goldfish.girl Posted June 30, 2010 Share Posted June 30, 2010 Hi, I'm not sure hoe to introduce myself on here. I tried using the 'contact us' button but it didn't work! Can anyone help? Thank you, Mel Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Karen Posted June 30, 2010 Share Posted June 30, 2010 Hi Mel and welcome! All you do, is just write a bit about yourself and when you had the SAH/Stroke ....you're in the correct forum to do that.... just click on the "Post Reply" button underneath my message and then you can type in the text box. xx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
myratas Posted June 30, 2010 Share Posted June 30, 2010 Hi Mel A warm welcome to this site, hope to hear more from you when you are ready! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blueday Posted June 30, 2010 Share Posted June 30, 2010 Welcome to BTG..... When you want to write something, if your thinking and taking your time make sure you can save what you have written somewhere before you hit the submit button. If there is too much of a time delay you will lose what you have written. You won't be happy if you lose it all..........like I have. Looking forward to hearing more from you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JayKay Posted June 30, 2010 Share Posted June 30, 2010 Hello and welcome! You're in the right place Like the others, I look forward to hearing more from you.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tina Posted July 1, 2010 Share Posted July 1, 2010 Hi Mel a very warm welcome to you...look forward to hearing from you soon...take care xx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vivien Posted July 1, 2010 Share Posted July 1, 2010 Hello Mel and welcome to the site Vivien Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
maggie Posted July 1, 2010 Share Posted July 1, 2010 Hi Mel,welcome. I am always asking questions on how to get around the site so don't you be worrying there's always someone to help. Look forward to hearing from you soon Maggiex:redface: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bogbrush Posted July 1, 2010 Share Posted July 1, 2010 Hi Mel and welcome to behindthegray Take you time, I'm sure you will soon get used to the site. Anything you need to know, just ask. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Louise Posted July 1, 2010 Share Posted July 1, 2010 Hi Mel Warm welcome to the site Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Diduck Posted July 2, 2010 Share Posted July 2, 2010 hi looking forward to reading your story all the best Di Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
goldfish.girl Posted July 2, 2010 Author Share Posted July 2, 2010 Hi, thank you for the replies and the instructions on how to use the site! I had an SAH two years ago next week but have inly just started to receive aftercare from the brain rehabilitation people - I didn't even know there was any emotional aftercare until April this year. I've been on your site a few times and had a look around - it has been great to realise that my recovery is 'normal' even after nearly two years. I was staring to think I was just lazy! So it has been a huge relief to hear that some of you also still have problems. Mel x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kempse Posted July 2, 2010 Share Posted July 2, 2010 Hi Mel, Welcome to this site. I hope you manage to find your way to introducing yourself - I remember having a few problems to start with - look forward to hearing from you in due course. Best wishes, Sarah. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Janet Posted July 2, 2010 Share Posted July 2, 2010 Hi Mel Welcome to the site look forward to hearing more from you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
goldfish.girl Posted July 2, 2010 Author Share Posted July 2, 2010 Sara, Momo & Janet - thank you. I have just read a post by Janet elsewhere on here and was really interested in you working 20 hrs over 4 days. I went back to work after 3 months and still struggle now. I do three days of 8 hours and find it totally exhausting. I come home to my son who wants his tea, needs help with homework and a dog who wants a walk, then it's time to do packed lunches for the next day! I honestly haven't found it getting any easier in all this time. I am completely exhausted when I get home and am very snappy and horrible, I also have regular headaches & dizziness when I'm at work. It's an awful feeling but I'm scared to give in and accept defeat (for now). It would also be hard financially if I cut my hours as I live alone with my son. I knew after my 2nd coiling 3months after I went back to work that I wasn't coping but my doctor only signed me off for 2 weeks (a total of 14 wks post SAH). I wonder if pushing myself non stop since then is holding up my progress or do I maybe need to accept that I may never get any better than this? I would be very grateful to hear what others think. Thank you. Mel x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Louise Posted July 3, 2010 Share Posted July 3, 2010 Hiya For me I found that pushing myself to hard did hold up my progress, but as we say we're all different only you can decide whats right for you. but we're here Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
