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hi misspiggy YOU SHOULD NEVER FEEL GUILTY ........... Like others have said its not our fault.....I am only 4 months down the line from my sah and taking the change to be hard to deal with. BUT one day we will be better its just having patience and time and that is something we all hate but unfortunatly its the only way to get there. I really struggle with my son and have to put him in nursery every now and then which i dont like doing because i just want to be a good mum x i still get emotional and have a good cry but thats what i need x and the fatigue has just started to kick in and i do try and fight it because i dont like sleeping in the day but i must say it is winning and i now know i must rest x x Just even if it is a lie down for 5 mins that it helps abit x

Carol - We are like twins but its me whos scared x x x x x x Karen - god when i first went to the loo i did think it would pop the coils off but there still there i dont have another aneurysm there apart from my coils i am hoping i am all fixed x x

ok god i am blushing x x x Did anybody feel really scared having sex for the first time after sah x x x x i still havent x x x x Scared blood pressure will go up ..... Now i'm laughing Dont want my hubby to loose interest x x x

Elaine I was indenial that I would ever get better and now 4 months down the line i sort of get my head around things alot better but 2 months ago i just wanted to give in i thought this is my life forever x I am not 100% and know it is going to take time x x x Be strong elaine your being s fantastic support by just being there for your mum and trust me thats the best thing x x having somone there xxxxxxxxxx

Welcome carol dont worry take your time with computer x x you've logged on took me ages to figure that out I am donna i am 29 and had my sah in april this year i have a 2 year old and am married x x x Welcome to the family hun xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

SARAH you are not alone in these feelings x x x Welcome to the family x x I suffer with my nerves and find myself crying for no reason at all i think its because i cant understand how i can be alright one day and not the next....I have a 2 year old and a supporting husband and like you am trying my hardest to fight this for them x x I have lots of nasty thoughts and feel so scared......I have been referred to a councillor who gave me a web site i have to visit once a week and fill in how i feel ( beating the blues ). it is only 4 months since my sah but feels like a lifetime already.....we have to beat this sarah and we will x x not everybody understands how we feel and it is hard telling people we care about the truth..... i find myself shouting at my hubby sometimes saying i know i look well but i'm not but i dont think he understands fully but i know he trys x x Keep your chin up hun and like jess if i can help in anyway you can pm me, i have more good days than bad now but my tears and fears still get me down xxxx

Lovely to hear about your dad i had oxygen to help me clear my chest i can remember that and i found it helped when my family coughed with me because funnily enough i thought i'd forgot how to cough x x x

Hello Yvonne Welcome to the family xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Fantastic Joanne x x x x x keep us updated x x x

I go to a councellor well i went once not made me anymore appointments.... i think its reasurrance i need from time to time and you guys do that xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx and just sometimes things pop into my head x x

Joanne any sign is good stay positive x x x x Love and hugs to you and your family x x

I am just finding things hard at the moment again Everything feels spinny alot at the moment and I have a headach and neckache and backache most of the time x x I am going to look at changing my meds i take 1 co codamol and 1 paracetoml 4x a day but it does not seem to be hitting the spot straight away, but i was thinking that because it is my time of month it makes things more noticable if you know what i mean x I am still waiting for my results on paper even though i have been told by my nurse things are ok i still want to see it on paper.. My body keeps feeling shaky but i just keep taking deep breaths x I am also aware that sah sufferers can get epilepsy which is another worry but i just think that because it hasnt happened in the last 4 months it wont now, i have not been told anything like this from my neuro surgeon and it is a worrying thought x x sorry to go on these are just some things i woundered if anyone else worried about or had problems with x

Your very welcome joanne x x And Any other questions we are all here to help x

I had a drain when i was in hospital and was told i had this because when yhey did the operation i had alot of fluid there x They clamped it once to see how i got on ( shut it off from working ) but about 2 hours later i went all funny and couldnt feel my legs or arms so they un clamped it......... 1 day later they tried again and everything was ok and my scar is healing nicely x x At the time of my drain i was not aloud to move my bed ( i did and got told off )........ I'm not sure if this is what your dad is having ? ? but if so i dont mind answering any questions you have about it x x x Hope your dad is well and loads of hugs to you and your family x x

Sounds good holly but i would like more children well 1 more then that will be 2 x x its my blinking head at period times that plays up and i am nasty x x

Joanne if you cant go everyday then take some family photos in i used to love looking at them they would alsways make me smile x x I believe they helped with my recovery everyday x

HI DEBS I really suffered with my confidence in the begginning and i found this really hard to deal with...... I just to say to myself ALL the time and still do that NOTHING BAD is going to happen I am going to be fine which seems to work and then i get that oh god i feel i am going to black out/ collapse feeling so i sit down and just keep telling myself that I AM OK its hard and fighting with yourself is even harder x x We WILL get our confidence back debs its just a matter of time x x

Hello and welcome Joanne I hope your dad is doing better x x I cant remember anything for my first 3 days in hospital.........I can remeber getting to the bottom of the stairs and thats it... My husband said I was telling him to follow in the car ( scares me when i think about what i cant remember ).. I can sort of remember hearing voices and seeing pictures that my family had put up ALL over above my bed but not speaking to them x x The first thing I can remember is high dependency unit 3-4 days later and thinking what is all the fuss about x x now i know x x But we get there Joanne, everyone takes different lenghts of time for recovery xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Keep us informed how your dad is doing xxxx

Sorry to ask this question guys but when its time of the month do you feel worse My head is alot worse and i pains in across my forehead i am coping though x x Everything always feels worse just before and during these lovely times of the month x x TY GUYS

I believe i am still putting on weight it is not nice x I have stopped smoking and drinking and my only comfort is food even though I am trying to eat salads all the time but the choclate and ice cream are sneaking in xx

That must have put your mind at rest love x x x where are you from janet you never know we could meet up for de caf coffees if we live near each other and be doing same hours

hi jill we are neighbours i am from moorgreen nottingham x x I had sah in April this year so i am new to it all x x I go to a support group at QMC every first thursday of every month x you should go its very frindly x x

Does anyone have problems with their heartbeat mine beats so fast sometimes for no reason i can be relaxing and then all off a sudden it starts pounding x I had an irregular heartbeat in hospital and had to be shocked once to get it back normal............i had an ECG a few weeks ago and they didnt say anything so i presumed all is well x x Its one of those things that is worrying me, my BP is fine also x x sometimes i feel i am gasping for breath a bit also x x My consultant didnt say anything to me at my 3 month check so put it down to a problem at the time of my operation x

Myra I was on a diet also pre sah and doing really well i lost about 1 stone and also lost weight in hospital ... But now YES eateateat I do try and eat salads now though because I do believe I was eating anything after sah because I couldnt stand to long to make anything x x still like to eat my lemon muffins though everytime i get my bloodpressure checked they say it is fine and I go every 4 weeks...........

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