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    60 yrs old. Two grown up sons, three grandchildren, two boys and a girl. Got married in September 12 to Sandra. Played for Oldham Athletic in early 1970s. Thankful to have found this site. Visited Hawaii and Pearl Harbor in 2003 to fulfil one off my wish list.
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  1. Hey Greasly 23, Guess what? You have a new set of challenges to rise to now, not better or worse, just different. 1) Is to start looking at things in a more positive light - it's amazing what impetus a different outlook can give you 2) Is to start doing things and being proactive, however small and let people see you are trying. If they see you do this they should be more willing to start helping you themselves 3) Is to start getting better - doing things will help this. You've just fallen back a bit, now you must start climbing again. 4) Is to do a little tidying up and then sit down again - then do a little more. 5) Is to lay down some ground rules for the others in your house to chip in and do a bit - you can't do it all on your own anymore. 6) Is to get some dietary advice from your doctor and stick to it and try a little exercise - even if it is only going for a short walk in the beginning - even if it is with a stick or on a treadmill if you have one - do something. You are only 20 months out. I was over 24 months out before I could do a thing. Yes it is frustrating but I started to do little things and the little things became bigger things, and then bigger things still. On Saturday I am nine years out, but I am still not what I was but my quality of life is good. My outlook is positive and yours can be too, with a little grit and determination. Life is worth living and the rewards within myself are huge. I have seen my kids embark on their lives, my grandchildren grow up and I hope to see them married and in good jobs in due course too! Life changes - it's how you deal with it that counts! Remember the song ....."I get knocked down but I get up again"....? Keep digging in and making others astounded at your progress. Good luck Greasly 23, I really mean that. Listen to what Skippy says re therapy - it really can help to get you on that recovery route. One last thing - when you get frustrated - feel free to rant - it's why we are here - we've lived the nightmare too - but we all woke up to overcome it, Best wishes, Macca
  2. Hey Andrea, Well done on getting to this milestone! All we can all do is carry on, but we have to adapt. Change happens - all we can do is help you adapt to deal with it in the best way you can. The way I'd look at it about your Mum is that she was there and helped get you on the right road to recovery, even though she was battling her own issues. What a lady!! And you were privileged enough to have her as your Mum! What better legacy can there be than that? Your battle probably inspired her to go on for as long as she could - that's what I call an inspirational lady. You? Well you're a chip off the old block! Carry on and enjoy your life as best you can, as your Mum would have wanted. Have a tear now and again but just remember it was your Mum that made it all possible and on those occasions, raise a glass and say 'Thanks Mum.' Here's to year 5 Andrea. May it be a good one for you. Macca
  3. Hi William, Welcome to BTG. Casey raises a good point. Tiredness is usually a factor when this happens. Good rest is as important as good work and play. Also keep hydrated, lack of which seems to be a common contributor to headaches as is well documented on this site.. For sure your doctors are the ones to ask to check things out and provide reassurance. Not everything is linked to SAH but it tends to unfairly get the blame in a lot of cases! However it sounds like your diagnosis has been a bit vague from the way you write about it. So get checked out properly. Short term memory is a common problem but there are ways to combat it, ie by repetition until it becomes a long term memory, writing things down and so on. However, the bottom line is to get yourself to a specialist to check you out. A general practitioner, no disrespect, is not enough - they rarely know enough about brain injuries to give an accurate, or in some cases, the right diagnosis. So go and get checked and let us know how you get on. Better to be safe than sorry. Don't be shy about it, there is a problem you have identified and someone needs to do something about it. Your mission is to get to see the right person that can give you the right tests and information. This is your life we are talking about so don't put it off, get it dealt with, and by the way, well done for opening up about it! Now it can be dealt with! Always here if you want to discuss more - but we can't give medical advice, for a very good reason - we are not qualified - so go and see the people that are - your doctors. Please let us know how you get on. Good man WIlliam! Regards Macca
  4. I think the thing to do I to go to a specialist. No disrespect to your GP, but they are not experts in your condition. Get your doctor to refer you to a specialist. Better to be safe than sorry. Stay hydrated. We can speculate for England but it's best that you get proper advice, which we can't give because we aren't doctors!
