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    Sport-(watching rather than participating now)Football, Golf, Athletics

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    Reading-Gardening-Having a latte as often as possible with my wife (she had SAH 5/2011)

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  1. Yes, you are right. When with friends, family and work colleagues it can be so frustrating. They wrongly assume that because in many cases there is no outward evidence of the brain trauma ..then you must be recovering ok. How far from reality this can be! Subs
  2. Hello and also a warm welcome to BTG. So glad you found the site and are already benefiting from reading the posts from our members. While we do not provide medical advice you will find great support by being part of the BTG community. Many thanks for sharing and 3 years on you will have as you mention, experienced the highs and lows of rebuilding your life. SAH and NASAH do not follow a set pattern in recovery. So much depends on how much damage was done to the brain by your bleed. Your own personal circumstances such as employment, family life and age will all play a part. Good physical health can help, but it is not unusual for even the most fit to be dogged with tiredness and fatigue, while others have been able to resume active life to varying degrees. Frequent or prolonged headaches and fatigue are common after effects and can be lessened by keeping well hydrated and learning how to listen to your body, and becoming aware of your limits. You say you have pushed yourself at times .... and while to be admired, you will find that trying too hard may well have a negative affect on your well being. Please continue to read the threads that relate to your circumstances, and don`t hesitate to continue to ask any questions. At BTG you are amongst friends and fellow survivors all of whom have their own individuals stories to tell. I am sure your husband and family will also benefit from reading the forums. They have no doubt already learned so much about this debilitating attack on your brain as they have tried to help you through these early years. Keep positive. There is always the possibility of further improvements after many years. Best wishes to you and your family. Subs
  3. Hello Fiona .... sorry to hear that you are struggling in an interview situation following your SAH. I sympathise with you as you put yourself in a situation where the pressure is on from yourself because you really want the job, and the very fact that for most people an interview is always an apprehensive time. It may well be that explaining about your SAH upfront in the interview might have reduced the pressure. In your application for the post did your health not come up in the employers application pro forma? As you know, your bleed has caused trauma to your brain and in recovery, your brain is attempting to reroute around the damage to get to the answers you want. (Our Mod Daffodil has often commented on the specifics of this and I do recommend you search on her posts. Her answers I am sure will resonate with your current reservations.) Also, would it have helped if you had done `role play` interviews with a friend prior to the interview proper? This might have helped you understand how your brain would react to constant questioning about your ability to do the job. I do hope you do not give up, and persevere .... many of our members are resolute in finding ways around SAH to get to where they want to be. Keep positive going forward. I wish you well Subs
  4. Hello Gem Also a warm welcome to BTG. So glad you have found the site and you will find support from reading the wealth of information contained within the various forums. Our members will also try and help with any questions you may have. Being faced with your dad having survived the massive trauma of SAH is certainly a daunting prospect. SAH is not a condition that is widely appreciated until it hits someone near to you. The medical specialists who have cared for your dad are correct in as far as they have stabilised the initial trauma, but the extent of brain damage only becomes apparent with time as these agonising days weeks and months progress. You are right in saying that it is so, so difficult to be so helpless as you watch for any signs of recovery. Never give up hope. You dad has survived and he will fight to recover. The body can be extremely resilient. Please be patient. I appreciate that your situation has the added aspect of your relationship with your dad being somewhat `strained`. Again this is not unique and there are other members of BTG who have been in similar circumstances with either parents or spouses. He does need your support at this time. He may not respond much but it is likely that he can hear you speak. It is important that you look after yourself during your dad`s recovery. The long term nature of SAH recovery requires care by those family members who want to be involved. I hope you can discuss the practcalities with the other family members. As you say, each survivor`s situation is different. I wish you and your family well as you come to terms with dad`s brain trauma. Subs
  5. Lovely poem Casey ... many thanks for sharing. Touches a chord with eveyone I`m sure. Subs
  6. Sarah ... well done two years post SAH. Great to hear that you are positive about your progress. With such a traumatic time back then it is good that you have felt BTG and it`s members have been such a support in your recovery journey. It is also encouraging when you realise that recovery is gradual as the brain continues to heal and adapt. Best wishes as you go forward into another year. Subs
  7. Hello Roberta and a warm welcome to BTG While we do not provide any medical advice, you will find so much support and useful information as you read the individual personal recovery stories within the forums. In particular many members have commented on the use of complementary therapies and if you key 'complementary therapies ' in the search option on the top right of the web page you will be able to browse and select information that you may feel is helpful to your studies. I am sure other members will also provide you with their experiences. Having been on the recovery road for so many years we would also welcome hearing more about your own highs and lows along the way. Take care and best wishes in your studies and research. Subs
  8. Hello and also a wasrm welcome to BTG. As Michelle mentions ... it is so early in your mom`s recovery and it is important that you don`t view her current condition as how she will be from here on. People and their bodies are very resilient and given days, weeks and yes in mom`s case .. months ... it is likely that you will begin to see signs of recovery. Removing her trach in itself will be a positive sign. Please take that long term view as you just give her support just now by simply being there for her and talking to her. Again as Michelle says . ... this event with your mom has been devastating for you and her immediate family. You feel so helpless and so eager to have her back home again. The doctors have told you straight .... at this stage they do not know how she will progress, but it is important that in realising that recovery is not something you will see overnight .... you can be less worried and more calm around her. Please make sure that you and other family members continue to eat and rest well as you adjust to what has happened to your mom. It can be so easy to neglect yourselves at a time like this. Talk to each other frequently about your concerns and about the practical difficulties that you have to take care of in the future. Also this site will give you much support and hope as you and your family read the many recovery journies of our members. The Carers Forum will also give you much needed support. Take care and please keep in touch with us. Subs
  9. Hi and also well done 5 years on. Great to hear how you are adapting your life around the SAH issues and being so positive. Wishing you a long and happy retirement. Subs.
