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Hi Kimmy, good to meet up with you & Steve last Saturday. Glad you have written your story, do you feel better for writing it? I was ages before I wrote mine,the thought of it was traumatic for me but once I got it done I felt much better like somehow it was a weight lifted off my shoulders. Look forward to hearing rom you again. Much love xxx

Hi Tracy and welcome. You sound so well adjusted to what has happened & seem to be recovering remarkably. Well done for having a good attitude to what is a shocking event to say the least. I am always stuck as to what to call what I have had and how I feel etc, we need labels for everything don't we:roll: I sort of call my recovery an illness which I will get through.... Anyway keep doing well and keep us posted. Best wishes xxx

So glad all went well you sound really happy and no doubt Richard will be thrilled to bits too! I hope you continue to be positive and that the kids don't fret too much that their dad has had to go away again. Here's to many more afternoons like this and a speedy return home for good for Richard.xxxx

Hi Debbie oh you poor love it's such early days for you, I really feel for you. Head aches get better in time and all the other symptoms too but you need to rest and give that poor brain of yours time to heal.As for the fear of another bleed, I was exactly the same,it was quite a few months before I relaxed and trusted that it wouldn't happen again.Do read some of the stories on here and you will feel less alone with your worries. I send best wishes and look forward to hearing from you soon.xxx

Hi Erin,difficult time for you but it gets easier & actually does get better. Although if someone had told me that at your stage I would have grumbled not quick enough for me! ( Infact I would have cursed,not just grumbled!). But we on this site are all living proof that it gets better with time & adjustment. Go easy on yourself don't try to rush things - easer said than done! One thing I learned is that time & patience are a huge part of our recovery. Trust in yourself that you have the courage & strength to do what ever it takes to get through this. Your doing remarkably well posting here and your typing is absolutely fine too. I hope you get the answers you need there is always someone here who can offer support /advise. I send my best wishes and look forward to hearing your progress.

Hi Ash, its good that your mum is making progress.I am quite sure once you have spoken to her consultant and got the ins and outs about why anti depressants would be good at this stage it will become clear as to what to do for the best. Why not ask your own doctor just to put your mind at ease! Good luck Ash I'm sure you'll do the right thing by your mum once you have all the information you need. Love and best wishes

Yey,Zoe that is wonderful news, this could be the start of a huge improvement for Richard, just the tonic he needs to give him the strength to move forward. Wonderful!

Hi Marylin, I am so sorry to read about your mum but what she is experiencing is a perfectly normal reaction for someone who has gone through this experience. Its so hard for our friends and family to watch and your also going through your own trauma too. I was fortunate to be offered councelling at around six months post op.It was a godsend to me. At that time I was in denial, I was greiving for the person I once was,I was confused ,upset to say the least. What I learned ( amongst other things) was to go easy on myself,be kind to myself and to come to terms with the possibility that I will never be the same but with time I can be as good if not better. I had help dealing with coping with my anxiety and my panic attacks,and I learned that it was normal and natural to have all the feelings and fears and not wanting to talk about them was in a way a form of self protection. I am 18 months post SAH and it has been an ongoing struggle but looking back I can now see how far I have come away from the dark days. I hope your mum can get some help. And I hope you can too,often we forget what a trauma it is for those we love.

Hi Jess, my appologies for the delay in response:crazy: Glad to see you back and hopes that your feeling much much better after all you have been through. xxx

Hi Tracy and welcome to BTG, it is such early days for you my love so rest up and don't worry too much about not having the energy it will get better.It really does get better over time its hard to live through it I know but you need to take it easy just now and try not to rush things.

:-DHi Lorraine and a very warm welcome to you. Am really happy that you have had such a positive outcome and such a speedy recovery. That is good to know.The event is a traumatic one and in itself takes some getting over well done. It is really hard to get information on what has happened to us,there is all sorts of conflicting,often terrifying information and it's good that we have BTG to refer to. I was a long time before I posted. Mine was 3 months after yours.But I popped in and read the posts and got alot of reassurance here. Looking forward to getting to know you.

