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nessie a stunning speech and very touching having been down big time and not being social you have pulled me out big time i have shown your speech to lin who seemed to watch it intently until you finished and she got noisy so i played it again and again and lin cant get enough of watching you congratulations on such a stunning acheivement and looking so confident and so pretty no stunning on stage hubby must be so proud of you as a brit would say wow you knocked them into the isles girl hugs and cuddles sweetheart

hi momo i will answer this privately if you dont mind

hi bessie im sorry about mum's bloodshot eye it could be non related to the sah blood vessels seem to have their own life one thing i did notice with lin who suffered very bloodshot eye on the side of the sah her right eye i did ask the dr to investigate he passed it on the opticion who checked lins right eye it turned out lin wasnt producing enough tears in her eye causeing fricton and causing blood shot eye they precribed lacrelube artificual tears which is on precription which has cured the problem big time and lin has benifited very well so have a chat to the dr and if he cant help get an opticion to have a look at mum take care

no it dosn't sweetheart it is part of the healing process and dont fight the tears its normal over time you will find that the tears wont flow as much but you will always feel that little pull it no wonder as you have gone through the most traumatic time and had no control over events and possiblity of no memory of when you came too after the op so let them flow and hopefully you will be able to talk about it without to much sadness take care

hi sweetheart i sorry that you are going through the mill with epilepsy it takes time to get the dose sorted before you become free of them it is a very slow progress and so dammed frustrating for you hopefully you will get answers to as and why it may not be because of the wrapped ani it could be something else which can be sorted quite easily i hope so dont stay away thats what we are here for so dont go and hide come on and have a moan because most of us have been there just take care massive hugs and cuddles

if you want any of you can put me in your pocket as a friend and when your down you can pull me out and smile at my cheeky face and you can moan at me and i wont answer back just have that cheeky face smiling at you with all the love you need chin up girls

oh jen !!!!!!!!!!!!!! you naughty girl smacked bum for you but as it made you feel that good well done he he

whatever you do sweetheart just be carefull i wouldnt want to hear you have been hurt or you have hurt someone whilst you were driving take advice and see how the absences progress or stop i know its hard

the normal systolic b/p is roughly 100 plus your age heart on pumping and the dystolic bp in a healthy person is normally 60-70 hence normal perameters as the heart is resting the dyastolic is safe to 85 but any higher is cause of concern lins was 200/110 right after bleed then slowley reduced it is now 120/65 i know lins bp went through the roof when it happened hope this helps

hi michelle im sorry that they have told you not to drive but you have every right to ask for a second opinion and if poss take someone with you who ask write down the questions and answers dont lose hope just yet there is light at the end of the tunnel the absenses will fade in time hopfully but you could ask what the eeg showed good luck

hi girls it seems to be a common thing after head injuries the dr will sort it out what worries me if you are driving and you have an absence you can travel quite a distance and i hate to see any of you getting hurt i do know people who have or suffered from epilepsy then gone onto absences lasting up to a couple of minutes the condition can be sorted out very quickly i just hope they can help you all

morning michelle its very easy for the hospital to diagnose epilepsy by doing an eeg which is a test which is non evasive they can put sensors onto you scalp with glue and moniter you during a test which include flashing lights like a strobe only then can a claim be for epilepsy be diagnosed im not sure what is wrong but having absenses can be explained by the nuerologist so dont dispair just yet you may have to lose your lincense for a little while or try not to drive untill you have been checked out please . do you have abcenses at certain times or are they ramdom times you can always give me a ring any time take care and look after yourself hugs and cuddles

hi rog im sorry i havent answered you earlier but bt decided to do an upgrade and it took me and everyone else in the area off line untill just now i will pm you my number it will be a mobile but i can give you my landline for evenings have you had a talk with the wife and discussed what happened and how you feel i got most of my feelings out on here and it helped the feelings will continue and if you could locate a headway group near youi i think it would help both of you you can always ring me or text me anytime just hold in there it does get better but not untill the scan has been carried out then you will know what is what take care

hi bessie im pleased mum doing ok im sorry she is having problems i think you should ring the gp and ask for a home visit just to put your mind to rest i would also ask him to chase up the hospital in regard to the follow up i shouldn't think there is a problem but the gp could put your mind to rest i don't think mum should wait for two weeks that is what they are there for good luck

fantastic new zoe i know how he feels about having a pee :lol: great news about the builders coming in Richard is certainly getting his monies worth i thought three annies was being greedy but to find a couple more must have been a shock but hopefully not a problem i really hope richard will soon be back to his self soon would love to pop up and see you both if thats ok if you could let me know if thats ok would be after 4pm just let me know if ok take care sweetheart wish richard well for me

anna words cannot say what i feel just do what you can sweetheart as others have said just wish i could give you such a massive hug and cuddle remember the good times hugs and cuddles darling

