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Does anyone else keep reliving the event. Many times a day I go over what happened, how it felt and the sequence of events. I’m back there on that dreadful evening. I want to stop thinking about it and move forward but I can’t. 

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Hey there

I did this for ages after mine. It dominated my every waking thought.  It does get easier and you do get to a point where you don't think about it so much and then one day, you'll realise that you've not thought about it that much for weeks.  Don't get me wrong, it's always there in your mind but it doesn't dominate quite so much.

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Thanks Skippy. It’s driving me daft at the moment. I don’t want to keep thinking about it but it just pops in. 

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Its perfectly normal for it to pop into your head.  It'd be the same, I guess, if you had a really good experience about something; the memory would keep popping into your head.  Unfortunately, this is something we'd rather didn't keep doing so.  My therapist told me to let the "video" in my head run a little longer each time it appears - when I can watch the whole thing without trying to distract myself then I'm on the way to recovery mentally.  

 

My hubby had a very serious motorbike accident 4 1/2 years ago and I had to identify him before they could operate - I still have that memory pop into my head now - walking through A&E and seeing him unconscious in a bed (not a mark on his face) and saying "yes, that's him".  Every time that thought popped in there I had a panic attack.  My hubby's brain specialist put my in touch with CBT practitioner and he talked me through everything - it was brilliant, now I can "watch" that memory without the panic attack.

 

Stay positive - it will get better hun x

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I relived the event for ages afterwards but in time the frequency got less.

In fact, just over 16 years later, it still happens but very rarely. Think there must be a trigger but for the life of me can't identify what that trigger is.

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Other side of this I don't remember a thing anything at all no memories what-so-ever, If you feel its getting you down why not try councelling it really can help, help you deal with it...

 

wishing you well..

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Hi Sallios,

 

Yes yes yes...over and over and over...when I was in bed at night I could actually feel like I was back in intensive care....I went for therapy for it...it did help me....just talking about it...I think my family and friends have heard it all so I try to not talk about it...

 

but it is with me all the time like a back pack...I have found meditation (visualizing pleasant things) to be more helpful then I would have ever given it credit for...breathing again, I thought it was daffy, but gave it a try and yes it is helpful...

 

Time...oh yes time has been helpful to me...coming up on 3 years in May...it is not as clear as it was...but my symptoms don't help they keep it present to a large degree...I feel I am ever so slowly embracing my new self and what it changes in my life...

I am better than I was...but still it is with me everyday...would like it to take a vacation haha....

 

My best wishes for peace...

xx Jean

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Hi Salllios

 

I echo what everyone has said. I think sometimes the reliving it is worse than going through it as you can't just leave it in the last. I also had CBT and it did help for a while but once I stopped it soon crept back in.  I am going to return to therapy as I think it really helps. I also find mindfulness and yoga helps too. 

 

Swishy I really can relate to everything you said. I would love to just not think about it. Not quite at 2 years yet but hopeful it will happen.

 

Wishing you all the best for your recovery. 

Charlotte 

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Thanks everyone for your replies. As if we don’t all have enough to deal with with our various deficits our minds play these tricks on us. I hope we all find peace from the memories at some point.

Thanks again 

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I have very limited recall of the whole episode.


My wife talked me through what happened though, witnessed by my teenage kids, it sounded horrific, but it has brought us closer together and made me love them even more!

 

I know get random hugs from my 13 year old son, silver linings and all that.....

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