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There is that too Sami without the sah I wouldn't of found out who my real friends were and wouldn't ever of met all my new ones on here at home on my estate or anything. Jess.xxx

As silly as this may sound to some but I certainly wouldn't want my old life back because back then I didn't want children and look at my two boys and the only reason I had Garry was because a midwife told me I could not and I thought yes I can and I proved them all wrong and now you are not advised to wait 12 months anymore only 6 and that is partly because of all the questionaires I filled in whilst I was pregnant so who knows without me people may still be being advised differently lol. Jess.xxx

This is also the first time I saw this post hope you get the answers you want and everything is ok. Jess.xxx

What I want from life :- My kids to be happy and healthy and to NEVER have to go through any serious illnesses especially at a young age cause I don't really want or need anything for me I have my children and I am happy. Jess.xxx

Hi Mary I still get dizzy like feelings 10yrs on but seriously you do get used to it, I notice it but it doesn't really affect me that much anymore if you know what I mean. I Still get headaches to sometimes daily sometimes weekly all depends. Hope your feeling better soon. Jess.xxx

Hi Rachel I really wouldn't worry I get headaches all the time try not to let it get you down and I am ten yrs on I also get strange feelings occasionally and also dizzy spells. Jess.xxx

I am back with some more advice lie on the floor on your back feet flat to floor stretch one leg out at a time straight and off the floor hold it for ten seconds slowly put it back then the other leg if you cannot hold for ten seconds at first do it as long as you can repeat 5 times with both legs. Build it up until you can hold them for 60 seconds it will strengthen your back and also your pelvic muscles I asked my Dr for you he is all into physio. If I can be of anymore help just let me know. Jess.xxx

Sorry I cannot help you but no need to feel embarressed at all. Jess.xxx PS talk to your dr maybe they can give you something to help

Hi there I slept on the affected side whilst I was still in hospital which in my case was a very good thing considering just a few months later I had an op on the other side so I don't know what I would of done. Hope you find it more comfortable soon. Jess.xxx

Thanks everyone not actually my anniversary till 7th September but I think I will make it till then lol. Seriously though not long got back from fetching Garry from tunbury wells he has been camping with karate club he loved it bless him. Right better go got to put the little one to bed. Jess.xxx

Hi there it does get easier drink plenty of water rest when you need to and don't panic it always makes it worse keep going to your Dr because even if you only talk it is not only helping you but also your Dr because at the end of the day it may make them more aware of how sah survivors feel. Hope you get everything you need from this site. Jess.xxx

Thank you Myra xxx Thank you Michelle I will always be glad I had the sah I know that sounds silly but I am glad because lets face it hospitals Drs everyone still need to learn the signs so if ever my children have one I will be able to tell the hospital forget all your tests they need a MRI scan now. Jess.xxx

Hi everyone just wanted to let you know it does get easier over time. Yes I still get headaches a bit of dizzyness but overall my life is a lot better. I would like to thank the brain and spine foundation and behind the gray for all their help and support over the years, without them I don't know where I would of been. I now know how suddenly it can all be over, no its not nice knowing that however it has given me the opportunity to make sure my children know I love them everyday. Me and my husband split up at the start of this year and to be honest it was the best thing that could happen, I married him for all the wrong reasons however I am glad I did, not because he supported me far from it he actually made me feel guilty for having the sah, but I will always be glad he was apart of my life because without him I wouldn't have my two beautiful boys. I feel that I have now finally accepted my sah and can move on from it so don't ever feel alone there will always be someone out there to listen and offer advice. Jess.xxx Ps and if you want to ask anything please just pm me.

Hi there sorry I wouldn't fly even if the Drs told me I could in your situation. Myself personally I would want it sealed before I even contemplated going abroad. I am sorry you are in this predicament. Jess.xxx

Hi jus I know someone who had a bleed about 15 years ago and he has to take aspirin for life he is ok and still alive and hasn't had another bleed. I know its scary I was petrified for ages after mine but it will get easier with time just rest when you need to drink water and relax the more you worry the more you feel. Drs know what they are doing so if they have told you to take aspirin take it but still ask for a second opinion which you are entitled to but I am sure you will be ok. Jess.xxx

HI shellie welcome to btg it does get easier with time just listen to your body you will be fine. Jess.xxx

Hi nick welcome to btg hope you find everything you need here. Jess.xxx

Michelle I want you to go to the next thing you want to go too. I still feel like that 10 years on but I just don't let it beat me you can't if I did my kids would be miserable you know what the queues are like at theme parks but you have to face up to it and sooner rather than later cause the longer you leave it the worse you will feel and you will have missed so much so go to the next event even if it means leaving early at least you will have been involved. I know how you feel I really do first I hear my heart beat in my ears then I start to feel dizzy my head and neck start to hurt but I carry on I fight through it because if you don't the sah will have won and because we are not victims we are survivors. Jess.xxx

I have had enough of hearing about the book and not having it so I have ordered a copy today so I too shall be reading it soon lol. Jess.xxx

Hi Stephanie tell them exactly how you feel tell them you won't ever be the same again it took me almost ten years to make my husband realise that I had changed and he finally saw it at the start of march when I told him he could leave and we haven't got back together. And that was the real turning point in my life that was when I finally realised I was over the sah it took along time but I am a lot happier now. Jess.xxx Ps I am not saying to leave your partner but if it hadn't of been for my sah me and kev would of split up along time ago so I will always be grateful now that I had the sah when I did else I may never of had my two wonderful little boys that I have.

Welcome to btg. Try not to let it get to you to much like you say the head needs someone there to do the job, and ask them if it will be yours as soon as you are fit to return full-time until you know don't stress to much. Drink plenty of water and rest when you need to and hope you recover well and fast. Jess.xxx

Hi Kerry as long as you rest and drink plenty of water when needed you should be ok. Jess,xxx

Hi there it does get easier with time however I feel you should of had more time off work to recover what job do you do. I went through everything I had 3 months off work almost after my op for the unruptured one and I feel I went back to work to soon I am still there but I did return to soon. I would go back to your Dr and get some more time off and slowly go back just go to shops and in crowds and on trains then start going into work just for an hour or so. Hope you improve soon. Jess.xxx

Oh Vicky I felt just like that after having Garry my eldest don't worry you will be ok I still am and he is 8 now just drink plenty of water and enjoy your son. Tell him you love him everyday and cuddle him all the time and I really wouldn't worry having children makes you stronger so you will be fine. Jess.xxx

Hi Paul welcome to btg and you don't have to worry about your emotions here you can let everyone know here just how you are feeling we have all been there. Jess.xxx