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    Sport-(watching rather than participating now)Football, Golf, Athletics

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    Reading-Gardening-Having a latte as often as possible with my wife (she had SAH 5/2011)

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  1. subzero


    Hello, and also a warm welcome to BTG. So glad you found the site so quickly. You will find great support in the days ahead as you discover that there are members who have been challenged by the hand SAH has dealt them …. and they have related in their posts about how they have tried to move on with their lives. With only 26 days since your bleed, it is so early in your recovery …. and while you say you have recovered ….. few survivors make a complete recovery. With this in mind, early advice is invariably to rest well in the early weeks and months, and don`t rush to return to work and household chores too soon. At present you feel that your feeling of guilt is your only concern, however fatigue, headaches and emotional upsets are often apparent in these early days. You are right to feel upset about what your family have witnessed. Being told you may not survive was so difficult for them to cope with at the time. They will have felt so helpless. And now you have survived … they too have emotions that are `all over the place`. For you …. as Macca mentioned... SAH can damage the emotional area of the brain, and control of emotions might not be quite as it was before. For many, time is a great healer. Reading the various threads on this site will help give you a wider understanding of SAH recovery, and your partner and family would also benefit. Being positive will be a great help, and talk regularly with your family and friends about how you are feeling. Don`t hesitate to make contact with your consultant. I too wish you well as you navigate your life post SAH. Please continue to share your progress. Subs
  2. subzero

    Clive - Four and a bit years on...

    Hello Clive …. also thank you for sharing how you have fared post SAH. You gave a return to full employment your best shot, and well done for trying, and also accepting that continuing full time was not in your health`s best interests. Glad you are positive about how you are moving on, and are enjoying your `retirement`. Having lived with Mrs Sub`s recovery for almost eight years now, I can tell you that even at this stage I am still witnessing these small improvements which maybe others don`t see. Keep up that positive attitude even when SAH has left life frustrating …. and you are right …. later in life we all begin to feel less able to remember …. and our tolerance levels have their moments !! Take care and keep on going Subs
  3. subzero

    One year today

    Thanks for sharing now that you are one year post SAH. Great to hear that you are positively facing the challenges before you and you can be confident that your medics will assess these results and offer you the best advice on the treatment required Well done for challenging your brain with these games. One year is the first milestone on your journey and time does bring progress in your healing. The next two months will be an anxious time for you and I wish you every strength to face these procedures. Subs
  4. Hello Ruth … and also a warm welcome to BTG. While we do not give medical advice, there is so much helpful information within this site for you to consider. Knowing that you are not alone is a tremendous encouragement in itself. To help you in your quest for information.. please key `perimesencephalic` in the search box at the top right hand corner of the Home Page and you will find many threads of interest. You mention returning to work in your busy employment. This is always a challenge for everyone. It is so important that you stay within the realms of what your brain and body allow. No doubt you have found out the consequences of pushing yourself too soon and too hard. How are you finding work at this point ? Always rest well and keep yourself hydrated by drinking plenty water. Others will share their experiences with you … and please continue to share any doubts and concerns you have with your recovery. I hope you have good support from your family, friends and work colleagues. The road to recovery is different for everyone and those around you do not always appreciate the seriousness of what has happened to you. Subs
  5. subzero


    Hello Lorna ,,, and also a warm welcome to BTG. As Daffodil says, you will find much help from reading the various forum threads. Rebuilding your life after SAH definitely takes time. While it is great to have a positive attitude when recovering from an illness or accident …. SAH recovery also means accepting that your damaged brain needs time to repair. Pushing too hard to reach goals can have a real detrimental effect on your recovery and indeed you are likely to suffer disappointing set-backs such as increased fatigue, headaches and a general sense of frustration and yes anxiety. Always keep well hydrated by drinking water often. It is important that you set realistic aims as you return to work. Much depends on the nature of your work, however a phased return where you work reduced hours and reduced days in your working week will allow you to gauge how your brain and body are coping. Please don`t push yourself too hard to impress. Be open with your colleagues about your SAH trauma as few understand how hard it is for you to make a return to work. No doubt your anxieties are impacting on your family and personal friendships. What form of support do you have as you recover ? I wish you well in your efforts to rebuild your life and please continue to share your progress with the members of BTG. Subs
  6. subzero

    Ten Years Today

    Hello Colleen Many thanks for keeping in touch at BTG and a BIG well done on ten years post SAH. A great milestone. Hope your recent anxiety attack was only a `blip` on the road, and best wishes as you continue on the journey. You enjoyed your dog Annie`s presence all these years ago..... how is your latest 4 legged friend settling down one year on? Best wishes in the days ahead and continue to keep in touch. Subs
  7. Hello Julian, and many thanks for getting in touch four years post your bleed. Great to hear that you continue to do well. Best wishes for you and your family . Subs
  8. subzero

    2 years today

    Hello Pat, and also congratulations two years post SAH. You sound as if you have adjusted your life to cope with the effects of your SAH and well done for your positive attitude. Thank you for your kind comments about BTG and it`s members. It is encouraging to know that the site has played a part in your recovery journey. Subs
  9. Hello DeeDee and a warm welcome to BTG. Thank you for posting. While we offer no medical advice, you will find much support from the information within the various forums, and I am sure others will share their experiences of the many highs and lows of life post SAH. As the years pass, it can be challenging to diagnose what symptoms are a result of SAH and what is simply due to ageing and lifestyle. Please feel free to share in the Introduce Yourself section, about how SAH has affected you from the initial trauma of seven years ago. Also pay a visit to the Green Room where members share in daily `light` banter about whatever is on their minds Subs
  10. subzero

