Susan c Posted March 19, 2021 Share Posted March 19, 2021 Hi all, I joined this group almost 5 years ago after my husband suffered a SAH while we were on vacation. I am extremely lucky that other than some differences in behavior he is very well physically and mentally. I am certainly not his caregiver as he continues to be able to take care of the house and work. I don’t want to sound like I am complaining because really I am beyond blessed with his outcome. I just don’t know how to react or respond anymore to his change in behavior. I used to be out of the house 50 hours a week for work...working from home for the last year so I think it is just more apparent. Some things.... in bed at 8:00 almost every night and I understand his brain needs to rest (this I can be fine with if he would make an exception occasionally), he shuts down at 6:30, goes to his tv room to watch reruns of older shows (so it gets a bit lonely) it seems like he is always looking for attention repeatedly saying the same thing (hey, look what I did ...). He is the cook but after SAH constantly corrects everything I do or has to be in control to the point I am banned from the kitchen until eating and clean up duty. It all sounds so trivial, but it is the same thing and same conversation every single night. I don’t know if his need for control and reassurance is because he lost some of that? I love him, but I don’t know how to address any of this with him. He doesn’t see any change nor do I want to make him feel more self conscious. As you all know, you leave the hospital with a few sheets of after care instructions, but no one talks about the changes. How do I address these issues with a man that already feels different without making it worse? Do I talk to his doc, find one for myself? Just not sure... anyone have feedback? Sorry one other thing... he complains that I am yelling. I know he is sensitive to noise and often when in a room with lots of conversations it can be overwhelming....but I am not yelling or raising my voice. I don’t know how to address this either because he will get mad and shut down... ugh, I feel like I need to change my approach or my behavior but nothing I do seems to help. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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