jess

No Aine i don't mind you asking all these questions ask away i am happy to help. I felt great during both pregnancies a bit tired sometimes but not much i was working aswell though, and the sleepless nights didn't bother me at all i felt a bit tired the next day but i wouldn't swap my life or my kids for all the money in the world.

Jess.x

Hi there karen i am sure you will be fine on your own just think you can have the remote watch what you want and do what you want you will love it when it is happening but if you feel down at all come on here and we will be happy to help. Jess

No i wasn't trated but i certainly did go and try to get coucelling but to no avail got back in touch with me about a year or so after my initial visit and i said forget it i have managed the last yr on my own i will continue to manage and i did and i do. Not only that but have you heard about social services now that poor 18yr old she had her baby took away because she had, had a mental illness, it makes people afraid to seek help how many kids will have to die before they realise there errors. Mind i am better now what it was for me i was frightened of dying and my 4 yr old not remembering me, but as he gets older i get less afraid because at the time he was just over 1 now he is 4 and i really think he wouldn't forget me so therefore my baby wouldn't either.I am glad i went and looked for the help though it made me sort myself out.

At the time i wanted help i wouldn't go anywhere walking on my own with my children now there is no stopping me i go on buses trains even, and even if i ain't got a lot of money on me we can still look around at different things mind not so much in the winter months.LOL

Hi there yes i was on just b4 i gave birth and i got on fine thanks i have had 2 post op i was told to wait at least a year with first 1 but i hadn't got kids so i said to my hubby forget waiting they will say the same thing next yr then the yr after, so me being stubborn 2wks later i was pregnant and we were both fine and when i went back to see my ns just so he could see the baby LOL he said you can have as many children as you want, mind my midwife wanted me to have an abortion with the first one and i said no i have nothing to lose but a lot to gain so i am keeping it (it actually turned out to be a he)

Hi all well when i was took in i was told i was born with weak spots (2) and i was told the smoking didn't help but it may not of caused it to go he said the most likely cause was working through the night then going to my day job, i can completely understand everyones concerns more so for their daughters as childbirth is a big strain, however i was fine and i have had 2 children since.

I will tell my kids when they are older but it is up to them i mean a friend of my mom and dad her mate as got an aneurysm deep in her brain they do not monitor it as they cannot operate they would try if it ruptered but the op alone would probably kill her, so sometimes i must admit that it is best not known about.

As silly as it sounds in a way i would rather of lived my whole life not knowing and died at 90 still not knowing, but like i said in an earlier post i am glad in a way that i had it as now if it does happen to my children i will be able to help them through it.

Jess

Hi there everyone

Karen i would just like to say i wasn't getting at you in any way noone in my family before me as ever had one, that anyone knows of so all i was saying is that where do they start someone must have had them first and that anyone at all can have a bleed, so don't think for one minute that i was being funny in any way i for one value your opinions. Jess

Hi Aine

Well i wouldn't want to persuade you either way but i will tell you about me in sept 02 7th i had a sah, in jan 03 i had a weak spot clipped in oct o3 i had my 1st baby naturally (with epidural) 48 hrs i was in labour i had my second baby sept 07 with just gas and air my ns said i would be fine and i had complete faith in him, i am fine and so are my children my ns said they are not heredity i beleive him, i may be wrong but i do i will tell my children when they are older and they can choose to have them look if they want. For now the one is enjoying being a child the other a baby i could worry myself sick at every little knock they get but i ain't gonna

i'm not gonna wrap them up in cotton wool a knock to anyones head can cause a bleed not just those with aneurysms so i just know that i am here and i know the signs, which i am grateful for so if ever they were to have one i could get them to a hospital and dmand brain scans. Good luck with whatever you decide to do.

Hi all,

I was 8months pregnant on my first anniversary in 03 and on my5th anniversary i was 3 days off having my second child so there was two i couldn't really celebrate for, but i don't really celebrate it as i am just grateful to be here and to have my wonderful kids and husband. Jess

PS i think i may do this year though don't know what i shall do as yet but i will celebrate

Hi Linda I went just over a whole yr with the odd headache then they were back headaches tiredness vice like grips dizzyness my ns said if you forget about them (not turn them into something there not)not saying you r, they will go away and he was right still get it all but don't need painkillers anymore because i'm not worrying they aren't getting worse. Jess

Yes i felt the same as you at the start i moved away from freinds and family and my husband doesn't care 5yrs and too kids later he just doesn't care at all i am really sorry you are going through this but it will get better i have new friends my family are supportive excluding husband who just says i am moaning all the time, oh well never mind his dad is ill at the moment and he wonders why i show no sympathy at all but its not about his dad its about him he says hurtful things all the time and then expects me to comfort him when he hasn't got a kind word for me at all these days. Jess.

