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Finally - 5 Years

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All,

 

Tomorrow, April 9th, will be five glorious years since my brain pop.  Just kidding about the "glorious".  My birthday is April 7th (every year!!) and as happy as I am to be alive and celebrate it, the two days after feels so much more compelling and powerful. It happened to me and I can say it did.  I feel I can breathe quietly and calmly ( two words that typically do not describe me)  because it has taken five years to feel "safe" again.   In the beginning I simply wanted to feel better.  My goal was three months, then six months,  then one year, then two, etc...  You get the gist.  I push forward and now at five years I will look for another five years and push forward.  I will always have goals.  It helps. 

 

I will not say I'm glad this happened and I am 100%.  No, no, no, I've come to terms that I will NEVER be the same person and that's okay. I wrestled, I fought, I cried, I threw temper tantrums, and quite frankly it just make my head hurt worse.  :)

 

Some things in life you must do alone, even with others around.  Struggle and achievement.   I struggled for a long time trying to maintain an image of who I once was and should be but it is exhausting.  It has been difficult, it has been challenging, but through it all I found that I'm pretty darn resilient.  My momma made me that way.

 

I am not as afraid as I once was.  Yes, I still have headaches, dizziness, and weirdness in my brain but I have learned to manage it and I go on.  That is the hard truth, we must go on and persevere.  We all must face what we must face with that strength you did not know resided within.  Mix that in a bowl with faith and hope and you have created a very powerful force to be the person you need to be. 

 

Thank you all for your strength and encouragement these past five years.  It is now my turn to help the "newbies" see there is a new day approaching.

 

iola

 

 

 

 

 

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Hi Iola and well done five years post SAH

 

Thank you for that very personal and honest insight into your life with SAH.

 

Your advice and support to others on BTG is always valued.

 

 

 

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Hi Iola,

 

Congratulations on reaching this milestone - very well done.  I remember when you first joined us and what a struggle you had with doing ordinary things!  Now look at you!

 

You are reflecting now with the benefit of a hard earned wisdom, learnt through hard experiences, and by listening to others who had been there before you, and by realising yourself that you had to change and adapt. 

 

The problem with change is that is was forced on you rather abruptly when not only did you not want to do it, you resented the impact it had on your life and rebelled.  Nevertheless, you got to grips with it and you realised that you needed to do it and your body was telling you that you had no choice - and like everything else in life you do it to the best of your abilities with style and elegance and your family reaps the benefits of the new you.

 

Yes, you can look back at life like you do in an old photograph album - but that is also who you were, not who you are.  The experiences you look upon in that album made you the person you are now!  SAH is just another of those experiences (albeit one of the more serious and unpleasant ones).

 

That's how I look at it now and I will continually look forwards.  I only look back when I feel nostalgia - I've made that place in my mind for those moments, but then it's time to shut the album and get on with life as best I can!

 

Well done Iola - you are a credit to yourself and your family.  Thank you for sharing this with us all.

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Congrats. Well done. You are right when you say we are alone when facing with challenges in life. It is one s attitude that makes a difference. I have seen it with patients and friends a like. One can stay depressed and helpless or one can seek help, be resilient and get better. 

I m in Carroll/ Howard county. Hope we ll get spring weather soon.

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Hi Iola, 

I can remember when you first came on here and we spoke about shunts etc. 

 

You are a lovely person and sooo sensible (Unlike me) lol.  Well it wouldn't do if we were all the same.

 

Glad you are over the 5 year mark as it takes us that long, as for tears and tantrums still get a few of them every so often lol 

Love 

Win and the next Anni versary xxxx

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Congratulations on your 5 years Iola. You are a couple of years ahead of me and I often look at your progress and compare mine as we had similar events.

You have battled through and should be proud of all you have achieved. Yes we have changed and no things will never be as they were, but we are battling through the adversity and winning!

Keep up with the positive outlook, it will be much appreciated by new members to our very selective club.

 

Clare xx

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11 hours ago, Catwoman23 said:

Congrats. Well done. You are right when you say we are alone when facing with challenges in life. It is one s attitude that makes a difference. I have seen it with patients and friends a like. One can stay depressed and helpless or one can seek help, be resilient and get better. 

I m in Carroll/ Howard county. Hope we ll get spring weather soon.

Good grief, I'm in St. Mary's County.  Not far from you.   Fellow Marylander.

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13 hours ago, Macca said:

Hi Iola,

 

Congratulations on reaching this milestone - very well done.  I remember when you first joined us and what a struggle you had with doing ordinary things!  Now look at you!

 

You are reflecting now with the benefit of a hard earned wisdom, learnt through hard experiences, and by listening to others who had been there before you, and by realising yourself that you had to change and adapt. 

 

The problem with change is that is was forced on you rather abruptly when not only did you not want to do it, you resented the impact it had on your life and rebelled.  Nevertheless, you got to grips with it and you realised that you needed to do it and your body was telling you that you had no choice - and like everything else in life you do it to the best of your abilities with style and elegance and your family reaps the benefits of the new you.

 

Yes, you can look back at life like you do in an old photograph album - but that is also who you were, not who you are.  The experiences you look upon in that album made you the person you are now!  SAH is just another of those experiences (albeit one of the more serious and unpleasant ones).

 

That's how I look at it now and I will continually look forwards.  I only look back when I feel nostalgia - I've made that place in my mind for those moments, but then it's time to shut the album and get on with life as best I can!

 

Well done Iola - you are a credit to yourself and your family.  Thank you for sharing this with us all.

Always love reading your input.  Thank you kind sir.

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Congratulations Iola on your 5 year brain pop anniversary :)

I too remember when you first came on here and i have to say, huge respect and well done, you should feel very proud of all you have achieved.

 

I hope you had a wonderful day celebrating.

Take care lovely lady and thank you for coming back and sharing with us.

 

Love Tina xx  

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Congratulations Iola on your 5 year anni-versary,

 

You are winning the battle and that gives us all hope, you are truely an inspirational lady and I love your honesty.

Your words will give confidence to those who are just setting out on this journey that we have all travelled,  that yes you may not be the same person as you were but acceptance of who you have become goes a long way to helping with recovery.

 

Love 

Michelle xx 

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"Some things in life you must do alone even with others around"  

This statement is so very true.  I have come to realize that no matter how much anyone wants to help or understand it is my journey.  Congratulations on 5 years.  This has truly been my only form of therapy, reading other's journey.  As I approach 1 year I am seeing there is a new day approaching and part of the reason I am seeing it is because of people like you who stop and take the time to send words of wisdom words of hope..

Jean

 

 

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So good to hear from you Iola and congrats on the 5 year anniversary!  You've made great strides along the way. Moving on to the ten year mark myself and you are very correct- we are never the same as we were before. However, the BTG site is excellent proof that we adapt brilliantly.  You go, girl!

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