  5. Hi Bri, I think the sensible answer is to:- a) get the approval and advice of your doctors, b) start with a walking/jogging machine so that at the first sign of trouble you can sit down and rest and nobody has to come and get you. They know where you are, and you don't have to worry about how to get home! c) make sure someone is with you. It's different for all of us - just take care and don't do too much too soon. Your body will let you know if you have and at first it may seem like two steps forward and one back. Remember that resting properly is as important as the exercise, particularly in the early phases. Any trouble, stop and go back to your medics. Good luck Macca
  6. Michelle, many congratulations on reaching this milestone! Here's to the next five!👌
  7. Hi, I think those comments are a defensive mechanism on their part. They don't know how to handle what has happened to you and so they try to 'normalise' your condition by making light of it. I don't think it is malicious at all. They are frightened by something that has happened to you, that is so close to home, and are worried it might happen to them. So talk to them about it. Bring it up in normal conversation and you normalise it - but with facts and the truth! People are less afraid when they understand it. Keep on talking about it, in little chunks maybe, but keep it near the top of your topic list. As Skippy says, it is a brain injury, not just tiredness. People still talk to me about their memories not being what they used to be when they can't remember where they put their keys or phone. My short term memory is improving and is not nearly as bad as it once was. I am nine years out, nearly! Sometimes not only can I not remember what was said, I can't even remember having the conversation! But I've leaned to live with it now and I write things down if I think I need to remember because it may have some importance! C'est la vie!
  8. Well done Mike, you sound very positive. A lot of the things you describe are what is often considered 'normal.' Maybe it's just you have a heightened awareness of them now because of what happened to you and how you recovered from it. So well done for that. Just get on and keep on enjoying things, bearing in mind that some things are just different to what you may have done before, not better or worse, just different. Change happens to all of us, and at different rates, it's how you deal with it that counts! It sounds like you are doing just great! Good man!.
  9. Hi AMI, You don't say what you do for a living but I have some points in addition to the ones made above which are very valid in my opinion. Your first duty is to yourself, your health and your family. Second, four and a half months out is no time at all in terms of recovery from a brain injury. In fact, you are only just starting. If you overdo it your body will lose no time in telling you. Third, just because you look well, it doesn't mean you are well. A car with no engine in it looks well from the outside. Only when you try to start it up do you realise it's not what it looks like! Fourth, get a letter from your doctor telling you that whilst some work is beneficial to your recovery, too much is directly harmful and may well set you back. Fifth, if your job involves anything that may pose a danger to yourself, your colleagues or the public, then there is a responsibility for you, and the company, not to make mistakes that may endanger them. If your role does that and the company insists on you doing this extra work then they may be held responsible for any mishaps, not you if you have informed the m beforehand of your concerns (so keep a record of that and time and date it). Sixth, if they are already short-staffed, can they really afford to lose another experienced member of staff like you? it is in their interests to keep your skills. If they are to take on new people could you become a trainer for instance - thus putting your skills to good use and giving you day to day involvement, but not directly in the front line? Keep communicating with your colleagues and tell them how you are affected, especially when you are off duty. I suspect from the way you have written that you have not done this in case it shows weakness. It doesn't. In fact, the reverse is true. It shows strength, courage and responsibility. Get your chin up, you are doing remarkably well and have nothing to reproach yourself for? How many of your colleagues could do what you have done in such a short space of time? Being teary, and emotional is a part of your recovery. I remember being like that for quite long periods, but in between there will be periods where you will feel you are making real progress, although it may or may not get back to where you were pre-SAH. However, I would say at this point too, that you can only control what you can control! So, see if you can manage what you do in a better, or at least a different way. Can you delegate, can you take more breaks? Can you organise your time in abetter fashion etc? Good luck, and keep on letting us know how you're getting on. Venting is good, it means you aren't bottling it all up! I wish you well. Macca