    Headaches after SAH

    Hello and also a warm welcome to BTG. So sorry to hear that your husband recently suffered from a SAH. While we do not provide medical advice, you will find much help and support from the members of BTG and from reading the personal recovery experiences within the various Forums. It is very early in your husband`s recovery and during those first few weeks and months, the extent of any post SAH issues start to become apparent. This will depend on the severity and positioning of the bleed. As you read the Forums you will discover that there are other side effects such as fatigue, memory loss, personality issues and low tolerance threshold. Please be aware that should he display some of these, time and patience are so important to ensure a best outcome. SAH recovery is likely to have many challenges and few survivors make a complete recovery. You mention headaches, and by coincidence, the Forum below this one has a current discussion on the subject which I am sure you will find helpful. http://web.behindthegray.net/topic/7185-headaches-and-nasah/?tab=comments#comment-129762 Please ensure that you also have plenty rest and support as you take care of your husband in these early months Subs
  11. subzero

    Headaches and NASAH

    Hello Charlie Sorry to hear that these headaches are giving you no relief. As already mentioned in your earlier thread, there are many members who suffer headaches of varying degrees of severity and length post SAH and NASAH. Are you keeping well hydrated with plenty of water, and are you resting well throughout your day? Don`t ask too much of your brain and body in these early days. The following link gives you access to many comments on how others have dealt with constant headaches. I hope some of the content will be of help to you. http://web.behindthegray.net/search/?&q=headaches&search_and_or=or Take care. Subs
  12. Good morning Joe, and a warm welcome to BTG. You are in good company here, and while we do not give medical advice, you will benefit from the wealth of information within the various forums. Reading the experiences of how our many members have faced their SAH recovery challenges will be invaluable to you in understanding how to deal with your own recovery. Sorry to learn that your SAH was caused by an accident. The many issues you have mentioned are common to post SAH survivors. The severity and location of your bleed will obviously play a part in the extent and speed of any improvement. You are young and your age could well be a help and a hindrance. It is understandable that you want to focus on getting back to where you were before the accident. You would naturally expect to recover quicker. Had your injury been a broken leg or arm, this would have been the case, however your damaged brain does not recover in this way. The harder you try in these early weeks and months the more frustrating recovery can be and these headaches, fatigue, memory issues and lack of self control will all become more prominent. Leading to longer set-backs and disappointment and yes perhaps even depression. How quickly did you return to work and did you phase your return over a realistic period while being flexible if things were getting tough for you? During the first year post SAH, having patience and getting plenty rest are so essential to your progress. Your brain and body need that healing time. Did you have Occupational Health support from our employer? Did you discuss your situation with your colleagues. So often it can be the case that because you look ok to them, they are totally unaware of the major issues going on within your head as you deal with the pressures of work both physically and mentally. Getting them on your side can make a great difference. For example ask them to tell you when they feel you are showing signs of frustration at your work. Keeping well hydrated and taking that time to rest when you feel you are putting too many demands on your brain and body … these are so important. Do you have a good support from family and friends? Sharing your anxieties and fears with them will also help. I am sure other members will share their thoughts with you. Please take time to delve into the various forums and also look in to the Green Room for some light hearted banter on things other than SAH. It helps put everything in perspective when you know you are not alone in your challenges. Take care, and don`t think of giving up. The more you understand about SAH the better your chances of dealing with it positively. Have the courage to accept that some things will take time, and other issues may require you to accept them and adapt your circumstances accordingly. Subs
  13. subzero

    My experience - Mandy

    Hello Mandy and a warm welcome to BTG. While we do not provide any medical advice you will find much support as you read the various experiences of our members who share their personal recoveries. This link will help you find those that relate specifically to an SAH caused by an accident. http://web.behindthegray.net/search/?&q=accident&page=3&search_and_or=or So sorry to learn of your involvement In the serious car crash that caused your SAH. Trauma to the brain results in many and varied after effects. You have listed several. Changes in emotion, mood swings and fatigue are common to survivors. Many of our members do make progress although every situation is unique. When your doctor states that the damage in your case is irreversible, perhaps you can talk to him about the reasons behind this rather `final` diagnosis. How long is it since you had the accident? Have you seen any positive changes since you were discharged? Please talk about your feelings and concerns with your partner and friends We look forward to hearing more from you. Subs
  14. Hello Valene. You mention your sight difficulties. Mrs Subs had reduced vision when she was discharged five weeks following her SAH. She was advised to visit her optician to have her eyesight professionally checked. The optician was able to see blood in her eyes (caused by her SAH) and made an immediate referral to the hospital Eye Clinic. This was a very thorough `One-Stop` clinic where all checks and results were done and results acted upon immediately. It took several hours to complete all the tests and receive the professionals` advice along the way. The outcome was that they felt that her eyesight would improve over say three months and she was asked to return then. Pleased to say that on the return appointment, her eyesight was much improved, and the blood particles had cleared allowing much improved vision. Everyone is unique in the aftermath of SAH but we were delighted to see this improvement in her case. Hope your own vision improves in time. Subs
  15. subzero

    1 year today!

    Hello Clare and also well done one year post SAH. Great to hear you are back at work. Take care and treat yourself kindly. Enjoy your `celebrations` tonight. Subs