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Chelle C

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Chelle C last won the day on May 6 2017

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About Chelle C

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  • Birthday 09/09/1963

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  1. Hi Susanne, Welcome to BTG, I Have to agree with Tina, it sounds like your husband is doing to much, most people returning to work after SAH usually do a phased return, gradually building up to returning to full time hours, some find that they are unable to get back to full time work, could your husband ask to start again by reducing the hours back and see how he manages with that, it might be a good idea for him to speak to his employer about this. The fatigue is his body's way of telling him it's not happy to be pushed to hard, his brain and his body have suffered a major trauma and they both need lots of time to recover, taking things at a slower pace will help with that. All of this is probably having an impact on his memory also, a lot of us have short term memory issues, a lot of us also find that if we over do things or are fatigued it has an affect on the way our brain functions. Susanne, is your husband drinking plenty of water, staying well hydrated is very important, being dehydrated can also have a negative affect on the brain. I'm really pleased you have found BTG, you have come to a great place for help, support and advice, we are not allowed to give medical advice, but we can share our own experiences of SAH and the recovery journey that we are all on with you, hopefully helping you to understand what is going on with your husband. Don't forget to look after yourself too, Wishing you both well Love Michelle xx
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    One year anniversary

    Congratulations on your 1st Anni-versary, it is great to hear how well he is doing. Hope you both have a lovely holiday & enjoy celebrating your wedding anniversary. Love & best wishes to you both Michelle xx
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    8 years for me today!

    Congratulations Macca on your 8 year anni-versary and your 6th wedding anniversary, I hope you have a wonderful day, I also want to thank you, over the 4 years that I have been coming here you have shown me great support and for that I am truly grateful, you have a wonderful way with words, your honesty and empathy with people is just amazing. You are a wonderful person and an inspiration to us all. Wishing you well Macca Love Michelle xx
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    Hi Anne, I too still have bouts of dizziness 4 years since SAH, it was worse in the beginning but it has improved as time has gone on, I do compensate by doing things a bit slower than I used to. The fatigue is probably the worst thing to cope with, it is still early days with your recovery as Tina said, things will improve as time goes on, just make sure you stay well hydrated and rest up when you are tired, listen to your body and brain as they will let you know if you over do it. Try to slow things down a little bit, I'm sure things will start to improve, If you are very worried speaking to your GP may help to put your mind at ease. Good luck, I hope things start to settle down soon for you. Love Michelle xx
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    Taste bud problems?

    Hi Joe, I also had problems with my taste buds, I used to love eating mints before my bleed, can't eat them now I am 4 years since SAH, I struggle with brushing my teeth but I manage by making sure I rinse all of the toothpasteout of my mouth, the other thing I couldn't eat was chocolate but thankfully that one has corrected itself. As everyone has said it takes time for things to settle down. As Jan said just keep trying your favourite foods. Good luck Love Michelle xx
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    I had acupuncture for my back, it did help to relax things off for a little while, she used to put one of the needles in the bit of skin between my thumb and first finger and I would feel so relaxed it made me fall asleep and I felt really good when she woke me up. Really hope it helps to get your shoulder feeling better Jan. Love Michelle xx
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    Feeling down

    Hi Ian, Sorry to hear you are having a rough time at the moment, did the DWP give a reason for stopping your ESA, If I were you I would go and speak to either Citizens Advice Bureau or if your local council have a Welfare Rights person you could maybe speak to them, I have used them in the past and have always found them very helpful. You maybe entitled to a Mandatory Reconsideration ( which means they look at your claim again ) if they don't change their decision then you are entitled to appeal, i think I have got that right, if not then I'm sure someone will put you right on that bit. Don't leave it to long though as you only have a certain length of time in which to do it. I really hope this helps, the headaches you are experiencing are probably stress related, had a similar experience myself very recently and that was to do with DWP. As always if you are worried about headaches speak to your GP. Hope you get things sorted out and things start looking better for you. Take care Love Michelle xx
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    Brilliant news Tara, Hope this is the start of continued improvement for your mum. Let us know how things are going. Love Michelle xx
  9. Hi Mandy, Welcome to BTG so glad you have found us, you will find a wealth of information here, although we are not allowed to give medical advice you can learn a lot from all the different experiences that other members have had due to SAH, I'm sorry that you appear to have a problem with your leg, it is still early in your recovery but if you are very worried maybe contact the hospital where you had your treatment to get some advice about your leg. As for whether it's the bleed or the surgery that has caused it, the only person who can tell you that is your surgeon, most people get a follow-up appointment around 6 months after the event, if for whatever reason you don't get a letter then you should contact the hospital. I had left sided weakness after my SAH, I also had to lift my leg to do certain things and had to use crutches, when I went back for my follow up my surgeon suggested that I should have some Physiotherapy and it did really help me, 4 years down the recovery road I only notice a bit of weakness whenI am tired or if I have over done things, so it might be worth asking about. I think you will find that most members have had a similar experience when leaving hospital, especially not being given much information and also finding that gp's don't really have much idea about SAH because they very rarely come across someone who has suffered a one, you can start to feel like you've just been dumped and left to get on with it. As I said at the start, you are very early in your recovery, your brain and your body have suffered a huge trauma and they both need lots of time to recover, making sure that you are getting lots of rest and drinking lots of water to stay hydrated is very important, staying hydrated will help with any headaches that you may have and resting when you need to is also an important part of your recovery. I think the worst thing for me was the fatigue, in the first couple of months just moving from one room to another was exhausting, I also found it very difficult to explain to friends and family how tired I actually was, you could show your partner and friends this forum, they can read some of the posts that relate to how you are feeling and maybe get a better understanding of what you have been through and what you are still going through, you also need to understand that no two bleeds are the same, so recovery levels and recovery rates are all different, I wish you well as you go along the recovery road, it can be a bit of a bumpy one at times, we are here to help you along that road, come along into the green room and join in the daily banter, you will get a laugh at some of the posts and also make a lot of new friends. You no longer have to feel that you are going through this alone. Love & best wishes Michelle. Xx
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    1 year today!

