Sarah, I am so sorry for your loss.
It's been about 2 years since I visited the forum, and then only for a short time in the early days of my wife's SAH recovery, but I immediately remembered your mother as soon as I read your message. She was among the first to reply to my posts each time, with compassion and humor.
Just now, I looked back at her first reply to me and I saw a bit of advice I realize should have been more careful to follow all along: "Do not let wife hear sad stories of doom and gloom. I cannot take sadness anymore !!"
Thank you Win.