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    Sport-(watching rather than participating now)Football, Golf, Athletics

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    Reading-Gardening-Having a latte as often as possible with my wife (she had SAH 5/2011)

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  1. Hello Gem .... also so so sorry to hear that your dad has passed away amid such immensely challenging times. Please accept my sincere condolences and I hope you and your family can find solace in the many good times you shared with dad over the years. Take care and keep strong. Subs PS. So glad that Win made that contact with you which made you aware that the BTG family were there for you since his SAH.
  2. Hello Stevie Many thanks for posting your comments on BTG. I do hope you are getting the support from family and friends to help you on the recovery road. Following SAH there is no 'one advice' that fits all. The nature of each bleed is different, as is the damage to the brain and the area suffering the trauma. This site has so much valuable information from members who have shared their fears, anxieties and struggles in the days, months and years following their bleed. You will find great encouragement from reading the various forums. Meantime the following link will provide some information on your specific query about 'flow diverters' . https://web.behindthegray.net/search/?&q=Flow diverter&search_and_or=or Please take time when you are able to share the circumstances surrounding your SAH by visiting the Introduce Yourself forum. Our members will endeavour to help answer any questions you ask. Wishing you well as you go forward and remember it has been a steep learning curve for survivors and carers alike. Subs
  3. Daffodil .... also a huge well done 8 years on. Your journey has been filled with so much that`s been a help for others. Amazing to learn over the years how you have faced the challenges of SAH, work, family life with two fast growing girls and so many emotions along the way. I too have enjoyed reading your blog ...... and found your responses on BTG most helpful in my role as a carer. Great to see that picture of you standing on the surf board having mastered your balance in a great way. A big moment for you personally. Best wishes for the 2020 challenges for you and your family. Subs
  4. Hello Kathy and also well done two years on. Great to hear how well you are dealing with your life post SAH. It must have been so difficult when your mother passed away while you were still in hospital and later your father and aunt. Yet as you say... family have been so supportive over the past two years. Leaving your demanding teaching job was no doubt a difficult but wise step, and I am sure the foster work you and husband continue to do must give you much satisfaction. Many thanks for sharing and we are glad that your new found friends in BTG have also helped along the way. 😊 Best wishes for the years ahead. Subs
  5. Hello Simone, and also a very warm welcome to BTG. Well done to your husband for finding our site and great to hear that you have found encouragement from reading the content of the various forums. I hope he too has found support from the site. Congratulations to you both on the exciting news about your pregnancy. I am sure the medics will give you the added support knowing your existing condition. You may already have checked out this site link. https://web.behindthegray.net/search/?q=PREGNANCY&quick=1 So glad you are taking a positive attitude towards your life post bleed. It is tough for everyone as they deal with the issues of coming to terms that life will be different and challenging. BTG will give you a tremendous insight into how our members have coped. Best wishes for the months ahead until the birth of your baby and we look forward to your own helpful comments about your journey. Subs
  6. Hello Mark ... so sorry you are sufferinging from severe tinnitus. This may be entirely coincidence, however Mrs Subs began using a hearing aid and and noticed a significant improvement. Hope you do get some relief soon. Subs
  7. Yes, you are right. When with friends, family and work colleagues it can be so frustrating. They wrongly assume that because in many cases there is no outward evidence of the brain trauma ..then you must be recovering ok. How far from reality this can be! Subs
  8. Hello and also a warm welcome to BTG. So glad you found the site and are already benefiting from reading the posts from our members. While we do not provide medical advice you will find great support by being part of the BTG community. Many thanks for sharing and 3 years on you will have as you mention, experienced the highs and lows of rebuilding your life. SAH and NASAH do not follow a set pattern in recovery. So much depends on how much damage was done to the brain by your bleed. Your own personal circumstances such as employment, family life and age will all play a part. Good physical health can help, but it is not unusual for even the most fit to be dogged with tiredness and fatigue, while others have been able to resume active life to varying degrees. Frequent or prolonged headaches and fatigue are common after effects and can be lessened by keeping well hydrated and learning how to listen to your body, and becoming aware of your limits. You say you have pushed yourself at times .... and while to be admired, you will find that trying too hard may well have a negative affect on your well being. Please continue to read the threads that relate to your circumstances, and don`t hesitate to continue to ask any questions. At BTG you are amongst friends and fellow survivors all of whom have their own individuals stories to tell. I am sure your husband and family will also benefit from reading the forums. They have no doubt already learned so much about this debilitating attack on your brain as they have tried to help you through these early years. Keep positive. There is always the possibility of further improvements after many years. Best wishes to you and your family. Subs
