Hi,
I'm new to this site and am looking for advice for a carer as my Mum had a grade 5 SAH about a month ago, she is home now, and Dad and I feel she is recovering remarkably. Last week she was very sick in the car on the way home, and any motion makes her feel sick. Even just pottering around the house (she will get up to go to the bathroom, and then have to recover and rest from that for a while) she gets tired and feels sick very easily. Has anyone else experienced this?
The sickness has reduced since being in hospital, as she has gone from actually being sick, to feeling sick. But trying to eat makes her feel sick as well, we are hoping that like most things, this will improve with time. What are other people's experiences of this?
Understandably, she is very cautious about going in a car again. Her relatives wanted to take her out to lunch, but she explained how tired and fatigued she was, even just getting herself downstairs tires her out, and that she doesn't want to go in a car due to the sickness, and they unbelievably turned tut, and didn't even come and see mum. Dad and I have had trouble with them since Mum has been in hospital.
Her brother phoned up the nurses looking after my mum a week after being in hospital and was f-ing and swearing and shouting at them because they couldn't give him an update about mum due to Data Protection, despite Dad and I contacting them twice daily. So my Dad called this side of the family up to ask what was going on and was subjected to yet another rant of shouting and swearing, and accusations of us "hogging" my mum.
It was all we needed really after Mum being in hospital for a week, and trying to come to terms with everything after her SAH, coming to terms with the fact that she has a high chance of death. We had been told she had a huge bleed on her frontal lobes, and an infarction at the back of her head. After trying to explain to these troglodytes what happened to Mum, the consequences, what happens now, recovery etc etc they still don't seem to understand. We even got one of the Doctors to explain, given them leaflets, the penny still doesn't drop.
They continue to argue about who's been on the worst painkillers, while mum lays there semi-conscious. It infuriates me! Has anyone got any ideas on how best to deal with them? How to make them understand? I think they've had numerous explanations, think they know it all already and aren't listening to even my mum. Should my Dad and I leave them to it and ignore them? I don't want them forcing my mum into things she doesn't want to do.
Thanks in advance