    Congratulations Clare on your 1st Anni-versary, hope you manage to get out for your celebration meal. Hope you continue to go from strength to strength. Love & best wishes Michelle xx
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    3 years and counting....

    Hi Weedrea, Congratulations on your 3rd Anni-versary. Hope you continue to go from strength to strength with your recovery. Love Michelle xx
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    13 years post SAH today.

    Congratulations on your 13th Anni-versary Karen. Your words are so inspirational and give us all hope that we can continue to recover and achieve things that maybe we thought we couldn't, Thank you for sharing your special day with us, for all that you do and for this wonderful support group. Well done on getting up, down and around that hilly place. Love & hugs Michelle xx
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    Road trip?

    Hi Valene welcome to BTG, I was only out of hospital 3 weeks when I took a 2 hour journey to our holiday home, I have to admit it was a really difficult journey and we made 3 stops on the way, I know 2 hours doesn't sound very long but I was totally wiped out and very dizzy when we arrived at our destination. I did ask the medical team if it was ok for me to travel and they did say It depended on how I was feeling and to make sure I took any information I was given on my discharge from hospital with me, which I did. I don't have children so I can't really comment on that side of things but I did spend nearly all of the 2 weeks sleeping, I really wished I hadn't gone but I didn't want to spoil it for my partner after all he had been through a very stressful time too. Like Sub's said your body and brain need time to heal and it does take a long time, you may feel that because you are there you have to join in with everything that is going on, when you really don't feel up to it, will you be able to rest if and when you need to, these are all things to take into consideration when you make your decision, if you do decide to go the advice Chris has given you about getting the teens to do packing and the strenuous stuff is a great idea, just make everyone concerned aware that you have to still take things slowly and will need lots of rest. Good luck with whatever you decide to do, just be kind to yourself. Love Michelle xx
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    My flight adventure

    Lovely photo Louise, So pleased all went well for you and you managed to spend some time with family member's, the last few lines of your post made me cry. I know it's not the same as blood family but you are very much loved by all of us at BTG. Love Michelle. Xx
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    Fatigue and memory

    Hi Tara, Welcome to BTG, sorry to hear that your mum has suffered SAH, it must have been very traumatic for you, especially having this happen while on holiday. The fatigue that your mum is experiencing is normal after SAH, her body and her brain have suffered a major trauma and they both need a lot of time to recover, this means she will sleep a lot, it's the brains way of trying to recover, if you have to wake her to eat and she feels she needs to rest and sleep allow her to do that, If she doesn't feel like getting out of bed, try taking small amounts of food to her, I know I had very little appitite after my SAH and could only cope with small portions. Try to make sure that she is drinking lots of water, keeping hydrated is really important and it really does help with headaches if mum is getting them. Memory issues are also a common side affect of SAH, a lot of people suffer short term memory problems, I did and still do 4 years out, some people will recover their short term memory, some people won't, every bleed is different and there is no one size fits all, everyone recovers differently, a lot also depends on where the bleed occurred in the brain as to what cognitive issues a person will have. Recovery from SAH is a very slow process, your mum will need lots of rest as her body and brain try to recover, the fact that she has you there for support is brilliant, you also need to make sure that you look after yourself too, this is a very stressful and difficult time for you all and any questions you have don't be worried about asking them, we can't give any medical advice as non of us are qualified to do So, but we can help you with our own experiences of SAH. Best Wishes to you and your mum Love Michelle xx