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Louise last won the day on May 17 2019

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About Louise

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  • Birthday August 1

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    East Coast Scotland


  • Location
    Scotland - SAH 1st November 1999
  • Interests
    I'm not hungover... I have wine flu., The great thing about living in a small town is...if I don't k
  • Occupation
    No time to work!
  • SAH/Stroke Date
    1st November 1999

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  1. Hey Budd Warm welcome to the site glad that you found us. As time passes you'll find it gets easier...
  2. Hello there Warm welcome to the site, glad that you found us. So sorry to hear what your going through it does take time and every day will be different but please don't give up hope... I cant answer your questions on how to cope I'm a survivor but there are carers/family members on here that will be able to help I'm sure. try and have time for 'yourself' know its hard but without the strength of our carers we'd be lost... take care.
  3. Hi there so glad your being referred for councelling it really can help... some great replies for you (as always) don't be hard on yourself... we all know and understand... take care, enjoy the hugs they are so presious...
  4. Sending you hugs Sarah remember the question lists and keep calm... SO glad that someone is going with you...
  5. Well done on your 2nd year anni-versary, yep being kind to yourself and onward and forward you go..
  6. Hi there Warm welcome. I went to college after the SAH, was there for 7yrs but didn't work out for me so well done you on doing what your doing.. I was in rehab for I think 2 months but didn't have any of thetherapies you mention. Take care.
  7. Hi Andrew Warm welcome to the site, glad that you found us. Yes the waiting is horrendous I have a shunt and tube no stent so cant answer that, but I was told that they leave it about 6months plus to let things settle down... Take care
  8. Hi there Warm welcome to the site, glad that you found us. I ditto what Tina has said, early in your recovery, anxiety every one of us, that does ease with time 'honest' take things easy and slow keep well hydrated. hope the site helps you take care.
  9. Well done on the 5yr Ani-vesary...
  10. Thank-you all for the lovely comments yesterday I really appreciate them. Sami I'm humbled by your reply. Subs, Ronnie was backshift but he's off today so went to the club last night for a few hours... Karen, one reason why I posted that yesterday to give others mostly newbies Hope although I knew it was coming it still seems surreal.. Just reply to a few was at the club last night Ladies night in the Hall we were in the lounge which I thought might be quieter wrong! but hey-ho it was Ronnie's celebration too. Got a lovely buquet of flowers & chocolates from him, and in the Raffle he won a bottle of Rose from Valencia where we visit on holiday last year in Spain..
  11. Apologies in advance it’s bit long winded but then it has been 20 years seems a bit surreal really, but thought because it was that long I’d share a bit of how far I have come since that time a long LONG way so many up’s as well as down’s on here I use the phrase ‘swings and roundabouts’ and that is true of my recovery for every few steps forward there was the same and lots more back the way but eventually there were no steps forward and this is it. Keeping a diary is a good way of knowing how much things improved something I didn’t do at the start I kept forgetting to write things down (memory) or I did write them down but in the begin I’d miss pages out it was hard to find what I’d last wrote or I’d turn the notebook upside down and write thankfully that’s not the case now So there’s an improvement in itself. And I now use the computer so that really helps. Day before my 2nd Ani-versary on of all days Halloween my Dad passed away that was a challenge I have to say and the fact would I cope, well simply I muddled through about all I can say there, waded through some horrific times with his neighbours, all this brings you so low but in the end makes you so strong. So really since the first Ani-versary I don't really do anything and the reason for that mostly I have my Dad’s aniversary on 31st Oct, my Ani-versary on 1st Nov and my Mum’s anniversary (also the day my Dad was cremated) 6th Nov. But as the years go it’s gotten a lot easier, although this year has been challenging with the constant mention of 31st October. In 2006 I stumbled on BTG I hadn’t been using to using a computer long and the search would have been limited I think it was something like ‘people recovering from a Brain Haemorrhage, so the basic of the basic and the first thing I saw was Behind the grey had a nose and have never looked back Karen and Sami were so friendly and that was that, I am so grateful to them for just basically being there. When I got here the site hadn’t been running all that long but I was 6 years down the road at that time in recovery bobbing along, but Ronnie’s young cousin Candice had died of a SAH caused by the shrinkage of a Tumour she was one of 6 all girls I first meet her when she was 4 or 5 she was 18 when she passed, we went to Stevenage for the funeral OMG! That was hard and on my return I was I guess suffering from ‘survivors guilt’ I was doing a computer course at college for people like me with challenges so used what I had to find out about this feeling of no one else understanding how I felt and how it was to have a Brain Haemorrhage feeling so alone. And finding BTG found I wasn't the only one feeling isolated and alone at last there were others who knew just how I felt-they got it. I am eternally grateful to Karen for this site. There was a support group at the hospital I was in, met once a month first Monday of every month at 7pm – what why can’t it be in the day, I don't do evenings!! I mean I just found this strange having chronic fatigue all the time and having to go to a support group meeting in the evening just seemed daft! Needless to say I never went. In 2007 we decided to move house could I have done that in the early early years No I couldn’t I can honestly say hand on heart I don’t know what I was thinking about, but the thought of not having to climb 3 flights of stairs was alluring I was willing if not actually able to move. It took a long time to get used to the new place, surroundings, and people. I now live in the village my Dad was born and brought up in and in the early days of living here I was sure this place was my Past, not present nor future, but it’ll be 12 years at the end of November since we moved here so always hang in there give it time, don’t throw the towel in till you’ve tried, that’s me anyway thankfully I have a lot of my Mum’s traits and that was one hers. There have been many challenges since but if there’s one thing having had the SAH you have strength in other ways. Last year I lost my Uncle after a very long battle cancer and then Dementia took hold. I took my first flight in well over 20 years, and tried to be as much support to Ronnie as he’d been to me over the years I think I wouldn't be the person I am without his love and support and the massive encouragement he’s given me time and time again.. It’s a bit of a surprise really to find that its 20 years since I left work at 5pm on 1st Nov 1999 I barely remember getting home that night then simply life changed. But I feel very blessed to have what I have and I never take things for granted I have two pictures on the wall in this room; ‘When the world says give up, hope whispers try it one more time’. And the other says: ‘We create our tomorrows by what we dream today’. Thank-you to Karen and everyone on the site. xxx
  12. I'd take copies of the letters just incase they miss lay them and take the folder with you like Sami suggests..
  13. What great news Todd, I hope the nerve repairs itself too, getting back to being a bit normal is itself therapy.. I do so hope it continues, and thank-you for sharing your update...
  14. Hi there Agree with Jess, if you are concerned do please see your doctor... And also agree with Macca no easy task well done you... And TOTALLY agree with what he said about saying NO having a SAH makes what others seem normal to not being you are under so much stress with daily life its no wonder your feeling the way you do. Take care, hugs
  15. Sarah sorry hun late on this (I did wonder why I hadn't seen it, then notice your post was on 11th Sept we were on holiday) phew!! thought I was going ga-ga…. I hope things go ok and the music to your ears continues...
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