other rather than working together to attract each other and dealing with the problems that currently, that you see, blight your life.

 

12] Stay in touch with us Robert. We have all had brain injuries, or know someone who has (in the case of carers). Accept that the injuries are there and nothing can change that.  Resentment is a wasted emotion.  The best way to fight this is to get better and you can best do that by using all the resources (doctors, nurses, family, friends and colleagues) at your disposal to get well.

 

Help us to help you.

 

I wish you well,

 

Macca

Hi Macca,

Each and everyone of my replies today has been overwhelming for me.Talking about this today to complete strangers has been very liberating.

You say you were considering not getting involved. I can assure you I am so glad you did and I value your input a lot.

You touched on the counselling sessions. i had around fifteen sessions with a psycho therapist and you are totally correct. i did listen but not enough I was more annoyed by the whole situation of me sitting in that room being quizzed and advised on what I should do. To cut it short was totally the wrong decision.i just wanted my life to return to normal instantly and I was so so frustrated it didn't. You are also correct that I, at any time can start these sessions again.

Taking on the new job maybe came at the wrong time but for me to better myself and family I believed it was correct. I could not let the opportunity pass me by as I had considered it in the past. The injuries gave me the attitude that I only lived once, so I just went for it. 

Your comments on my kids will love me for me are also very correct . I have noticed this more recently. I am not a bad dad in anyway but the last few years I realise now I have been not easy to live with,i must relax.

I started this topic purely to see if anyone had these issues and were they related to my injury. i am glad no one has said no.

Macca what I would say to you is never hold back from getting involved. you have just helped me in ways you will maybe never realise.

I intend to stay in touch, visit Headway (contacted them today) and I have ordered James Cracknells book and just about to watch his google interview on you tube.

Thanks to each and everyone of these comments. feel free to all to input.

If I can help /give opinions to anyone then also feel free to contact me.

Kind regards. 

Robert. 

2 hours ago, Robert semple said:

Hi Daffodil,

 

Would you know the name of this book?

 

Thanks 

Hi

Now ordered ..thank you so much 

1 hour ago, Clare Miller said:

Hi Robert

 

I think the book that Daffs mentioned is called Touching Distance by James Cracknell, it is available from Amazon.

 

Wise words from Subs, with a view from a carers position.

 

Clare xx

Hi Clare,

You are a star, I have just ordered this through Amazon, this looks like very good book that will give me better understanding 

Thankyou xx 

6 hours ago, subzero said:

Hello Robert. Also a warm welcome to BTG. So glad you found the site, although as you say, if you had found BTG earlier it may well have helped you understand your recovery better in these early days.

Can I ask... how did you discover the site?

 

You have had great advice already from the members who have given you first hand comments from their own SAH journeys. This site is a wealth of information which will help you and your family as you read through the various threads. This again would have been so useful to you over the past three years.

 

So Robert, my input is from a carer`s point of view. My wife had her SAH 5 1/2 years ago.

 

Firstly, let me say how traumatic it must have been for you as the victim of an assault.

Can you tell us a little about the type of treatment you were given following your brain haemorrhages ?

 

The majority of people on this site were given very little by way of post hospital support. It looks as if this was indeed the case with you too.

 

As already explained, your eagerness to get back to your work, and even increase your work load, was exactly the opposite of what was ideal to aid your recovery. Brain haemorrhages require much rest in these early days. Your outward scars might have healed quickly, but your brain needed time to adjust to it`s trauma.

 

Robert, it is highly probable that your action in throwing yourself back into your job so soon,  has exacerbated your ability to react in tense situations. Post SAH it could well be that the patience you had before, to absorb pressure situations, has been affected by your brain trauma.

 

Now you tend to respond immediately with your `point of view`, and to some extent you are not really aware that the manner of your response may well offend/ hurts the other party. This other party may be a work colleague, a customer or indeed a member of your family. Sorry to say, your partner/wife/children who have known you so intimately, may now be seeing a personality change which can offend then and cause them to step back from you.

 

You can imagine, as this goes on with no end in sight, those who care about you become more and more offended and may decide they are not wiling to take any more.

This also may explain the OCD which you mention.

 

I would also ask... did you talk frankly about your difficulties with friends/family and work colleagues?

It is not uncommon to tend to hide how you really feel in your recovery.

 

It is well possible that you are not too late to make serious adjustments to your life style (perhaps in the short term) but for as long as it takes to give your brain and body the healing time it needs. I hope it is not too late to save the relationships you have lost. This decision only you can make.