  9. Hello Fiona .... sorry to hear that you are struggling in an interview situation following your SAH. I sympathise with you as you put yourself in a situation where the pressure is on from yourself because you really want the job, and the very fact that for most people an interview is always an apprehensive time. It may well be that explaining about your SAH upfront in the interview might have reduced the pressure. In your application for the post did your health not come up in the employers application pro forma? As you know, your bleed has caused trauma to your brain and in recovery, your brain is attempting to reroute around the damage to get to the answers you want. (Our Mod Daffodil has often commented on the specifics of this and I do recommend you search on her posts. Her answers I am sure will resonate with your current reservations.) Also, would it have helped if you had done `role play` interviews with a friend prior to the interview proper? This might have helped you understand how your brain would react to constant questioning about your ability to do the job. I do hope you do not give up, and persevere .... many of our members are resolute in finding ways around SAH to get to where they want to be. Keep positive going forward. I wish you well Subs
  10. Hello Gem Also a warm welcome to BTG. So glad you have found the site and you will find support from reading the wealth of information contained within the various forums. Our members will also try and help with any questions you may have. Being faced with your dad having survived the massive trauma of SAH is certainly a daunting prospect. SAH is not a condition that is widely appreciated until it hits someone near to you. The medical specialists who have cared for your dad are correct in as far as they have stabilised the initial trauma, but the extent of brain damage only becomes apparent with time as these agonising days weeks and months progress. You are right in saying that it is so, so difficult to be so helpless as you watch for any signs of recovery. Never give up hope. You dad has survived and he will fight to recover. The body can be extremely resilient. Please be patient. I appreciate that your situation has the added aspect of your relationship with your dad being somewhat `strained`. Again this is not unique and there are other members of BTG who have been in similar circumstances with either parents or spouses. He does need your support at this time. He may not respond much but it is likely that he can hear you speak. It is important that you look after yourself during your dad`s recovery. The long term nature of SAH recovery requires care by those family members who want to be involved. I hope you can discuss the practcalities with the other family members. As you say, each survivor`s situation is different. I wish you and your family well as you come to terms with dad`s brain trauma. Subs
  11. Lovely poem Casey ... many thanks for sharing. Touches a chord with eveyone I`m sure. Subs
  12. Sarah ... well done two years post SAH. Great to hear that you are positive about your progress. With such a traumatic time back then it is good that you have felt BTG and it`s members have been such a support in your recovery journey. It is also encouraging when you realise that recovery is gradual as the brain continues to heal and adapt. Best wishes as you go forward into another year. Subs
  13. Hello Roberta and a warm welcome to BTG While we do not provide any medical advice, you will find so much support and useful information as you read the individual personal recovery stories within the forums. In particular many members have commented on the use of complementary therapies and if you key 'complementary therapies ' in the search option on the top right of the web page you will be able to browse and select information that you may feel is helpful to your studies. I am sure other members will also provide you with their experiences. Having been on the recovery road for so many years we would also welcome hearing more about your own highs and lows along the way. Take care and best wishes in your studies and research. Subs
  14. Hello and also a wasrm welcome to BTG. As Michelle mentions ... it is so early in your mom`s recovery and it is important that you don`t view her current condition as how she will be from here on. People and their bodies are very resilient and given days, weeks and yes in mom`s case .. months ... it is likely that you will begin to see signs of recovery. Removing her trach in itself will be a positive sign. Please take that long term view as you just give her support just now by simply being there for her and talking to her. Again as Michelle says . ... this event with your mom has been devastating for you and her immediate family. You feel so helpless and so eager to have her back home again. The doctors have told you straight .... at this stage they do not know how she will progress, but it is important that in realising that recovery is not something you will see overnight .... you can be less worried and more calm around her. Please make sure that you and other family members continue to eat and rest well as you adjust to what has happened to your mom. It can be so easy to neglect yourselves at a time like this. Talk to each other frequently about your concerns and about the practical difficulties that you have to take care of in the future. Also this site will give you much support and hope as you and your family read the many recovery journies of our members. The Carers Forum will also give you much needed support. Take care and please keep in touch with us. Subs
  15. Hi and also well done 5 years on. Great to hear how you are adapting your life around the SAH issues and being so positive. Wishing you a long and happy retirement. Subs.
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