Mary, just tell them you can't commit to that kind of cost right now because of the bills from your recent brain hemmorhage, and you really don't appreciate the hassle. That usually stops 'em dead in their tracks! Sandi K - do you remember how long the dropsies lasted? I cracked up when I read your post from about 10 days ago about the dropsies - my husband was just teasing me about them today as I unintentionally threw things around the kitchen.
I just read through this whole thread (some of it for the 2nd time). I feel like I am having plenty of good days, but I have been trying to listen to my brain and rest when I feel the need, which is definitely a new concept for me. I'm about 19 weeks post-SAH, and have been focussing more on my family and have very little patience for anything else. I used to do a ton of fundraising and volunteer work at my kid's schools, now I am leaving all of that to others. I'm having a hard time caring about it. I have to say I like the new me. I was pretty type-A before SAH, and while admiring the scenery on a spring break trip in the mountains a few weeks ago, I told my husband that there was at least one advantage to the SAH - it pulled the stick out of my rear-end! He was kind enough not to laugh too much, but I think he agreed!
Because I've slowed down, I've been able to be much more spontaneous in recent months. Today I enjoyed the afternoon with my 10 year-old and some friends watching Chimpanzee and talking about Earth Day. I probably wouldn't or couldn't have managed that pre-SAH. I'm getting through by listening to my body and finding joy in the little things, something I didn't do much of before December.