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    Sport-(watching rather than participating now)Football, Golf, Athletics

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    Reading-Gardening-Having a latte as often as possible with my wife (she had SAH 5/2011)

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  1. Hi, and thanks for your up-date. So glad you managed to get your BTG access again Please let us know how your scan results go … Keep listening to your body and do take time to rest and recharge Subs
  2. Hello Charlie, and thanks for sharing your thoughts after one year. Great to hear that you have found BTG has been a support throughout the year, and that your family and friends have been there for you too. Everyone has their own route to follow as they find ways to deal with SAH recovery ……. and whether progress is slow, steady or challenging...time does bring a measure of healing and acceptance that life has changed. Your comments will help others in their early days and keep us posted about your own journey. Subs
  3. Hello Jean, well done and congratulations two years on. Glad you are able to put these early tough days behind you, and thanks for your own input to the various issues raised on the Forums throughout the year. The BTG family are special to those who have encountered this often misunderstood trauma and the challenges it leaves in it`s wake.. Wishing you well for the future. Subs
  4. Hello Lynette … and also a warm welcome to BTG …. at a time when you are feeling such despair. You are among friends. It is so hard to watch the hand that your husband has been dealt by SAH … There are carers and families on this site who have also watched their loved ones fight for life, feeling so helpless as they too have waited anxiously for any sign that a corner had been turned. They understand your emotions and feelings of despair. While there is life there is hope … please don`t ever give up …. and be strong for your husband now and as the JFK Assessment takes place. Stay with him and talk often as he lies there. Wishing you and your children strength and courage through these difficult days. Please keep in touch Subs
  5. Hello, and also a warm welcome to BTG. Eighteen months on I trust your two teenage sons are now well familiar to the changes SAH has brought to your family unit and also your fiancée. Well done on what you have achieved so far post your SAH. Taking that initial six months off work and then a careful phased return to work was certainly the wise approach. I agree with Macca and Clare … you should definitely see this contact with OH as a positive step for them to understand where you are in terms of your health and how they can help you going forward. My wife was also an NHS employee and her OH experience was a great help in her return to work. Slightly different in as far as her first interview was before she started back to work. I also attended the interview and all subsequent follow-up appointments to give her support. In fact she was eager to get back to normal hours asap … whereas the OH urged restraint and kept her to a slow phased return. As Macca says, tell them about your fears …. and try and find out if how aware they are of what a SAH recovery requires. Treat this as a opportunity to help both you and the company get the best from your experience. Best wishes and stay positive. Subs
  6. Hello, and also a warm welcome to BTG. Well done for achieving four days at work. Being involved in any schooling activities involving children would certainly be a challenge to your recovery, with so many different stresses, noises and demanding children affecting your work day. Six months on you will no doubt be aware that finding time to rest and recharge is vital as you build up your physical and mental strength and your brain adjusts to your bleed. As others have mentioned, eyesight is a very common after effect of brain trauma, and often time is needed to see how things settle down and give an indication of how it may be longer term. You have come to the right place for help at BTG. Within these forums there is over ten years of personal input from our members, and eyesight issues is certainly well documented. The following link will give you access to 50 pages of information. https://web.behindthegray.net/search/?q=eyes Wishing you well as you continue your recovery Subs
  7. Hello Alison and also a huge well done four years on. So glad that after these early traumatic months you are now looking forward and positive about the future. While some survivors find from their initial scans that they have other aneurysms that may require monitoring In the future,... those recovering from NASAH and those whose aneurisms have been coiled or clipped can take much comfort from knowing that the instances of a recurrence are very low indeed. Although you may reflect on the past from time to time, please take that positive approach and do not let a fear of it happening again spoil your life for years to come. Thanks for acknowledging that BTG and it`s members have been a source of encouragement to you. Wishing you well in the days ahead. Subs
  8. frmrtd many thanks for your frank post. As is often quoted ..`God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can … and the wisdom to know the difference`. Much more relevant to those recovering after SAH. Subs
