Hi Everyone, it's good to meet you all.
My name is Lyn. I live with my partner Gray. In June 2007 Gray had a SAH. I did not know him at this time. We met at the end of August in the same year when I moved into a flat opposit him. You can guess the rest! He was bright and cheerful, funny and recovering well. We enjoyed doing the same things, riding our bikes, looking and being around boats, walking. He was a bit forgetful, and had the odd vacant siezure where he would forget where he was or what he was doing and had headaches as you would expect, as he healed... but we muddled through. I had not known him any other way. I fell hopelessly in love with him!
In August of this year due to the reccession Gray's work dried up and so did the money. The house that he was living in was sold and the plan was that we would live together as partners. CRUNCH TIME! I got cold feet and changed my mind...I did not fall out of love, I just got cold feet... We are together now and no less in love than we were before, if anything moreso, but Gray fell apart. He is now back to where he was shortly after he came out of hospital. It was all too much. He has headaches which I worry about, he is forgetful and I feel like I am nagging if I remind him about things, he is back at work now but earning a lot less money and says he feels like he has stepped back in time 20 years! Sometimes he pushes me away because he says his brain "fritzes out" He likens his brain functions to a million train tracks where the train keeps getting lost and the tracks keep being closed. We are waiting for counselling, but it seems like we have been waiting forever...
Reading back over this posting, it sounds selfish and very me me me... I don't want it to be like that.. I want to know how to support my man and help him recover. Any advice would be so welcome.
Thanks for listening