Karen thanks for the comments but im just me joe blogs who has had his heart squeezed so hard and it hurts but if i can stopped what happened to me happening to anyone else i will and finding this site has stopped me doing something silly and everyone on here past and present should take the credit because without your support i would have gone off the rails big time thank you

anna DON'T you dare give up if mums made it this far there is hope lins was a class 5+ bleed and they were all so condemning and not very helpful to me but they gave lin all the help she needed lin had many ups and down and believe me i nearly lost her time and time again but if they start to reduce the sedation they will have more of an idea how mums going to react so in a way its good news and mum may have an infection from the bleed in her lungs this way they can work on getting the flem up and out of her lungs they will watch mum so closely she wont have a chance to play up it will also help mum recover from the op as hard as this is you have to talk to mum as normal try and be upbeat but if the tears fall so be it because mum can still hear everything thats going on in and on the ward and that is a promise because the hearing is the last thing to go in any accident or illness hold her hand brush her hair or even tickle her feet to see if you get a reaction i did th nurses and staff on the miu were supportive in everything i did to stimulate lin im sorry that dad is not coping he needs to talk to the Chaplin at the hospital and if he wants he can call me i fell apart until lin opened her eyes 3 weeks into recovery then i knew she was still with me and since then i have been fighting for her so what if mum comes home in a wheelchair who says its going to be long term you will have mum back although maybe a different mum but still mum my phone is on 24/7 anytime if dad can stop the booze it might help him anna im with you all the way and if necessary i will come down and smack your bottom one day at a time sweetheart thats all anyone can say take care hugs and cuddles from both lin and me ps anna they may think of giving mum a traciostomy this is a tube in the neck which is a simple thing and takes the discomfort from having the tube down her throat and mum will look better it will also help get any Flem off the chest its sometimes only in for a short while but believe me that would help mum so much and when they take it out nine times out of ten you wouldn't know mums had one take care

hi Sandi i cant really help with the dreams but many on here have said in the past that the dreams they have been having are very vivid and worrying, one thing you have said is that you are tense and a little worried about work i think this may also be triggering your dreams i reckon hubby should put his hand in his pocket and get you to a pamper shop so you can get a massage and become stress free or give you a huge box of chocolates and massage you until you fall asleep:oops: in the bath good luck

hi Lauren at first i didn't cope, i fell to pieces when lin collapsed. yes i treated her when she did collapse until the ambulance rapid response turned up, then fell apart the time it took for the ambulance to turn up, then to be told that she was being flown to hospital. i went on auto pilot until she was lifted into the helicopter for the flight, then fell apart again. i was driven to the hospital, a journey i couldn't remember. i remember walking into resuss and being told no one else would touch her operation wise. i remember being taken home numb even though ive treated many people in my career some which affected me, but never like this. lin was my world, she didn't deserve this. when we were together it was like being in a glass tube there were no lies, no hidden agenda and when we held each other we melted into one. i had never felt like that in my entire life. i was at the hospital at 5 am the day after surgery, i didn't want to lose lin. even went i went to the chapel at the hospital, i felt very alone i felt as i walked into the chapel like i was inside the wall of death at a fairground and the walls were so high and there was no exit or door to get out i have never felt so desolate or alone it was horrible to the extreme. i never ever want to feel like that again. i have been lucky enough to spend every day with lin, looking for the smallest bit of either movement of something, to let me know lin was still with me. some times i got something but long stretches without. i went out and brought lin new clothes and nightwear and toiletries. i had made my mind up that lin was still with me because she wasn't finished with me and that she loved me as much as i loved her. there were times that i would end it if lin left me. some of the friends we had, have gone by the way, but others have stuck to us, which has given me strength and energy to carry on. hoping for more even now 2 and a half years down the line. i still love her as much if not more than before. all i can think is to be with lin and stimulate her as much as possible because that is my choice, because lin is my world without her there is nothing.

Karen go back to your gp it is quite possible that keppra does not suit you there are other anti epileptic drugs which you can take yes they cant take time and there can be side effects no dr will think you paranoid after such an episode seek your dr out try not to fret go and talk to him take care

anna take a cd player in and mums favorite tunes dont forget ear pieces so she can listen to music when your not there make sure you get some rest because you are not going to be able to help if you are tired and not on the ball talk to her i have pmd you anytime take care

anna yes i know how you feel, don't you dare give up. i will pm you. ring any time. i felt like you are now, over two years ago, when i went through what you are now. its early days, the news you have given is positive, but its early days... don't write off uni just yet. mum is in a super hopsital as many on here will testify, just take one day at a time please sweetheart.

zoe if i remember correctly they are like an reinforcing tube with little holes in if they slide them in it protects the weak areas and shields the anni from letting go so Richard can get on with recovery and improvement of hi mobility hope this helps

hi Amelia welcome to behind the gray im sorry about mum and yes i know how you feel been there and my thoughts are with you its still early trying to come to terms with mums passing you will never forget or lose the pain you feel now but the sharpness will fade over time but mum will always be with you in kind remember the good times and smile at the silly things you did together with the history you have given you should go to your gp and ask for a scan to put your mind at rest as your only 19 nothing may show up but if the gp is aware of your history he may very well put you on an observation watch so over time he can recall you for a check up scan if he can refer you to a neurosurgeon even better there may be nothing to worry about but your peace of mind is paramount i hope you enjoy the site and if you have any questions don't hesitate to ask we are here for you take care hugs and cuddles