  10. Louise, also CONGRATULATIONS twenty years on. Many thanks for taking the time to share your thoughts in greater detail. You have done so well in dealing with your SAH recovery and the highs and lows of your personal life. Losing close family can be so tough and as you say ...remembering about your mum and dad and your SAH within a few days of each other is so emotional. So glad you managed to find BTG and get the extra encouragement you deserved. As Sami says, you have always been willing to give helpful advice to other members and provide words of encouragement along the way. I remember in an earlier anniversary of yours I looked back over your posts on BTG and I am sure you will agree that what you have composed today shows how much you have improved. You have not given up when the going was tough. Being a fellow Scot ... Robert the Bruce and spider comes to mind ! 😊 It was so great to follow your plans and reservations about travelling abroad to attend the wedding last year .... another big milestone in your confidence building. I also take the opportunity to thank you for the interest you have show in Mrs Sub`s and myself over the years... we have both valued it. Take care and hope that Ronnie`s shifts are geared to a `little` celebration. Subs
  11. Colleen ... congratulations 11 years on. Well done and thanks for keeping in touch. Hope your tooth extract is ok. Plenty rinses with lightly salted water. 😊 Subs
  12. Hello Carolyn ..... as you read the many threads within the BTG forums a constant theme is that there rarely is a quick recovery, and adjusting to dealing with the trauma of your bleed can pose some very real challenges to you and those close to you. You will constantly get advice from our members that even after six months to a year it is early days in your attempts to re-adjust your life. For you, 7 weeks is so early in your recovery journey and as mentioned in your earlier thread replies ... you are just finding out some of these challenges. Although this is easier said than done .... please be aware that SAH can have marked changes to your emotions and it is not unusual. to be weepy and disturbed because you are displaying traits that are so contrary to the `real` you. When you show frustration and low self control with those you love, talk with them and share your fears .... this will help them understand what to expect as they also try and adapt to your `behavior`. .... believe me they want to help. They too are confused and wondering what the future holds. Often these do improve with time. Dealing with them as they happen is the challenge for you and your family. Many members of BTG share your concerns and have `been there`. Their experiences are here to help you .... and you too will look back and share with others how you coped with such difficult changes in your life. Take care ... and never give up. Subs
  13. Hello Carolyn ... Just a brief word on your comments about how you felt when you were on the short car journey with your husband driving. Following your SAH you will be discovering many situations where your brain simply does not react in the way you would expect. Your damaged brain is trying to find other ways to help you get to where you want causing you to feel how you did. One such situation is that your reaction times are different now. Formerly, being driven by your husband would have been a relaxing time, but now you may find that you are sitting beside him anticipating every move he makes and this can result in much stress for yourself. In my situation with Mrs Subs ... she often was unable to just sit there and let me change lanes, brake, move on at a junction and so on ... and her reactions initially were concerning for me until I appreciated that the reason was simply her malfuctioning brain. I am pleased to say that with time this has so improved . So when you eventually try and return to driving, you too may feel the concentration required to drive well in busy traffic causes headaches or tiredness simply because your brain is trying to find ways to cope while still damaged. Please stay positive as you come up against these `trials`. You will with time find ways to adjust. Subs
  14. Hello Carolyn... a warm welcome to BTG. So glad you found the site. It is very early in your recovery. Following an SAH the medics are unable to tell you with any certainty how the bleed will affect your daily routines and recovery. Everyone is different and only with time do you begin to discover how your life and body have been affected. Headaches and fatigue are common after effects. These can ease with time but again vary in severity from person to person. It s important in these early days that you do not rush your recovery. Your brain will take time to heal. Efforts to get back to `normal` too quickly will result in increasing fatigue and headaches. Always make sure you are well hydrated by drinking plenty water. This really does help. Please take time to read through the various forum threads as there is so much information from the personal experiences of our members. You will feel that you are not alone in your recovery. Others have many years of living with SAH. The following link will help on the subject of headaches. https://web.behindthegray.net/search/?q=headaches Please take time to share your SAH experience with us in the Introduce Yourself Forum and you can expect much help from our members with any questions you may have. Wishing you well as you begin this challenging journey Subs
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