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  1. Just using Lauren's account to see what comes up...K x

  2. Hey Moony! I'm Karen's daughter. I'm 16, 17 in September so I'm in year 11 - are you? I was about 15 when my mum had her SAH. I didn't receive much support from my friends. The day after my mum went into hospital, I saw them for the first time and they just stared at me as if I had some sort of contagious disease. :? I can find it quite frustrating when my friends still don't understand. Although cancer is an awful disease, I find that I don't get taken seriously by people because my mum has a different illness. For me, the worst thing about seeing my mum in hospital was that it was like looking at a completely different person. All these drugs, pain killers and effects of the actual SAH had taken away the person I loved the most and that was just terrifying. It's petrifying how quickly things can turn around and I remember going into actual shock (panic attacks, nearly being sick etc. :?) when my mum was taken into hospital. It definitely took me a lot of time to get over that night. In a way I am lucky that my mum's SAH occured during my summer holidays, so I did not have to worry about coursework. However, various complications and 'blips' during the last 2 years of my mum's recovery have meant that sometimes school work was the last thing on my mind! I'm glad you're keeping on top of all your course work. Although it is difficult to motivate yourself, sometimes distraction is the best thing. I'm sure that your dad will be really proud of you for that!! *hugs* Stay strong and keep in touch!
  3. Even if there was a high risk of me having an aneurysm, I don't think I would ask to be screened, unless it was necessary. I know all the symptoms of SAH and am well informed about it. SAH is like a bomb, and knowing I had an aneurysm wouldn't determine my outcome or survival rate if I were to have one.
  4. Thanks for the reply, Andy! You come across as a very optimistic person and I completely agree with the above posts. Later on in life I hope I meet someone who is as caring! I also read your article on Heather's SAH. Do you write at all? I thought that it was beautifully written and I could relate to a lot of your feelings, especially: Nothing and no one is a comfort to you. I found your article to be very comforting in knowing that at least someone else went through the same sort of emotions as me. I imagine it must've been very hard for you to have written that. I find that most people don't seem to understand the seriousness of an SAH. Though I understand this, I sometimes feel like an overreacting idiot in front of some people! If you say the word 'cancer', people are automatically sympathetic, if you say the word 'brain haemorrhage', nobody thinks it's a big deal, which I can find a bit frustrating sometimes.
  5. Hi everyone, I'm Karen's daughter, Lauren. Before last year, I never would've realised how much of an impact the SAH had on myself and the rest of the family. I think the worst thing about the SAH was knowing that everything was out of your hands and that you had no control over the life or death situation. That night I didn't think anything could possibly get worse until we suddenly had a powercut. I don't think somebody liked me that day! I coped by talking (probably far too much!) about it to my close friends but I also coped by taking my mind off of things - after mum's SAH, I hated staying in the house where it constantly felt empty and strange for a long time. Her SAH affected me deeply for a long time. I didn't like how my brother and my dad hid their emotions as it made me feel as if I was overreacting. I coped by crying, whereas my dad, knowing he had no control over mum, coped by over-controlling everything else, such as the housework. Mum's SAH has made me stronger as a person and has made me a lot more appreciative of the people around me. I also think mum coped amazingly with her SAH and I admire her for that. As a relative or a friend of an SAH sufferer, how did you and others around you cope? Are you still coming to terms with the great impact the illness can bring? Lauren x
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