JayKay Posted June 3, 2011 Share Posted June 3, 2011 This is a simple exercise designed by my Life Coach Maia Berens to help you to see the gift in every life situation. I was reminded of it by a post that Lin Lin wrote - all her posts are so positive and eloquent, and I thought I'd show you all how we can aspire to be like her! INSTRUCTIONS Take a sheet of paper and draw lines to make three columns. In the middle column write your CURRENT PICTURE in 3 sentences or less. The CURRENT PICTURE can be a situation in the present or something from the past that still has a negative charge. Choose something that still elicits a negative emotional reaction when you think of it, or when you are in the presence of that person or situation. Next write four or five negatives about the situation in the left hand column. After you complete that list, on the right list four or five things you learned and/or "gifts" you received from the situation. A gift may be an actual object, but, most likely, it will be an unexpected benefit or something you’ve learned about yourself or life. The number of negatives and learning gifts may or may not be equal and they aren't the opposite of each other. For example when I hated the heat in Las Vegas, the opposite was not true - that I found a way to love it. If you are having trouble finding any gifts or positives in the situation, ask yourself, “If I did learn anything from this, what would it have been (or be)?” Sometimes phrasing things in this way “tricks” your denial system into allowing you to see what was previously hidden. At this point in the process when you have completed those previous three parts, you will be trying to take the negative view you once held and transform it into a more positive one. That is called the NEW PICTURE. You will take a moment to recap your learning now and let more emerge in the ensuing hours, days or months. Go back and write it down whenever more learning surfaces. It really helps and you can do it for any difficult situation that arises in your life. I know the power of positive thinking as my mother was always telling me "Think positive Jennifer" as I was growing up. When she had her stroke aged 74 she was bedridden, paralysed, couldn't speak - and yet she just kept on being positive and after less than a year she was allowed home. At first she had nurses etc to help her wash and dress, and a home help and cleaner etc. Now, she just has a cleaner in once a week and a home help who does the ironing and takes her shopping. She is 79 and I have never known anyone as positive as her. Except maybe Lin Lin!! Hope you don't mind a bit of mumbo jumbo..... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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