  9. Hello Janet, and thanks for your positive comments about the content on this thread which have given you so much comfort about your recovery. It is human nature to try and get back to normal following a major trauma, however as you now realise.... with SAH … pressing on in these early days can be even more detrimental to `getting there` . So glad you have accepted that a much reduced working week is your way ahead. It may well be the case that in time you will be able to gradually increase your time at work. Keep taking that long term approach …. you are early days at 2 months. Work and family life do require to fall into pace with you …. and share your feelings with your son and husband who are also still adapting their thoughts and lives as they see what is happening to mum. So glad your employer is accommodating too. None of us, sufferers and Carers alike probably knew anything about `SAH` before it hit us so dramatically... and perhaps even cruelly …. those you meet need you to share what it is like with them and if they are genuine in their concern... they will be there for you. Take care … and keep positive through these early months Subs
  10. Thanks for that Greg... hope you are doing well. Subs
  11. Hello Joe … also welcome to BTG. Sorry to hear of the issues and difficult decisions you are facing two years on. You are certainly not alone when it comes to dealing with trying to get back to `work as usual`. Often the reduced quality of life caused by straining to cope with a series of full shift will eventually `force` you to make decisions which you have been trying to put off. In addition to Maccas suggestions I would add that my wife also asked her employer to provide her with much larger screen monitor. This really helped her cope following her reduced eyesight issues. While she did return to her stressful fulltime employment, she eventually reduced her hours and also transferred to less stressful work. Lifestyle and family/ financial commitments can often make this decision very challenging. I do hope you and your partner continue to talk through the realistic options for you both. Subs
  12. SM …. well done 15 years on. Your pragmatic approach has definitely been the right way forward for you. When they dished out determination and grit you definitely received a large portion. You are an inspiration in so many ways, and your health issues have certainly not curtailed your insatiable desire for `another holiday in the sun` ! I just hope Brexit doesn`t cramp your style ….. take heed...Messrs Tusk, Jonker and Barnier Subs
  13. Hello Neil... many thanks for sharing about Cassandra`s progress. Three and a half years .. and you both have been faced with immense challenges and setbacks. What comes through in your post is that there is still so much positivity in your words. I have immense admiration for you both. Those who have been on the recovery journey for many years will reassure you that there is always hope for improvement, notwithstanding the complexity of the obstacles you have already faced. Wishing you both the strength and support you need to continue. Subs
  14. Hello, and also a warm welcome to BTG. So glad you found the site so quickly. You will find great support in the days ahead as you discover that there are members who have been challenged by the hand SAH has dealt them …. and they have related in their posts about how they have tried to move on with their lives. With only 26 days since your bleed, it is so early in your recovery …. and while you say you have recovered ….. few survivors make a complete recovery. With this in mind, early advice is invariably to rest well in the early weeks and months, and don`t rush to return to work and household chores too soon. At present you feel that your feeling of guilt is your only concern, however fatigue, headaches and emotional upsets are often apparent in these early days. You are right to feel upset about what your family have witnessed. Being told you may not survive was so difficult for them to cope with at the time. They will have felt so helpless. And now you have survived … they too have emotions that are `all over the place`. For you …. as Macca mentioned... SAH can damage the emotional area of the brain, and control of emotions might not be quite as it was before. For many, time is a great healer. Reading the various threads on this site will help give you a wider understanding of SAH recovery, and your partner and family would also benefit. Being positive will be a great help, and talk regularly with your family and friends about how you are feeling. Don`t hesitate to make contact with your consultant. I too wish you well as you navigate your life post SAH. Please continue to share your progress. Subs
  15. Hello Clive …. also thank you for sharing how you have fared post SAH. You gave a return to full employment your best shot, and well done for trying, and also accepting that continuing full time was not in your health`s best interests. Glad you are positive about how you are moving on, and are enjoying your `retirement`. Having lived with Mrs Sub`s recovery for almost eight years now, I can tell you that even at this stage I am still witnessing these small improvements which maybe others don`t see. Keep up that positive attitude even when SAH has left life frustrating …. and you are right …. later in life we all begin to feel less able to remember …. and our tolerance levels have their moments !! Take care and keep on going Subs
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