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Thank you Dawn!!! Yes, I have tried to use threads before for other things but I have always found them so very confusing!!! I must ask...has anyone ever heard of anyone after SAH experienceing "being easily manipulated" or "impulsive buying", I seem to have noticed that as being a change and wondered of anyone else had this experience! It sort of scares me!

I have found that most of my personal struggles are worrying that it will happen again and no one will be around. He lives 1.5 miles away from me. I have found that whenever I hear the ambulance in the area I am contacting one of the members to make sure they are not going to his house (I used to be an EMT so I have a good rapport with them). I also feel as though I have done something wrong when I haven't seen him in quite a length of time, but he doesn't realize how much time has passed. And again I just feel awful because he won't let me help do things around the house. So I think tomorrow I will go and mow while he is at work...maybe he won't know @David, I would love to see the brochure!!!! Again I am not familiar with how to use this site yet...or any kind of thread for that matter. I may have to ask my teen to help me for they seem to know it all! Thank you in advance for that! If anyone can help learn to navigate this site that would be great!!! I know already this will help me tremendously!!! Thank you all for the warm welcome!

Thank you all so very much for your time and support! I agree with everyone on the fact that its very early for him to return to work, and to answer one of the questions, yes, it was coiling. As I had said before, nurses are the worst patients!!! A lot of the suggestions that I have read have been utilized, such as setting alarms for cooking and meds, as well as sleep and rest. Unfortunatly I feel that its as though his pride has been crushed for he feels that he needs to rely on others for help, and therefore will not ask for it. I have offered numerous times to help mow the lawn or other odds and ends around his house just to free him up to be able to do the things that he is supposed to do such as sleeping and resting! I have actually thought about going over and just doing these things while he's at work, but I feel as though I would be over-stepping in some way if I had. If I hadn't said before, we have been friends for 18 yrs, but as far as the relationship aspect, it is new to us so I am not wanting to push, but at the same time I feel as though I need to, yet need to figure out a way to do so without crushing his pride. I am however learning to be patient for it's not one of my strong suits, but I must admit this is also changing me for the best as well! Not only am I new to the site, but I am also new to threads and am unsure as to how to use these or navigate around this just yet, but I am sure I will learn very soon and fast! Again thank you so very much for all of your time and I am soooo thrilled to have found somewhere that I can vent, ask questions and share concerns!

Hi there. My name is Heather and I am contacting you for I am in search of learning how to support someone who suffered from SAH. A friend of mine whom I have known for 20 years and have currently come to be in a relationship with suffered a double SAH 2 months ago today. He came through amazingly, so amazing that he was back to work in healthcare in just under a month. As amazing as he has been I have some concerns and am unsure as to how to support him. He seems to have no time perception, a week can go by and he has no idea, it's like he lost it. The most recent was that he had not seen me in a week and didn't realize it. I have done things such as leave little sticky notes as reminders as to what he might need to remember to do that. He expresses his appreciation for these! Feeling as though I am ranting now, I am writing for I need to find out what I can do as an outsider who has no idea what a person who suffered SAH is thinking or feeling. When I ask him how I can help he responds with things like "if he knew he'd have done it himself". I even went so far today as to contact his doctor just to ask non HIPPA questions about how to help a person who has been through this (I was unaware that there were support groups out there). Just basic non-related to a certain person questions. But they wouldn't talk to me without him there. I just wish to be of some help and support for this feeling of helplessness for someone can be quite overwhelming. Thank you in advance for anything that you can tell me that will allow any ease the pain that I can't imagine he is going through!!!