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    Sport-(watching rather than participating now)Football, Golf, Athletics

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    Reading-Gardening-Having a latte as often as possible with my wife (she had SAH 5/2011)

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  1. Hello Janet, and thanks or your positive comments about the comments on this thread which have given you so much comfort about your recovery. It is human nature to try and get back to normal following a major trauma, however as you now realise.... with SAH … pressing on in these early days can be even more detrimental to `getting there` . So glad you have accepted that a much reduced working week is your way ahead. It may well be the case that in time you will be able to gradually increase your time at work. Keep taking that long term approach …. you are early days at 2 months. Work and family life do require to fall into pace with you …. and share your feelings with your son and husband who are also still adapting their thought and lives as they see what is happening to mum. So glad your employer is accommodating too. Non of us, sufferers and Carers alike probably knew anything about `SAH` before it hit us so dramatically... and perhaps even cruelly …. those you meet need you to share what it is like with them and if they are genuine in their concern... they will be there for you. Take care … and keep positive through these early months Subs
  2. Thanks for that Greg... hope you are doing well. Subs
  3. Hello Joe … also welcome to BTG. Sorry to hear of the issues and difficult decisions you are facing two years on. You are certainly not alone when it comes to dealing with trying to get back to `work as usual`. Often the reduced quality of life caused by straining to cope with a series of full shift will eventually `force` you to make decisions which you have been trying to put off. In addition to Maccas suggestions I would add that my wife also asked her employer to provide her with much larger screen monitor. This really helped her cope following her reduced eyesight issues. While she did return to her stressful fulltime employment, she eventually reduced her hours and also transferred to less stressful work. Lifestyle and family/ financial commitments can often make this decision very challenging. I do hope you and your partner continue to talk through the realistic options for you both. Subs
  4. SM …. well done 15 years on. Your pragmatic approach has definitely been the right way forward for you. When they dished out determination and grit you definitely received a large portion. You are an inspiration in so many ways, and your health issues have certainly not curtailed your insatiable desire for `another holiday in the sun` ! I just hope Brexit doesn`t cramp your style ….. take heed...Messrs Tusk, Jonker and Barnier Subs
  5. Hello Neil... many thanks for sharing about Cassandra`s progress. Three and a half years .. and you both have been faced with immense challenges and setbacks. What comes through in your post is that there is still so much positivity in your words. I have immense admiration for you both. Those who have been on the recovery journey for many years will reassure you that there is always hope for improvement, notwithstanding the complexity of the obstacles you have already faced. Wishing you both the strength and support you need to continue. Subs
  6. Hello, and also a warm welcome to BTG. So glad you found the site so quickly. You will find great support in the days ahead as you discover that there are members who have been challenged by the hand SAH has dealt them …. and they have related in their posts about how they have tried to move on with their lives. With only 26 days since your bleed, it is so early in your recovery …. and while you say you have recovered ….. few survivors make a complete recovery. With this in mind, early advice is invariably to rest well in the early weeks and months, and don`t rush to return to work and household chores too soon. At present you feel that your feeling of guilt is your only concern, however fatigue, headaches and emotional upsets are often apparent in these early days. You are right to feel upset about what your family have witnessed. Being told you may not survive was so difficult for them to cope with at the time. They will have felt so helpless. And now you have survived … they too have emotions that are `all over the place`. For you …. as Macca mentioned... SAH can damage the emotional area of the brain, and control of emotions might not be quite as it was before. For many, time is a great healer. Reading the various threads on this site will help give you a wider understanding of SAH recovery, and your partner and family would also benefit. Being positive will be a great help, and talk regularly with your family and friends about how you are feeling. Don`t hesitate to make contact with your consultant. I too wish you well as you navigate your life post SAH. Please continue to share your progress. Subs
  7. Hello Clive …. also thank you for sharing how you have fared post SAH. You gave a return to full employment your best shot, and well done for trying, and also accepting that continuing full time was not in your health`s best interests. Glad you are positive about how you are moving on, and are enjoying your `retirement`. Having lived with Mrs Sub`s recovery for almost eight years now, I can tell you that even at this stage I am still witnessing these small improvements which maybe others don`t see. Keep up that positive attitude even when SAH has left life frustrating …. and you are right …. later in life we all begin to feel less able to remember …. and our tolerance levels have their moments !! Take care and keep on going Subs
