Vivien

I agree with the others, you are not at all selfish, just faced with a lot of worry and responsibility. Please keep writing on here to let off steam, we understand Wishing you and Richard all the best. It will get better. Vivien x

Hello Homer and welcome to the site Vivien

I reckon the others are right, you get called an aphasiac ( is that a proper word?) because of the degree of a muddle you get into I also use the wrong words, make words up and suddenly become silent because I cannot think of the word I want to use. This is worse if I am tired or there is a lot going on and I get confused. It isn't a big problem for me so I tend to laugh about it, but sometimes get frustrated not being able to express what I want to get across. Vivien

Hi Michelle, sorry to hear that you are in pain and hope that the neuro sciences guy sorts you out Take Care Vivien x

Hi Bessie I am sure you have made the best decision, you have given it a lot of thought and only want what is best for your mum. Good Luck Vivien x

Welcome to the site Di, glad to hear that you are doing so well Vivien x

Hello Sally and welcome to the site Vivien x

Glad to hear that all is well sounds like Mark is doing really well Vivien x

Hello Blueday and welcome to the site Vivien

Hello Zoe Glad to hear that Rich is progressing Vivien

Hello Caroline I think that we all can empathise with you, I reckon that some of what you are feeling is lack of confidence in how you are now, and frustration at not being able to do the things you used to do. However I am sure there are other ways in which you are a much better person My son got married just over a year after my SAH and I could not decide what to wear on his big day, I got in such a muddle that my husband chose for me in the end! and I look at the wedding photos now and cringe at how I looked but I know that my son and my family were really happy that I was there at all Congratulations on becoming a grandmother soon, it is great Vivien x

Hi John, We all seem to be different, some remember, others don't, I remember bits, but only silly things, like thinking that the doctor looked like Gary Oldman and that the man in the bed next to me was a gypsy king! When asked if I had any questions about the coiling they were about to do I asked if I would beep when I went through an airport security machine I think it is about coming to terms with what happened and accepting it and the person you now are. Which for me is still an ongoing process. Vivien x

Congratulations Luisa My grandson was 2 when I had my SAH and I did find that I could only manage short amounts of time with him, but I enjoyed it just the same and could still give advice and encouragement to my daughter. He makes me feel glad that I am still here to see him growing up

Hello Jen and Welcome to this very helpful site Vivien

Hello Angela and welcome to the site Sounds like you are both doing well after such a traumatic time. Vivien x

Hello and congrats on your 2nd anni-versary Caz Enjoy your years of fun! Vivien x

Hi John Really pleased to hear that you got your apologies and also have no worries about having to be recoiled Glad that your worrying year is at an end Vivien

Welcome Lynz Wow! you must be so proud of your daughter. Glad to hear that you have found this site. Vivien x

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Good news Caz pleased to hear it Vivien x

Hi Momo, sorry to hear that you are feeling so sad, it seems to be pretty common among us SAH survivors. I also had counselling to help me come to terms with the person I am now and to stop comparing myself with the person I was.I also found that I couldn't really talk to friends and family, mainly because they just kept saying how well I was doing! when inside I felt terrible and couldn't explain. Nearly 3 years since my SAH I feel much better, I laugh at myself when I forget things or get in a muddle and am happy to be here. I am the opposite from you in that I like looking at photographs they help me remember and now I take my own and they are a record for me to look at. I also love family gatherings because I am just happy to still be here to enjoy them. ( Although I find too many people a bit overwhelming and limit the time I am there ) I hope that you feel better soon and a bit of crumbling is ok Vivien x

Hello and welcome to the site Missy I can only echo what the others have said, get rest when you need it, oh and drink lots of water! Vivien x

Hello I am also still a smoker although I recently gave up for two weeks then started again! I only smoke 3 to 5 a day though. I think the DVLA get in touch with your doctors then write and inform you when you can drive again. Welcome to the site Vivien x

Hello Graham and welcome to the site When you are ready perhaps you can tell us more about why you are confused and angry. I do get confused and muddled and I suppose I do get angry with myself for not remembering stuff, losing things, and not being able to take in much new information. However after nearly 3 years, some counselling and this site, I am now more able to accept these things and even laugh about it at times. I think now it is more frustration at not being able to do as much as I want to do. The positives are that I am much more mellow and actually enjoy my life more, I have taken up photography which helps in a few ways. I can look at my photos and that helps me to remember people and events, I see things differently post SAH and look in wonder at trees, skylines etc, so take photos of these things, I am also learning a new skill, albeit very slowly! Take Care of yourself Vivien

Hello John, I remember only bits of being in hospital and thought the whole thing was a real hoot! I was laughing a lot and kept sitting up when I was supposed to be lying flat. I could not understand why all my family and friends were there and why they kept giving me hugs It took about 3 months after my SAH for me to realise what had happened and how serious it was. I then went for counselling which was a great help along with this forum. Vivien x