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rod im brilliently surprised and pleased mell is home yes the confusion will as others have said will pass in time i hope you got the support in line or being sorted to help look after mell i wish you both well in the coming months and a speedy recovery for mell the bed is always here take care hugs and cuddles for mell take care

hi tisha that is good news tina coming round but as others have said its very much an indvidual process everyone is different just wish tina well and for you to have peace of mind hugs and cuddles take care

spoke to rod last night merril had a shunt placed yesterday and has spoken to rod since sluggish but normal and as can be expected rod is spending time with merril and i think he will post when he has time take care

hi tisha very good news sweetheart things do look a bit better for tina you should see a bit of a change in tina when the endotracial tube comes out the traci is not a lot to worry about they will take it out fairly quickly once tina has improved enough im pleased she has reognised you and squeezed your hand i know it would have meant a lot to you as it would anyone else and you should see a marked improvement in tina once the sedation wears off as well my thoughts and best wish's to both you and tina hugs and cuddles

hi sweetheart im pleased mums doing well and i hope your looking after yourself hope thew review goes well and mum will stay and improve hugs and cuddles

hi rod and welcome i hope things go well for your wife at norwich and if nessasary at addenbrooks have emailed you i will also pm you my number should you need it here on behind the gray there is a wealth of support from people who have gone through what you are going through both suffers and carers i for one wouldnt be here now without their support take care my thoughts are with you both

happy anni maggie and well done elaine just wish happy day for me take care and best wishs

hi tisha im sorry to hear about your sister my lin also has had an sah and vaso spasm which is the name given to the blood vessels that go into spasm reduceing the blood flow to the brain lin had a servere bleed and vasospasm about two to three months down the lin lin did respond to me with blinking of the eyes to particular questions up untill christmas lin was improving then had fluid on the brain and had to have a shunt to drain the fluid from the brain this worked but not as good as i hoped for it seems it has set lin back 6 months sort of post surgery your sister being on a ventilator may be to allow the brain to recover as much as it wants or is able to one thing is that hearing is the last thing that goes so as long as your talkinig to her i think she will know your there i was given the same news that lin wouldnt survive here we are nearly nine months down the lin lin is still with me and has just been moved to a nursing home where im hoping lin will improve as much as he can the dr always prepare for the worst but they admit they dont know what the brain is capable of by all means take time out no one can blame you all i can offer is talk to her take one day at a time every day your sister goes is one day longer you are together please take one day at a time my thoughts are with you i know what you are going through if i can be of any help or support you can always pm me just click on the pm button take care hugs and cuddles to you and your sister and try and look after yourself btg have been fantastic nursing me through the hell you are going through take care

hi linda i have watched a few crainoplastys at the hospital in queens sq london the procedure is fairly minor in itself the plate is normally preformed and is attached to the skull either with screws or glue they are not touching anything except bone so in all honesty i think you should think of it as going to the dentist to have a tooth pulled under anaesthic but waking up without the pain sweetheart please dont worry about it to much you will be out of hospital within a couple of days and getting back to normal life and remember if you bang you head on a kitchen cubboard you wont feel it lol sweetheart please please try not to worry hugs and cuddles

hi dragonfly im sorry to read your post you are now in the same situation as myself but lin is some 9 months down the line the fact that he is in rehab is a good thing despite the problems he's had once he starts walking the good bits should follow on fairly speedly in his own time the talking will improve its proberly down to when he had a tube in his throat to help him breath during the op that will come back in time with help from speech therpy which he will have whislt in rehab this has been a nightmare for you in itself and beleive me that is the hardest thing to come to terms with lins happened during sex so i know where your coming from when lin was admitted i was given a book to start a diary which i have put all sorts in not only what was happening to lin but what we had before all my thoughts and wish's im still keeping this up to date it sits by lins bed and anyone who goes in to see her can put what they want into it reading your post you love him so much and taking one day at a time there maybe a good possibley of liveing independly with you beside him only you can make that choice you are not whining believe me you are still like me in many respects lost not knowing whats going to happen or what you can do to help the answer is already there you are still with him you love him talk to him recount the good times you had and what you have to look forwards to dragonfly i will pm you try and stay upbeat if i can help i will take care