Hiya am so in awe at your determination to return to the person you were pre SAH,like Gary said your managing because you know what you are doing and you are way too good for them! Just thought i'd pop in and say that and wish I could give you some advise other than not to let the Bleeeeeeeeeeeps grind you down. ........." we are here, believing"

:biggrin:Hi carline thanks for posting your message,it's good to know that things do get better. I wish you continued good progress in your recovery,look forward to hearing from you again.

Hi Donna Marie, welcome to this wonderful site where you will find alot of support. Don't worry about not being able to put your thoughts down just write anything we all write gobble de gook ar some stage:lol: and keep reading other posts as most of us do / did at your stage in recovery. It is very bewidering for all of us at first. You are so early in recovery, take your time. I am so glad you found this site,I look forward to hearing more from you.

Sorry the kids are poorly Zoe,what exactly is it they have? Have I missed something? What ever it is you don't need that at the moment and I hope it's not too bad and doesn't zap too much of your energy:frown: Good that Richard can get home and am sure he enjoyed his visit to Mac D's really,mood swing hugh:devil: Wishing you lots of luck with the kids and hope they are better soon. Take care of you.

Hi |Eddie yes your right about the Father and son Ltd, it means you are a very good son to your father as I am sure your brother and sister are too:-D I hope you are looking after yourself,you are a good person Eddie and care for your family but you must get rest too. Hope some good news in you next post soon. Keep giving us updates, thank you for letting us know how things are:-D I send my best wishes to you and to your family.

Hi Ash,good news about mum,hope to hear more good news soon as am sure you would too. Hope you are looking after yourself as well,it's been traumatic for you and I hope you are getting plenty rest. Best wishes for mum and you and your family,hope mum speaks very soon can you cartwheel? Best get practising:crazy:

Hi Angela just popped in and read your message. Am with the others go get it checked don't leave it. You have been through too much already and should be handled with care. I know its a pain but please go get checked at the hospital.

Hiya,councelling is really helpful if you get a good one. I had alot of panic attacks and worries which I got help for. The councellor offered me a different approach, a different way of dealing with them that I needed.I felt like I was drowning, using all my energies simply to stay afloat. The councelling taught me how to cope with the new person I had become. Like she gave me permission to feel all those emotions,then showed me how to deal with them. It is still a struggle but councelling did help me to move forward.

Gill,I agree with Kel and there are some on here who have had coiling without an SAH who hopefully can offer some reassurances. I know its going to be a really difficult time for you but we are all here for you. Hugs Maggiexxx

Gill,your ever so brave writing all that down.You have been through such alot,I hope they get you sorted soon. I don't know how you must be feeling right now but I hope you have good news very very soon.Big hugs. Love Maggiexxx

:-DHi wraith,no your not alone;-). I know exactly how you feel, I get really angry at times,mostly born out of sheer frustration. The odd burst of anger doesn't harm so long as you don't get too upset and it doesn't hurt you or one else:shock: I got some relaxation tapes and after I have thrown my wobbly I go rest and indulge in soft music and the sound of gentle waves or something like that:biggrin:. Anyway I think it's better out than in:devil:. I agree with Sami though,once we accept all the things we cannot change and stop fighting it things will get better. I am 18 months down the line and still working hard on that one too:roll: But I like Sami's philosphy.

Hi John it's disgusting what you are having to go through:devil:. Do remember that your National Insurance contributions are just that ie; INSURANCE should you ever be unfortunate enough to be in the position you are now in and need to draw from that money you paid in. You should not have to fight for what is rightfully yours but since you are having to don't let it get to you. The bottom line is that what we are left with is a hidden illness you would get more sympathy if you had trapped your finger and needed a plaster!

Hiya really good news for you,hope Richard feels better soon and you get him home as planned, will be such an emotional time for you but wonderfull.Wishing the very best for you. Maggie xxx

When somebody mentions an angio, are they meaning a CTa or a Formal Angio? Some posts have even crossed between an angio and then mentioned not liking the noise an MRI makes. Thanks for sorting that out Gary and for clarifying. I was getting a tad confused as to what was being done to people and scared to ask:roll:!