Winnie our established member always says  `no stress`.

 

It would be helpful to aid your family`s understanding if they could also spend some time looking in to this site.

 

I wish you well as you re-evaluate what you want to achieve through this tough situation that has taken control of your life.  You can get back in charge.

 

Please only answer these questions if you feel ok with it

 

 

Subs

 

 

Hi subzero,

As I read that I genuinely become upset.

I discovered the site as I was looking online for forums or places to chat/meet about my issues within a group. The actions I took in the early days which I still try to defend as being positive have impacted my life in very negative way. I now will not lie down to this or admit I need to, clearly maybe I do.

On release from hospital I was referred to a brain recovery unit where I met various types of different therapists, the most important one for me helped me with cognitive issues, but I felt it became too deep and when they started to talk to me about how I become a dad again I felt insulted and never returned. I was quizzed on my sudden recovery as I told doctors and therapists I was ok, again, I was not.

With regards to my openness with all parties about how I felt about being a victim remains to this day very very deep, burying issues is a trait I can not rid myself of. I prefer to laugh than cry in all situations and just bury the hurt, no one knows my struggles other than my partner who has just joined the site (debbiejg86)

Winnie is correct I should adapt to a no stress situation but in my lifestyle it is very hard not to.

We have just had a beautiful baby boy and with it all my issues have come more to light as I struggle to cope with various things including noise/routine.

I have taken the first steps in admitting I need to reflect and maybe visit headway.

To yourself as a carer I salute you because it's just as hard for the carer as you lose a small part of your partner and have to witness first hand the issues that arise with these circumstances.

Thankyou 

8 hours ago, Daffodil said:

Hi Robert, welcome to BTG and sorry to hear you are having a tough time of it.

 

Brain damage is a peculiar injury in that we don't recover necessarily we just adapt and learn to adjust styles and thinking that works around the damaged or affected area. So over time we may see improvements but it is a different state of brain to one before the bleed and injury. 

 

James Cracknell and his wife wrote a book about his adapting to life after brain injury and how pushing too hard caused him some temper issues , it's worth a read, and I  think you should reach out to Headway if you are in the U.K  just to see if they can help you practically with some coping strategies. 

 

Robert the hardest person putting the most pressure on us is us. The ego of wanting to get back to everything as it was before and trying to show that nothing has changed , well it's our only measure. WE all  have to accept that in that moment we had our bleeds things changed and now it's maybe time for you to take a moment to adjust and adapt and be a little less fixed in how you approach things. Pride has its place but it can leave you very lonely so please just tell people you are struggling and see the healing that can come from that and possibly some release from struggling.

 

One of our members, Kris, wrote something on a thread the other day which I saved as it really resonated with me , maybe it will with you. 

 

 

I'm going through some re evaluation at the moment as it's  four plus years on from mine in that I am still trying to bend too much to the old instead of living the new. Why not join me with my resolution for 2017 Robert and try and live the new a bit more, maybe we can both make some changes  ?

 

 

 

Hi Daffodil,

Would you know the name of this book?

Thanks. 

Hi,

Re evaluation has to happen in my case. At the age of 33 I'm now back with my parents due to the issues I am having. I now have the time to evaluate and I will for sure read that book, many thanks for  your advice and kind comments. Recovery is harder than I thought it would be. 

Hi ladies,

Thanks for the reply.

I was attacked and took one severe punch to the head which I believe knocked me out, but I also crashed my head badly on the road. I was then in hospital for ten days. I chose not too take the help as I felt too proud. I did however take some sessions with a counsellor to help with the cognitive side of things, which I still struggle with at times.

If you were to ask me an on the spot question which I know the answer to or I know I used to know,  if I do not get to that answer quickly enough, I become very agitated and embarrassed. This becomes awkward for me and the other party. My aggression at home is now causing me relationship problems and breaking down relationships with several friends as I have become very unsociable and my kids are very wary of me.

I also have terrible OCD. are these common side effects? Going backwards is not an option for me. i just need to find a coping mechanism. I got a substantial criminal injuries claim which stated I had brain damage expected to last two years .

Hi, it will be three years since I had two brain haemorrhages along with bleeding of the brain and a fractured skull. Rather than do what I should have done I decided not to rest as I am so driven. Even decided within the first six months recovery to take on a more high pressured job. 

I have had issues including anxiety and numbness of my forehead from the day this happened. I struggle with anger and routine also now. Has anyone else had these issues? I am trying to determine whether or not my now issues  are haemorrhage related?

Thanks.

Robert.