well done neil fanstastic news just be carefull as well hopfully you will wether the breaking in period just look after yourself and the delightfull tammy take care

karen your building bricks havent been knocked down just dislodged a little and all you need to do is just religin them i hope your appt for wessex comes through soon just to give you peace of mind and hopfully your gp can put your mind to rest and push for appt to be pulled forwards i really wish you well and im learning so much here as well take care hugs and cuddles

hi perry you must have the ventiperitneil shunt which lin has it picks up from the ventrical in the brain and runs well lins runs from the right side to the rear of the brain down under the skin down to the peratineil cavity to drain i take it the pain is from the tummy if so and the time you have had it it could be scaring ie the tissue sticking to the drain so when you move abnormaly it could pull giving you a spasm hence you say it goes off after a while it is worth checking it out anyway but thats is possibly what is going on i hope it dosnt give you to much discomfort the drain tube i can feel lins as it comes out of the skull and down her neck untill it goes into the body take care

neil i have pmd you and it confirms it to me that the relitives who witness what happens is in need of help instaed of being asked or told be strong or she's or he's poorly that has really got to me over the last eight months i just wish someone had offered some form of help when this all happened but i have found some help putting it all down here and in lins diary which i have kept up to date every since this happened im now well through vol 2 and i will keep it up to date ntill lin either recovers enough for either me to read it to her or she god willing will be able to read it herself

congratulations donna enjoy your day and be happy and have fun best wishs

hi tosh welcome to the site its understandable to feel scared and perfectly normal there are many people who will help you through this worry as many as tina says have been clipped and will offer you the support you are looking for and answer as amny questions you have to put your mind at rest welcome again and very good luck for the future best wishs

hi i have been reading this thread with great interest all the signs and symptoms sound like ptsd i have seen and treated before sending off to hospital both soilders from northern ireland and the gulf states during both wars and troubles the signs ie anxiety and panic attacks are some of the signs concurrent with ptsd and if anyone feels they do have trouble or worries you should see your gp. i also fear or show some signs and i have been reffered to counciling when i get the appt i will attend as i still have flash backs to when lin collapsed and i think others may feel the same we arnt freaks those who have suffered sah and those who have witnessed a loved one colllasping will all feel the stress and the anxiety some of you have spoken about therefore i feel it would be prudent to either have some form of counciling if not only to get it all out in the open all your fears and worries and hopfully be able to put your fears to rest with the approriate people i hope you dont mind me putting this on this thread but it wasnt untill two months ago when i started haveing flash backs to lin falling on me got more and more regular to the point of every night being afraid to go to sleep and waking up in a very cold sweat and being scared witless thank you

hi vivenne have pm you will help as much as i can take care

welcome tammy pleased neil has dragged you into our family im still going throuh it with my lin and i know what you mean because im still trying to come to terms with what has happened and why please dont feel frightened by whats happened i hope when you lok at the site you will find many of your questions answered and many of your fears alayed there are many carers and partners who have gone through what you are going through now and will have many answers that will help you come to terms and look forwards to the furture with less intridation if i can help dont hesitate we are all family welcome

perry when someone says that about lin and there have been a few times someone who hasnt seen lin for a long time have said something not only boosts me up so much but gives me faith that i havent imagined it yes it does boost me up no end and when the surgeon told me lin deserves the chance that really did burst the dam with me

happy anni versary myra enjoy your life and future hugs and cuddles

i know that it doesnt really apply to me but when someone told me last week that lins growling was lin trying to join in the conversation we were having i felt that a long time ago but to have someone else say it lifted me so much

hi jac dont worry the mri is harmless but gives more detailed view of what is going on it is able to give far more detail that of a ct scan and whatever they find they can take pitures from any angle upside and downside and sideways and dosnt pose a threat its to give the n/s a far more detailed view .the banging is the worse thing but again its only a noise close your eyes and dream of lying on a beach somewhere warm it at the longest will only take 20 -30 mins hope this helps and good luck

hi elaine nice to see mum doing so well even after all the trials and trivilations she has gone through and i wish her well tell mum we both send our love and best wish's and a happy time and when she makes some pancakes give us a shout lol take care and lots of hugs and cuddles to you both

shiree congratulations sweetheart and good hunting and health