  10. Ah Melissa, Fatigue and memory issues (particularly short term memory). these are old favourites of SAH consequences that take a lot of explaining to others, the main problem being that others cannot see the problem therefore they think it doesn't exist! it's like looking at a car, trying to get in and start the engine and then realising it's broken down because there's something wrong with the engine! There is no one easy answer to this. It all takes time, time and more time. it will possibly get better but will not likely recover to its pre-SAH best. I find keeping a diary helps - just bullet points, to help you remember. Take regular breaks, even if only for ten minutes to clear your head, stay hydrated and do what you can - not necessarily what others want you to do. When you feel up to it, sit down with pen and paper and write down the things you do in your job. Consider the following: Can you organise yourself better? Can you organise your job, and individual tasks, better? Ie what you have to do (mandatory), what you could do (necessary but not urgent), what you want to do (luxury, dressing items that would be nice to do but are not essential) Can you delegate anything to others? Can you change the timing of any tasks to when you feel better able to deal with them? (ie in the morning when concentration is best, or when a specialist is in the building that you can ask questions of if needed) Can you make use of a 'dictaphone' to record things you need to do later or remind yourself of? Can you get a PA to help you at all? Not an exhaustive list, but just pointers to help you. As for mood swings they will be helped by feeling more under control of the things that you can influence. Strain comes from things you cannot influence, so concentrate on the former. That is the benefit of what I have just outlined above for you. It might not be the whole answer but I am sure it will help to a degree. Don't bottle things up, talk to people and keep reminding them that though you are improving there are still hurdles to overcome. Keep communicating with people. problems are best nipped in the bud, not when they become too big to handle. what you must guard against at work though is that you don't overdo it to the point where they think you aren't coping at all. What you will demonstrate by doing some of the things I outline is that you are doing your best to help yourself and that you are managing things as well as you can. Managers are always prepared to help those who are seen to be doing their best and are not just waiting for the benefactor's hand to lift them. Good luck! Macca
  11. Hi Kerry, Welcome to BTG. A thunderclap headache is very serious and it should be taken as such. It is dangerous. How do you know you have had one? Well, it's like no other headache you have ever had. It's sudden, it's very severe, sweating and problems with the light affecting your vision are just some of the symptoms I experienced. You demand answers when you get to the hospital, don't just ask for them. Describe your symptoms and hopefully your scan will show what it is. You should have gone to hospital by ambulance, not just up to bed. I am appalled that they were so dismissive of you when what you describe are all classic signs of what we on this site all have survived. You have been very lucky so far but you cannot trust to luck, you need proper assessment and treatment as far as I can see. Make sure you get it. Let us know how you get on.
  12. Hi welcome to BTG. I think the first thing to say is that occupational health is about helping you to help yourself and the company, it isn't about finding an excuse to get rid of you as some people think. They might suggest various things, but ensure your boss who knows you well is an ally in this. Make sure she knows your fears so she can best help you. Also, your new company is showing you some compassion here and responsibility for your welfare. As they have just taken over, it is their business to know what and who their assets are. It may be that they will see you as an asset, just as your current boss does. It is difficult to get people with the right experience and skills that you possess. May be they might see you in a training capacity instead of on the front line. When you see them, make sure you focus on what you can do rather than what you can't. Why don't you invest in your future by paying for a hotel room the night before your interview, so that you arrive in the best condition you can be. It will be money well spent if you present yourself as well as you can instead of stressed and tired from driving and finding somewhere to park. To answer your question, my employer was great and I saw the HR people who also were very good and patient with me. In the end they got a great employee with a lot of experience back, albeit with a few adjustments to working practices. Four years after that I took early retirement at 58. Hope this helps
  13. Hi Kim, Welcome to BTG. If you have questions, ask away, we'll do our best but as has already been said we cannot give medical advice for a very good reason. We aren't qualified, and different things affect people in different ways - OK that's two reasons but you get my drift. There's lots of information already available and by clicking on each thread title on the FORUMS page lots of differing themes will come up for you to explore. However, feel free to ask what you want to and we'll try our best or at least point you in the right direction. Macca
  14. Congratulations Paula, Glad you are doing well and have a positive attitude. I'm just eight and a half years out from my SAH and I have a yearly MOT at the hospital. They've been brilliant with me and I can't thank them enough. Best wishes to you! Macca
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