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Hello Liz, I had coils put in a ruptured anni in Jan 09 and remember only to well the absolute devastation ,the fears,the total bewilderment as to why & what has happened,and the emotions you are experiencing. The best advice ever given to me was from my specialist nurse before I left hospital who said that recovery is different for us all but one thing was certain that it was like taking 'baby steps'. Slowly does it Liz,take your time.Don't push yourself too hard the fatigue can be over whelming in the first few months.My thoughts are with you and hopes that you get the help you deserve. Cogratulations you survived have faith in yourself.Good luck and big hugs .Love Maggie xxx

Father and Son Ltd. Thanks.... Eddie for the update Hi Eddie,wonderful news your Father is making good progress and hopefully the pneumonia will soon clear and give you peace of mind,my prayers are with him for this. Don't worry about the confusion about where he is, like blueday says this will pass.When I was in hospital I spent most of my time in a silk flowing tent made of rich brown colours on a desert with lovely golden sand. And I guess being on a ship or in a mall is a better option too! My hopes and prayers are with you and your father for a speedy recovery.Much love.

Hi Sonia,you're so brave its really good that you are positive and can think the way you are doing I am sure it can't be easy. Is it next Friday you go in? A wedding in Thialand,:-Dfabulous thats something wonderful to look forward to. And am sure the thought of Ryan chuckling will spur you on to a quick recovery. Try to keep calm,keep thinking the way your doing and get loads of rest this week.Will be thinking of you.Wishing you the best.

Hi Sonia I am with the others on all counts. Big hugs:-D keep posting.

:razz:Hi Sam welcome aboard! I was another who took time in saying hello.don't worry your in good company:-D Look forward to getting to know you.

:-Dhi Sonia and a warm welcome to you. Look forward to hearing your story as soon as you get the chance. Maggie x

Hi Alan and welcome. You sound like you are doing amazingly well under the circumstances. I hope that by now Erin has made more progress and is doing well. It is an extremely difficult and challenging time for you all. Take good care of yourelf. Looking forward to hearing that Erin Is making good progress.

Hi Lemonade and Tina, welcome. Don't despair it's early days give yourselves time. It's a roller coaster of emotions and often overwhelming. Not surprising given the enormity of what has happened. Keep posting and let us know how things are with you,there are alot of us here someone will be able to relate. Wishing you both all the best and looking forward to hearing more from you.

Hi Eddie thanks for letting us know how things are! Like Karen has said it's early days for your father he needs alot of time to heal. I hope you are looking after yourself too!He needs you. Just keep telling him about your day and that you want him home. he won't want to talk but he will want to listen and hear your voice. Hope your father soon starts to feel better. Maggie x

Hi Gill, sorry not abe to help with this one I didn't notice a longer healing time. But I guess we are all very vulnerable in the early stages and it is still quite early for you.

Hi Sally hope you had a good mumbo jumbo natter to yourself! I have them all of the time even when I feel better I still have to have a blur bla blur bla bla blaaaa moment daily infact! It helps to sort my head out! The site that will help is The Dept of Work and Pensions (DWP).... Esa replaced the old incapacity benefit it means Employment Support Allowance. Just type in ESA it'll take you were you need to be. Failing that go to the Job Seekers Allowance JSA site this gives you heaps of information. Hope your feeling alot better. Love Maggie xxx

Hi Sally I have written a reply to this thead and I don't know where its gone . I just wanted you to know your not alone am thinking of you and hope you feel better. Maggie xx

Hi Sally I am sorry that your feeling lost your not alone. I am 18 months on and still feel just as you described, more often than not. I can sleep for Britain and as you say not feel refreshed. I long to wake up one morning and feel fully revitalised and ready for anything! Am not good in crowds and spontaniety a thing of the past. I had coils so am not sure of the after care for clipping but what I do know is that after six months I was offered councelling with a neuro psycologist from the hospital which was invaluable to my recovery. I agree with Kel you should ask your doctor for a referal and don't take no for an answer. Councelling as available and you would definitely benefit by seeing someone. Like I said I found my visits to the psycologist most beneficial and could n't have managed my recovery as well without her help... As for ESA you can appeal, I was told that most aplications get declined and turned around at appeal, your doctor should help you with that also. Pathway to work is something which you should be offered by your local DSS office so get down there and sign on asap, this should mean that you get some benefits better still give them a ring Monday. You can look up benefits on the web site there is quite a good site which can tell you what your entitled to as a prelude to contacting DSS in person. Hope you soon feel better,it's a minor hic up Sally it will pass. I am sending huge hugs, pm me for a chat anytime Love Maggie xxx

OH Zoe lets hope Richard feels better in the morning. Good news thats over! Hope you have some well earned rest tonight try at least to get some sleep. my thoughts are with Richard for a speedy recovery.please give him my best wishes. Love Maggie xxx

Hi Donna get to the doc's and say it just as you have written it here if you've not already. Poor love you need a big hug so am sending one right now. I do hope you get the help you deserve.

:-DGood to hear things are getting better for you. You sound like you need that run.Go girl!Fingers crossed for more good news in your next post soon. Love Maggie xxx

Hi Mace,welcome. Your doing amazingly well posting so early in your recovery,I was in denial for months it simply wasn't happening to me! The symptoms you describe are familiar.Hopefully they will get better and better just be patient.Baby steps all the way!Good luck,looking forward to hearing more.

Hope your head improves soon laura.Shame on your doctor!

Hi Ash such good news that mum's move went well and hopefully you will see more improvements in the next week or so. I hope you are getting some rest and getting looked after too. So nice of you to think of us Ash but I agree with Sammi, much rather you concentrate on yourself and mum, all we want is for you both to be ok. So please don't feel guilty. Good that mum is smiling more. She will be so very proud of you. Big hugs xxx

Hi all, Lin lin sorry I can't help I was like Vivien when I had a problem not sleeping it was due to too much stimulation. I was advised to limit my time on the computer & take a rest during the day just to relax & rest my brain. I fought it for ages but had to give into it in the end as I made life a whole lot worse for myself by getting over tired. It worked a treat. It is early days in your recovery and you're doing really well. Maybe you should put time aside during the day to relax and unwind then you might not be over tired at bed time! Hope the problem gets resovled soon. Maggie xxx

Hi Ash good news regarding mum's progress.It is slow I know and you want to look into the future,but just know that mum can get through this. Keep talking to her she will hear you I am sure of it! Maggiexxx

:biggrin:Thank you blueday as ever a really good read and I think your dog is another of your angel's as are mine! What would life be without the fuzzy faces? Have a good day, Maggiexxx

Hi Bagpuss a very warm welcome to this site.I'm afraid I can't give you any reassurance re the location of your anni etc; mine was in a different place,the effects were different but you will find some one here who undoubtedly can! What I can tell you is that it is such early days for you, recovery is a slow process! Stay positive and strong it's the only thing to do at this stage. Wishing you all the best and looking forward to hearing of good progress in the near future. Maggiex

Hi Eddie, so sorry to hear about your father, I hope he has a good recovery. It is early days, his brain needs alot of time to recover. Keep talking to him tell him stories and let him know you love him. Even when he is not responding he will know your there and know what you say. It takes alot of hard work to recover from this,your father is a fighter he has done well to survive so don't give up, work with him. I wish you all the very best and I hope to hear that there is great improvement soon. Maggie x

Hi Holly sorry your going through such a traumatic time.Most of us try to find some one or something to blame when something like this happens and we panick. Try to give them space, get as much information as you can and try not to get caught up in blame,do not even think of blaming yourself. Maggiex