I'm fast approaching the first anniversary of my SAH. "It" came as an out-of-the-blue surprise to me and those around me as I was fit and (relatively) young at 38. I initially had a fast rate of recovery, but feel like I have plateaued in recent months. I was wondering why I was still getting headaches and experiencing fatigue if my MRI scans returned great results and the blood irritation had dissipated?
So I found your forum and had a quick scan through other's posts. This has reassured me that I'm actually tracking OK (seems that I'm getting off quite lightly in comparison to many). So a big 'thanks' to those who have shared their experiences and tips for coping already. Understanding what's going on seems to make it all less daunting.
I returned to work around 2 months after the SAH, but only 4 hrs for 4 days a week, and that's still about as much as I can handle at the moment. Physically I'm at about 90-95% of where I was at pre-SAH, back playing football and hitting the gym (albeit with a tempered programme). But it's the concentration with reading/writing/problem solving that still knocks me around (which is what my job entails). That, and I've got three young boys, including an 'very independent' 3 year old.
Sometimes I wonder how you distinguish between the symptoms of the SAH and parenthood. At least the tolerance/short-fuse problems I was having earlier in the recovery have pretty much rescinded. Did anyone else have that?
My employer has been very understanding and supportive, which is particularly fortunate as you don't need any extra stress. The SAH has changed my perspective on a lot of things actually - especially about not sweating the small stuff. Little inconveniences are simply not worth the energy.
Another matter I was hoping to tap into your collective knowledge and experience on was managing family life - the kids seem to take it all in stride, but I'm conscious of the extra load my reduced capacity places on my wife.
Any tips/comments on the above would be greatly appreciated!