lemonade

Hi Jan

A big welcome to BTG. You will get that people really dont understand the fatigue and how it affects us. We all understand on here. I still have people teling me now not to be so lazy. My partner at last understands now how tired i get especially when i over do it. You are doing really well to get on this site so soon when it was only in May.

Take care of yourself and be lazy you are in recovery.

Ann x

winb143

that made me laugh i'm the same but use my finger wriggling it around in circles because i just can't remember what i want to say. my partner does it as well now for me now I do it when i'm with strangers as well they must think i'm nuts. Only people on here understand. Yes i agree Sandi you have to laugh.

Thanks for the replies everyone. Good to know its not just me. My sleep pattern is rubbish at the moment so am going to monitor it. Tracy i agree with you can't retain anything i am shown just have to be told over and over again until eventually it clicks. I used to get in the shower with my watch on all the time have had to stop wearing it. Set fire to the oven gloves cooking sunday dinner last week didnt even notice they were on fire good job my son was there. On the plus side started driving again but keep forgetting to change gear new clutch her we come.

Hi All,

My concentration is getting worse, anyone else suffered like this. Thought i had improved a lot now 15 months on since SAH, ive had to go on sick again only been back since february this year.

Hi sandi

Its nearly a year for me now and my concentration and memory are still shocking. just returned to work and i'm struggling. Everyone says i look so well. no one seems to understand how it affects you. My partner says i have improved so much but i don't see it myself. He used to tell me to concentrate easier said than done. i used to get really upset. He at least understands now that i really find it hard to concentrate. we have to accept who we are now and get on with what we have got. just keep working at it Sandi.

hi lemonade and tina

you are both in the very early days of recovery and you will feel depressed and suffer from anxiety it is normal one thing you are coming to terms that things have changed big time and its going to take quite some time for your bodies to adjust and recover but this will be in your own bodies time unfortunately you cant rush this process your hormones have also been altered by the sah and it will take time to adjust it will happen promise and it may take time to get the medication just right for your own body

you will go through many different signs and symptoms during the first year or so but what you need to do is try and take one day at a time please the tears lemonade is part of the healing process many on here have gone through the same thing i don't think the family will desert you it will also be hard for them to come to terms of what you and them have gone through the threat of possibility of losing either of you because that what has happened and that is very hard to shake no matter who goes through this nightmare it there any chance that you could sit with your own family and have a talk to see how each other feels about what has happened and try to get everything out in the open air so they know how you feel and you get to know how they feel i still cry because of no reason something just triggers me and im away ive given up trying to hide them i just let them flow and the friends i do have understand and im never belittled either nor are the staff who look after lin you will have good days and some bad days but within a fairly short period of time the good days take priority and the bad days diminish promise you could also talk to the surgeon and get a refferal to have counciling at the hospital and it may help your families if they logged on and read the posts on the site all i have to say now is take one day at a time and let go on here if you find it hard thats what we are here for to support each other take care

Thank you for yourkind words and encouragement. my boys wont even talk about what happened they just think i am dwelling on things toomuch.

Hi Lemonade

I suffered really bad anxiety within the first 3 months after my SAH. Although it has now eased a lot I do still suffer bad bouts occasionally; making me angry and tearful.

I hope you manage to get some counselling sorted out to help deal with your emotions. I have had counselling and it helped so much, as I was initially so confused about why I was feeling so down (I know that sounds odd, but I was confused about what had happened, and why). Having it stated that I was suffering from Post Traumatic Stress actually helped me to start healing, as I could read up about it and know that I wasn’t going mad! Good luck

Hi Nita

Glad you’re still here with us and congratulations on your journey of survival since your SAH. Glad to hear you are feeling happy now although it is sad that it was such a hard road for you to get to this point.

Take care

Kel x

hi nita i am waiting to see a psychologist 6 weeks wait i think. glad you are on the road to recovery

Thank you all for your responses and re-assurance. i know i will get there just cant see the light at the end of the tunnel at the mo. iits having to adjust to a new way of life as well when i used to be so independant. my familyjust think i am feeling sorry for myself i have tried to explain but they dont understand.

idont like having to take antis but no choice cos i am so bad. i knowhow you feel trying to adjust to a new life is so hard and the acceptance as well. good luck with your gp hope you get sorted I was also a positive person imsure we willbe again

Thanks for reply i have been put on2 lots of anti depressants but its a caseof waiting for them to take effect. my family cant take muchmore of me crying. did you have coiling/

so pleased i have found this site i had my SAH in april this year and i'm suffering from really bad depression and anxiey. has anyone else had this and overcome it. i feel i am going to loose all my friends and family because of it.