rod123

Hi laura this is the first post i've repield to but i think all the feelings you are having in the circumstances are feelings we would all have at the mo even with the pay cut you have security, and a change at this time is back to the unknown but only you can make this decision, but what i will say is that doing a job you are not happy in is not good ( i did that for 30 years ) so if and when you decide to change i think that feeling of doubt will always be there thats because you're a thinking person and don't jump in feet first so what ever you decide all the best to you. Rod

Hi again and once again thankyou for your comments they do help

thank you all for your comments very helpfull Rod

Hi Merrill my wife had an SAH on 27th march,2 aneurysms, (did i spell that right ) 1 coiled on the 30th but they were unable to coil the 2nd so on the 4th april they clipped it god the longest 4 days of my life just before they took her off to theatre i got upset, she put out her hand and said come here and then said this is worse for you than it is for me is'nt it I said" i dont think so but it comes a damn good second" this is how Merrill is she always been my support,i have never done anything since i was 16 yrs old without her by my side god i feel lost now!on thursday the 7th april she was readmitted to norfolk and norwich hosp and then transfererd to Addenbrooks on sat she had a shunt fitted ( i wish i could put her head on my shoulders and do this for her. Last night she came home and has been asleep most of the dayapart from this morning she got up at 8 had breakfest but sicked it up at 9 doc came in gave her an ant sickness tab and she is back in bed now a sleep in about 30 mins i will see if she's awake and try her with some dinner. I think that nothing in this world is worse than what she has been through this last few weeks but from a carers point of view it comes in very close, i love her so much she is what i wake for every day and it is so hard to watch this i give her all the support i can i'm not an emotionally strong person matters of the heart always get me this morning she cried not in front of me but when my daughter was here because of the confusion and after my daughter left we had acry together this is very hard and i sure many of you have been here and have come through this but does'nt it seem along way ahead thanks for listening Rod

Hi here i am again sorry to keep asking questions but my wife had a shunt fitted saturday and this is her first day home this morning after breakfastshe sicked it all up again doc came in again and gave her an anti nausea tablet and she is now sleeping has anyone else had these sickly feelings after having one fitted and can anyone tell me if the shunt takes time to settle and this is what causes tne sickness sorry to be apain but i feel as though i must learn as much about this to be able to help merrill thanks again Rod

Hi can anyone tell me about their experience of post op confusion, how bad it was and how long before it started to improve are there good times and bad times for you just trying to get some idea as to how bad this confusion can get also did anybody experience really low body tempretures as merrills temp is often no more than 32c although she complains of feeling hot and often feels clamy thanks for your help Rod

Hi again today when i went to the hospital they said merrill could come home and it's great to have her home. Merrill is not normaly a difficult person, but she has been home 3 hours and has been difficult,when she got home she was very confused and i put this down to the fact that she had not had a rest today as they had been working with her this morning and then we spent all afternoon waiting for discharge papers and did'nt get her home till 7 o clock then she was fixaetd on the fact that everything i said to her she told me yes i know i had a letter about it this morning which of course i knew was untrue then she told me that just before they discharged her they told her she had heart problems which again i knew was untrue is this a normal level of confusion just after discharge anybody had similar experiences be glad to hear your comments thanks Rod

HI to you all again and sorry i did'nt give you much info before i just wanted answers and you all pitched in with them and thankyou Iwould like to say thanks to paul who have listened to me supported me and helped me these last couple of days anyway a little about both of us my wifes name is Merril and i'm Rodney (Rod) she had an sah and it was the most frightning time of my lifetaken to norwich hospital and transfered to Addenbrooks where she was found to have 2 Anuerysmns one was coiled but they could'nt get the other as the neck was too wide so she went back to the theatre 4 days later and had it clipped she was dicharged 11 days after the clipping she was doing well for 3 weeks then I noticed the confusion got worse along with some of the other symtons took her to my gp sent back to Norwich hospital and was transfered back to Addenbrookes friday 8 05 09 where they fitted a shunt I can tell u frighten the life out of me again but today sunday she seemed fine when i got there from the very first moment of this illness merrill has not complained once i can't tell anyone how much i admire her for the way she has handled this we've been together 40 years (met when we were 16) married at 18 through choice and have now been married 38 years and she is still the one thing i wake up for every morning I love her so much and god i miss her while she's in hospital anyway fingers crossed and i now hope that things will be a little easier for a while, she has been through so much as i'm sure you all have and you are here to tell your story and this can only give me hope for the future and that is what i was looking for thanks to everyone will keep you posted when merrill comes home and i will introduce her to this site and post a pic Thankyou to you all and you paul Rod

Hi my wife had an sah on the 27th of march she wasfound to have two anuerysms one was coiled the other clipped 4 days later now home she sufers weakness in the legs confusion short term memory losses the shakes and slurred speach is this typical and does she improve or is that an impossible question?