  8. Thanks for sharing now that you are one year post SAH. Great to hear that you are positively facing the challenges before you and you can be confident that your medics will assess these results and offer you the best advice on the treatment required Well done for challenging your brain with these games. One year is the first milestone on your journey and time does bring progress in your healing. The next two months will be an anxious time for you and I wish you every strength to face these procedures. Subs
  9. Hello Ruth … and also a warm welcome to BTG. While we do not give medical advice, there is so much helpful information within this site for you to consider. Knowing that you are not alone is a tremendous encouragement in itself. To help you in your quest for information.. please key `perimesencephalic` in the search box at the top right hand corner of the Home Page and you will find many threads of interest. You mention returning to work in your busy employment. This is always a challenge for everyone. It is so important that you stay within the realms of what your brain and body allow. No doubt you have found out the consequences of pushing yourself too soon and too hard. How are you finding work at this point ? Always rest well and keep yourself hydrated by drinking plenty water. Others will share their experiences with you … and please continue to share any doubts and concerns you have with your recovery. I hope you have good support from your family, friends and work colleagues. The road to recovery is different for everyone and those around you do not always appreciate the seriousness of what has happened to you. Subs
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    Hello Lorna ,,, and also a warm welcome to BTG. As Daffodil says, you will find much help from reading the various forum threads. Rebuilding your life after SAH definitely takes time. While it is great to have a positive attitude when recovering from an illness or accident …. SAH recovery also means accepting that your damaged brain needs time to repair. Pushing too hard to reach goals can have a real detrimental effect on your recovery and indeed you are likely to suffer disappointing set-backs such as increased fatigue, headaches and a general sense of frustration and yes anxiety. Always keep well hydrated by drinking water often. It is important that you set realistic aims as you return to work. Much depends on the nature of your work, however a phased return where you work reduced hours and reduced days in your working week will allow you to gauge how your brain and body are coping. Please don`t push yourself too hard to impress. Be open with your colleagues about your SAH trauma as few understand how hard it is for you to make a return to work. No doubt your anxieties are impacting on your family and personal friendships. What form of support do you have as you recover ? I wish you well in your efforts to rebuild your life and please continue to share your progress with the members of BTG. Subs
  11. Hello Colleen Many thanks for keeping in touch at BTG and a BIG well done on ten years post SAH. A great milestone. Hope your recent anxiety attack was only a `blip` on the road, and best wishes as you continue on the journey. You enjoyed your dog Annie`s presence all these years ago..... how is your latest 4 legged friend settling down one year on? Best wishes in the days ahead and continue to keep in touch. Subs
  12. Hello Julian, and many thanks for getting in touch four years post your bleed. Great to hear that you continue to do well. Best wishes for you and your family . Subs
  13. Hello Pat, and also congratulations two years post SAH. You sound as if you have adjusted your life to cope with the effects of your SAH and well done for your positive attitude. Thank you for your kind comments about BTG and it`s members. It is encouraging to know that the site has played a part in your recovery journey. Subs
  14. Hello DeeDee and a warm welcome to BTG. Thank you for posting. While we offer no medical advice, you will find much support from the information within the various forums, and I am sure others will share their experiences of the many highs and lows of life post SAH. As the years pass, it can be challenging to diagnose what symptoms are a result of SAH and what is simply due to ageing and lifestyle. Please feel free to share in the Introduce Yourself section, about how SAH has affected you from the initial trauma of seven years ago. Also pay a visit to the Green Room where members share in daily `light` banter about whatever is on their minds Subs
  15. Hello and also a warm welcome to BTG. So sorry to hear that your husband recently suffered from a SAH. While we do not provide medical advice, you will find much help and support from the members of BTG and from reading the personal recovery experiences within the various Forums. It is very early in your husband`s recovery and during those first few weeks and months, the extent of any post SAH issues start to become apparent. This will depend on the severity and positioning of the bleed. As you read the Forums you will discover that there are other side effects such as fatigue, memory loss, personality issues and low tolerance threshold. Please be aware that should he display some of these, time and patience are so important to ensure a best outcome. SAH recovery is likely to have many challenges and few survivors make a complete recovery. You mention headaches, and by coincidence, the Forum below this one has a current discussion on the subject which I am sure you will find helpful. http://web.behindthegray.net/topic/7185-headaches-and-nasah/?tab=comments#comment-129762 Please ensure that you also have plenty rest and support as you take care of your husband in these early months Subs
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