goldfish.girl Posted July 3, 2010 Author Share Posted July 3, 2010 Thank you Louise. Do you feel fully fit now? Mel x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Skippy Posted July 4, 2010 Share Posted July 4, 2010 Hey Mel Welcome to the site and to the family. It does sound like you're doing too much. If you cut your hours, would you be entitled to any benefits? Its worth talking to your employers and GP about if you're not feeling brilliant after working. Recovery times are different for everyone and you need to take things at your own pace. I was lucky enough not to have any lasting effects and was back at work three weeks later - luckily my husband and I run our own company and I used to sleep during the day. Four years on I work full time at a Nursery in the Training Department and am still able to help my husband with the accounts and admin in the evening and the weekend. It does get better with time, but there's no point in setting yourself back if you can help it. The most important thing is that your health is good, look into what benefits you'd be entitled to working less hours and see if it helps - but talk to you GP and employers if you can. Take care Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Janet Posted July 4, 2010 Share Posted July 4, 2010 Mel Fortunately my employers have been good with me with regards to the hours. Working the 20 hours over four is good as it means only 5 hours each day. Have a word with your employer see if they will let you change your work pattern to 24 over 4 days instead of over 3 days. If you don't ask you'll never know they may even let you do it. If not try a referral to Occupational Health they maybe be able to persuade your employer. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Angela Posted July 5, 2010 Share Posted July 5, 2010 I'm a newby to this site to ,just finding my feet also Look forward to hearing more from you too take care xx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Liz D Posted July 5, 2010 Share Posted July 5, 2010 Hi Mel Welcome to the site. I agree with Skippy, couldn't you look into seeing if you would be entitled to any help. It does rather sound as though things are a bit too much for you at the moment. Did your employer allow you to go back on a phased return? Do you know there is a new sick note system now. Your GP can give you a sick note asking your employer to cut back your hours for a certain period, I do think you need to go and have a conversation with your GP. Tell him/her how you are feeling. I also think what Janet said is a good idea, you never know what you can get until you ask. But so glad you've found this site and remember when you're having a bad day we're always here to listen. Take care. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Angela Posted July 7, 2010 Share Posted July 7, 2010 Hi Mel. I work 25 hrs over 4 days, just over 6hrs a day. Which is more than enough in my job My job is demanding and very tiring,and times when i finish my shift i am shattered I felt i had a lot to prove when ireturned back to my work after 1 year Also there was the feeling i was being monitored to see if i was coping,which put added pressure on me I work in a rehab ward for the elderly, and when i went back to work it was on a phased return for a few weeks Initially my ward manager wanted me to do 5 days, but occupational Health said no, the 4 was plenty And if that was too much i could be transferred to another department, . I was offered the chance to be trained up for office duties and i turned it down:crazy: Mad i know everyone said a was nuts, i probably am You do what can ,dont push yourself, ano i need to take my own advice,i my body punishes me hard when i do push the boundries Occupational Health will help you, thats what they'r there for Use them if you need them Take care xx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jan53 Posted July 7, 2010 Share Posted July 7, 2010 Hi Mel, welcome, don't worry about asking questions. I'm always asking advice. Good luck xx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
goldfish.girl Posted July 12, 2010 Author Share Posted July 12, 2010 Thank you all for your advice & letting me know of other options which might help - i'm very grateful. I will look into how to contact Occupational Health. I've just had a week away on holiday with my son and I feel great. Back to work tomorrow so I'll see how great I feel by Friday!! Thank you again, Mel Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
goldfish.girl Posted July 18, 2010 Author Share Posted July 18, 2010 Apparently there is no Occupational Health for civilians in MoD!!!! I was told to contact Benefits Agency! Got to work last week to find my desk had been evicted from my office! Do other people on here wonder why they've fought so hard to get back to 'normal' sometimes? M x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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