Good luck i am sorry i went of the top8ic but it will get better get rid of all the useless people in your life and move forward

Some of us encounter depression, anxiety and a lack of confidence post SAH .... this is also hard to deal with. We were all probably very different before the SAH hit and I would imagine that continues also with our recovery ....

I am with karen on this physically i am 99% recovered but how i wish i didn't have the days where i am so depressed and the anxiety and panic attacks are terrible so mentally i would say about 40% recovered and i am 5yrs on, so it does depend on age where it is even the kind of person you were before

everything has to be took into account. Jess

Merry christmas to everyone hope you have had a lovely day

Hi there, I too felt anxious about being out on my own and also about my little boy not remembering me if i were to die i even started having panic attacks, i would get my husband to drive us everywhere then one day he said no you can do it on your own and at the time i was in tears really upset but looking back i am so glad he did it as i go to the school with my boy to do gardening christmas partys and things like that, as when i sit back and think about it logically wouldn't it be better for our children to remember us for happy things rather than crying all the time and being frightened i don't get panic attacks anymore thank god and i really hope you are feeling much better now too. Jess.xxx

Thanks karen i hope you have a lovely xmas too. Jess.xx

Hi there i get headaches and dizzy spells and numbness too my ns said it was nothing to worry about however we are all different so if i was you i would talk to a ns or doctor. Jess

Sorry ain't been on for a while pregnant then the baby arriving sept then him being took into hospital for a week but anyhow my ns said yes i could go on rollercoasters and have been on the shockwave at drayton manor to name one, didn't like em b4 sah though love them now they r great. Jess

Hi Claire my husband has bought me a nintendo ds lite for xmas along with more brain training in addition i have bought myself the original brain training , brain academy and 42 old style games card board etc i cannot wait till xmas day now and i have a new baby too so it will be his first xmas and i also have a 4 year old

Hi there Kaj

I don't know of anyone who has gone through that but recovery can take a long time 5 months isn't really that long so give it time. All the best.

HI THERE I WAS TOO INTERVIEWED FOR ALISONS BOOK I CAN'T WAIT UNTIL IT'S OUT I WILL HAVE TO GET A COPY IT IS GOING TO BE REALLY INTERESTING I THINK. JESS

HELLO AGAIN EVERYBODY. WELL MY PREGNANCY IS GOING FINE SORRY I HAVE NOT BEEN ON HERE JUST FOUND MY POSTING DIDN'T KNOW I HAD JOINED MY MEMORY STILL PLAYS TRICKS ON ME. WELL I AM 30 OR 31 WEEKS PREGNANT I HAD TO GO TO HOSPITAL FOR A CHECK ON DIABETES IT'S CLEAR I KNEW IT WOULD BE. I ALSO HAVE LOW IRON AND LOW BP GREAT AIN'T IT. WELL I HOPE EVERYONE HERE IS GOOD TOO. JESS.

hi everyone my results were fine i am nearly 12 weeks pregnant the baby is due 17th sept me and my mom get it to the 8th sept but if it is the 8th i am praying i have it on the 7th as that is the 5th year since sah as a constant reminder life does go on after sah. mind you i feel blessed every birthday my little boys birthday and xmas as i realise how lucky i am to still be here. jess.

and sorry i forgot i'm 28 and yes i live in the wqest midlands

hi thanks for your responses i didn't actually collapse what i meant was i felt like i would of done if i hadf of been standing thankyou all so much and i have been to the docs he took three tubes of blood to check i will let you know the results. jess.

hi all,

well i am pregnant with my second child and my last. however i was at work yesterday and i heard a loud click in my head and i went so dizzy just like i was on the day i collapsede no pain just feeling sick it only lasted about a minute but felt like an hour was itr the clip moving, was it an artery, was it a trapped nerve in my neck like my mom thinks, or was it an ear infection as i did hear little clicks in my ear all the way home from work last night. i can't help but panic even though it's been a few years ago and i know stress is no good for the baby or me in fact anyway any advice or anything would be much appreciated. jess

hi,

you had your op at the same hospital as i did. well when i went in for my month check up he said to me i didn't need my second one as i had made a miraculas recovery and he wanted me in for the op on my second one they just checked my eyes and things like that i haven't ever had another scan at all and my sah was sept 02. jess.

ps. it is a really good hospital you are in safe hands there.