Mum of five Posted September 10, 2014 Share Posted September 10, 2014 Hello to one and all, I haven't been on for a while. I need some help/ advice from anyone and everyone. I had my sah on the 16th December last year I like most people were given the statistics 8000 pa of which 50% don't reach hospital etc etc.Sunday just gone my mother had a massive SAH it's a grade four with haematoma, she has been given a 20-30% chance of survival and is currently in a coma in intensive care she also has another large aneurysm which is currently unruptured. I have come home for two days as my son is due an operation but will be travelling down again early Friday morning.My question I guess is if this affliction is as rare as the powers that be say then why oh why am I stood not even nine months after my first bleed watching my mother fighting for her life.I have gone through the last few days feeling decidedly detached from this whole situation (possibly the only plus I've ever found with having had a sah) even though I have nearly got myself run over twice, fallen down the stairs and had many a detour when I start going right again. It is quite clearly registering in my head but not with my emotions which is a blessing and I believe the tools that have got me through the last few days.The doctors fear that if she does make it she will be significantly brain damaged which is a whole new world as she's been a widow since I was fourteen so will need full-time care. My sister has turned into the wicked witch of the west demanding she has power of attorney, removed money and jewellery from my mother's house etc etc saying I haven't a clue what my mother is going through as I survived so mine was obviously not a "real" sah or a patch on my mother's, given that my sister only visited me for an hour on day nine of the three weeks I spent in hospital and not once rang intensive care or the ward to see if I was still alive I find incredibly stressful.This additional stress is going to be having an impact on my own well being even though I can't feel it which obviously puts me at risk again.Any help would be gratefully received Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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