ninja Posted July 28, 2011 Share Posted July 28, 2011 Hi All I'm back to an old subject of mine regarding "friends". I am now 5 years post coiling and am awaiting another scan next month and may need more coiling. Throughout this period I have been amazed as to the attitude of some people including so called good friends. During the period just after coiling I was deserted by many because I did not want to go out or when out I wanted to go home as I was exhausted. Many people became bored with this and basically lost patience with me, however I still had good friends who supported me. My problem is now that I am 5 years on even these "friends" are becoming distant. About 2 months ago I caught a virus as did my wife and at the time we were due to go to a 60th birthday party, we felt too ill to go and told the friend that we were sorry, handed over a £23 bottle of whisky and left. Since then they have become distant, have not been in contact with us nor really thanked us for the gift. At the time my GP had told me that due to me having an aneurysm many ailments I would get would be worse due to this I believe they probably heard we were shopping in town and therefore could have gone to the party both I and my GP knew this was impossible. A second instance arose when I saw a good friend in town when I was using a walking stick due to arthritis and my balance being affected again due to my aneurysm, He said "Come on John throw away that ****** stick you don't need it you look fine", probably said as a joke but nevertheless it hurts. I believe that the public in general should be made more aware of the effects of a SAH on a person as they are regarding strokes which at the moment are subject to an advertising campaign on TV. I do carry a card with me to explain to people the possible side effects I am experiencing but is impractical to show it to all those who do not understand. Sorry for this rant but its a subject I feel very strongly about and I really feel there should be more publicity widely available as I feel I am slowly becoming an outcast through no fault of my own. I do accept I am a miserable, depressing and sometimes an aggressive old *** but it really is not of my choosing. Cheers All John :frown: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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